7 Sinais precoces de que o rapaz com quem andas a sair não é quem ele diz ser

Começou recentemente a sair com um homem que, à primeira vista, parece ser o espécime masculino perfeito, mas quando olha para ele de perto, algo cheira definitivamente um pouco mal?

Generally, you really like this dude, and you totally want to keep seeing him, but there’s a little voice inside you warning you about all those tiny bandeiras vermelhas you’ve been noticing about him but choosing to ignore.

Olha, pode ser apenas a tua mente a brincar contigo, e ele é mesmo um tipo fixe e íntegro que pode acabar por te fazer muito feliz.

But also, if your gut keeps telling you there’s something that just feels off, perhaps it’s a smart choice to trust it?

I don’t know about you, but my gut has never failed me so far.

Usually when I sense something’s off, that ends up being the case. I’m never happy about it, but hey, at least it helps me get out of bad shit in time.

I always want to believe the best about people, and for a bit, I, too, choose to ignore that little nagging voice inside me, but when it just won’t shut up, that’s when I take it seriously and get a grip.

Don’t let that voice inside you be left unheard. If you feel there’s more to him than meets the eye, check out these 7 things to see if he really is who he says he is or if you’re dealing with a serial liar!

1. He’s hesitant to give you his social media accounts

That’s a red flag if I’ve ever seen one! If he’s active on redes sociais and he knows you’re aware of it, why wouldn’t he just give you his IG handle?

There’re really no reason not to share his Insta with you, unless he’s hiding something.

If you two are seeing each other, there’s really no excuse to hide his virtual life from you. What could possibly explain that?

I don’t know about you, but I would feel totally weird about it and consider it a warning to get out in time…

2. He’s often flaky but never offers a specific explanation for his behaviour

Usually, the best you’ll hear from him is ‘’Sorry babe, something came up!’’, and you’re just supposed to be okay with that?

He never tells you why he didn’t show up, and if you ask him outright, he’ll just get out of saying it with a bunch of vague excuses and end up totally changing the topic.

Clearly, he doesn’t want to tell you, but the real question is—why?

3. Ele nunca quer fazer Facetime ou conversar por vídeo consigo

Whenever you suggest calling him or vice versa, he’s always got somewhere to be, and it’s seemingly never the right time for him.

You’ve never Facetimed, and slowly, you’re wondering if there could be more to it?

If there’s anything Peixe-gato has taught us, it’s that there’s definitely something fishy going on if the person refuses to be seen on camera.  

That’s just a really suspicious habit which you shouldn’t indulge for much longer.

4. He’s extremely anxious at the prospect of meeting your friends

À simples menção de organizar um pequeno encontro para conhecer a sua equipa, ele fica imediatamente ansioso e procura qualquer desculpa para se esquivar.

Ele poderia just be a really introverted person… OR he could be somebody totally different and he’s scared that some of your friends might see through his BS, or worse—know that he’s not who he says he is.

5. Responde sempre às mensagens às horas mais estranhas

Ou ele demora horas a responder (ele já tem alguém em casa e está à espera de ser deixado em paz) ou só envia mensagens de texto durante o dia (when he’s at work and therefore free to text you, as opposed to at night when he’s with the other person).

Watch his texting patterns, and if he never deviates from his texting schedule, maybe it’s time to get suspicious.

That’s a possible sign that he’s got uma miúda do lado and is only able to text at certain hours when he’s not with her.

6. Ele nunca quer ir a casa dele porque ‘’lives too far’’

Does he often say that it’s just more convenient to hang at your place because it’s just closer or less crowded?

It could be any number of excuses, but the bottom line is—going to his place is off limits.

That could easily mean he’s already living with someone and doesn’t want to get caught OR he may be seeing a few chicks at once, so he doesn’t want to risk going to his place in case they decide to show up announced (e lixar as coisas para ele).

Whichever it is, it doesn’t sound particularly promising, and you should probably deixá-lo.

7. Ele telefona-te sempre que quer, mas tens sempre de verificar primeiro se está tudo bem

Some people aren’t really into calling much and prefer the good, old text message, and that is a completely possible scenario here.

But, if he calls you whenever he wishes and never lets you do the same, that’s a cause for distress.

It likely means that he’s sleeping next to somebody who has zero clues about you and doesn’t want to risk you two finding out about each other.

You can’t really know for sure, but if he’s adamant you never call without checking first, I would definitely be suspicious, and you should. too.

Trust your judgment, and don’t let him play you for a fool.

You’re way too good for him anyway.