7 razões reais para ter saudades do seu ex

Não és louca por teres saudades dele, quer ele fosse um psicopata total ou um tipo simpático, ou apenas porque o sexo era bom.

One way or another, he was a part of your life and now he’s gone. Of course you’re going to feel something.

So missing him is totally normal and excusable. You’re not alone, by the way. It’s in every human’s nature to feel that way after a relationship has ended.

Those who continue partying after they’ve gotten out of a relationship and swear they are okay, are, of course, lying.

But that’s a story for another time.

Sabe quando, de repente, esquecemos todas as coisas más que passámos numa relação depois da separação?

It’s fascinating how those bad memories fade away so quickly and the good ones force their way to you.

It’s like your own mind is playing tricks on you and tries to make you feel guilty that the two of you broke up.

Se pensarmos bem, sentir saudades do nosso ex é uma partida clássica que a nossa mente nos prega.

As much as I want to believe that to be totally true, that my mind is just playing with me and it’s going to go away sooner or later, there are still other reasons why you miss your ex—like true, legit reasons.

1. You’re still single

Já ouviram falar de um ressalto? Bem, sugiro-lhe vivamente que o experimente. Solta-te e sai com alguém que te ajude a esquecer.

You actually need a man right now to kick your ex out of your mind. You need to get rid of him. The sooner you do it, the sooner you’re going to forget about him.

Quando acabamos solteiros depois de uma relação, temos de encarar que temos muito tempo livre e, francamente, não fazemos ideia do que fazer com esse tempo.

So, what I actually think is that one of the reasons why you’re still thinking about him is because, well… you’re bored.

Precisas de uma distração disfarçada de um belo pedaço de rabo quente. Aceita o meu conselho e distrai-te!

2. Terminou as coisas recentemente

Bem, acredites ou não, é preciso tempo para pôr as emoções em ordem. Nada acontece de um dia para o outro e, no fundo, sabemos isso mas recusamo-nos a aceitá-lo.

We don’t have an on and off switch to press whenever we don’t like what we’re feeling. Emotions don’t work that way.

We can’t change that, we can’t control our emotions. And whether you like it or not, you’re going to miss him for as long as your heart is still hung up on him.

But don’t panic, let some time pass by and he’ll be further and further in the past. Eventually, you’ll forget about him altogether.

3. Notas e textos de bom dia

As I’ve already said, whatever this guy did to you and no matter how pissed off you are at him, there are still some good things about him that you miss.

Talvez ele costumava deixar-te pequenas notas ou enviar-te mensagens de texto que ele sentiu a tua falta out of the blue. It would be cool to keep that, wouldn’t it?

There is one thing you aren’t probably aware of, though. You’re not missing him per se, you’re missing the attention you were getting.

Sente falta de alguém que pense em si e lhe mostre que é importante.

That’s why I strongly suggest you go through with the first point and find a rebound.

You’ll see that you don’t care about who sent the text ‘I miss you’. It’s just important for you to get it.

4. You’re obsessing over what went wrong

Again, you’re not alone in this. It’s no wonder you’re trying to figure out what happened between the two of you and why it ended.

Talvez penses que a culpa foi toda tua. Notícia de última hora! São precisas duas pessoas para estragar uma relação, ou, nalguns casos, um homem muito demente e emocionalmente incapacitado.

Whatever the case may be, it’s not your fault, or not only your fault.

So, as long as you keep torturing yourself with trying to turn back time, you won’t be able to let him go and move on.

5. Está impressionado com a família dele

This sometimes can also be at stake. His mom is a badass and you really love her. Now that you’re no longer together, you miss having her around.

In this case, my friend, you’re missing his family and not him, which is kind of reasonable.

Quando acabamos com um homem, acabamos também com a família dele.

Maybe he was an ass but his family weren’t and now you’re faced with losing people who liked you and you liked them back.

That is a hard blow to take. Therefore, it’s normal you’re missing the main link that tied you together—your ex.

6. O sexo era de outro mundo

There is no need to say out loud that it’s so freakin’ hard to find a man who will satisfy you both emotionally and physically but there, I had to say it.

If he was a selfish lover and having sex with him was just a part of the relationship routine, of course, you won’t miss him.

Infelizmente, neste caso, o sexo foi alucinante e, na verdade, o que lamenta não é perdê-lo, mas sim perder o seu ‘thing’. It was a good ‘thing’ wasn’t it?

Well, at this point, all you can do is move on and I’m sure there will appear another man who will know how to satisfy you in every way possible.

7. Perde o contacto

Todos sentimos falta do toque humano. Quer se queira admitir ou não, todos nós fomos concebidos para desejar atenção e toque físico.

We are not able to go through life completely alone and even the ones who are alone and don’t want to admit they are miserable face that crisis from time to time.

So, you see, it’s perfectly normal to miss the man who snuggled with you, who cuddled like there’s no tomorrow.

It’s normal to miss the human touch but that doesn’t necessarily mean that you miss him.

The bottom line is, even if he was a total jerk it’s still normal to miss him and I mean miss him for true, legit reasons.

Missing him even though you know you shouldn’t doesn’t mean you’ve lost it. Everybody goes through the same thing as you, they are just too ashamed to admit it.