Senhoras, está na altura de aumentarem o vosso jogo de sedução

Accentuate your lips! Smile and say hi when you pass by the guy you like… Seriously? If you’ve ever dug deeper into flirting matters, you’ve probably stumbled upon these and similar dicas de namoro que se centram principalmente na sua aparência.

Na verdade, o que é que o flirt significa para si? Vê namoro como investir no tom de batom mais sedutor, tirar uma selfie e publicá-la nas redes sociais?

Or you never even dared to flirt with a guy so that he doesn’t think you’re an easy target or, let alone, interested in him (because playing hard to get has been a thing for a while now).

Ladies, it’s time to re-learn the art of flirting because it’s so much more than just looking pretty or smiling.

Don’t get me wrong. Smiling is a huge part of your flirting game because positive vibes are what attract guys (and it even rhymes!). Triple rhyme.

I’m trying to say that flirting is a skill that needs to be mastered and updated accordingly. Not every flirting move works on every guy because each of them has different preferences.

But there are some attractive tricks that all men fall for, and today, we’ll focus on those things. Aumentar o seu jogo de flirt não só a ajudará a atrair mais homens, como também a tornará mais confiante!

Wait, why should you master the art of flirting? Hmm…

If you’re still not sure why exactly you should master the art of flirting, I’ll say two things to you:

1. O namorisco fá-lo-á parecer dez vezes mais atraente.
2. O flirt ajuda-o a parecer mais acessível.

I’m sure you want to look attractive to the guy you like, right? Well, being attractive is not only a matter of wearing the right clothes (those that spark the imagination) or looking your best from head to toe.

Sabia que a sua linguagem corporal desempenha um papel enorme no que diz respeito ao flirt e à atração?

Yup. Allow me to elaborate. Let’s say that you cross your arms while you’re in a bar checking out the guy you like and secretly hoping that he will approach you.

Sorry to disappoint you, but no, he won’t do that. Why? Because your body language (crossed arms) tells him that you’re reserved, not that relaxed, aka a little bit worried or anxious.

Um homem consegue perceber tudo isso apenas com uma pista na sua linguagem corporal. Sim, a linguagem corporal é assim tão poderosa.

If you flirt the right way, you’ll appear more approachable. Note that not every guy has the courage to make the first move or even look at you. Some guys are so shy that they won’t approach you, not even in a thousand years, if you don’t give them some obvious signs that you’re interested in them.

E é aí que entra o flirt! By exuding positive vibes, displaying positive body language, and teasing him, you will let him know that you’re a flirting queen!

You will let him know that you don’t take yourself too seriously (that’s really important to guys), that you know how to have fun, and that you’re interesting to be around.

Who doesn’t want to be in the company of a lady whose flirting game is so strong that it forces men to step up their own game? Such a woman is every man’s dream because flirting requires intelligence, creativity, and wittiness.

In other words, by flirting with him like a boss, you’re showing him that you’re one of those strong women who are not afraid to tease, provoke, or even joke at their own expense. E é por isso, minha senhora, que deve dominar a arte do flirt.

Quanto mais namoriscar com os outros, mais confiante se torna. Por isso, em vez de esperar que um rapaz comece o jogo do flirt primeiro, seja a pessoa que o inicia antes dele. Se fizer isso, ele vai agarrar-se a si como se fosse cola.

Nunca subestime o poder dos textos de sedução!

Dado que as mensagens de texto são um dos aspectos mais importantes do flirt porque, obviamente, vivemos na era moderna em que as conversas na vida real são sobrevalorizadas. (Espero que tenhas reparado na minha tentativa de sarcasmo).

Where were we? Yes, never underestimate the power of sending flirty texts to a guy because that’s the biggest ace up your sleeve. It’s true that men are visual creatures, but this doesn’t mean that you should only send them hot pics of yourself as a way of flirting with them.

É claro que as suas fotografias sensuais vão captar e manter a atenção da pessoa durante algum tempo, mas os textos de sedução são dez vezes mais poderosos a longo prazo.

When you send a flirty text to a guy, he is forced to use his imagination to understand what you are telling him. He can’t hear the tone of your voice, and he can’t see you or anything else. All he has is your text and his imagination, which is a killer combination (in every sense of its meaning).

Deixem-me simplificar-vos isto. Se servir tudo a um homem numa bandeja, ele pode rapidamente perder o interesse. Mas, se o deixar servir-se a si próprio, dando-lhe algumas dentadas para mastigar, ele terá fome de mais.

Enviar-lhe textos de sedução vai obrigá-lo a usar a sua imaginação (para se servir a si próprio) e vai deixá-lo sedento de mais textos de sedução no futuro.

Se quiser apimentar as suas conversas de texto (e eu sei que quer), aqui estão algumas textos de sedução para lhe enviar e fazer com que ele a deseje muito:

There’s this new position I heard about today, and I can’t wait to try it out… When do you think you can come over?

I will invite you over on one condition: You shouldn’t keep your hands to yourself. In fact, I will tell you right where you should put them!

I am so excited about our date tonight. If you play your cards right, you’re going to love what I’ve got planned for later!

Another powerful thing that every woman needs to master is flirty questions. Asking a guy the right questions at the right time is a surefire way to boost attraction and show him who’s a flirting goddess.

If you’re interested (and I know you are), here are some perguntas de sedução para fazer a um homem e deixá-lo louco:

Prefere ser bruto ou sensual?

What underwear color do you think I’m wearing now?

What’s your biggest fantasy?

Com que tipo de roupa gostarias de me ver?

Acreditas na luxúria à primeira vista, ou devo passar por ti outra vez?

Don’t shy away from throwing in flirty jokes or funny pick-up lines either!

Sadly, the majority of women shy away from telling flirty jokes or funny pick-up lines because they don’t want to appear too cheesy or they’re a little bit insecure about it. Well, it’s high time we reclaim our feminine power and implement jokes and pick-up lines into our flirting repertoire.

Se souberes dizer essas piadas e frases de engate como a mulher confiante que és, nenhum homem conseguirá ficar desinteressado. Porquê?

Because this is not something every woman does out there, no man would expect you to throw flirty jokes or pick-up lines, and that’s the beauty of it. No man would expect a woman to try to make him laugh. Wait, is that even true? What a sad world we live in.

If you want to flirt like a boss, you need to do exactly what they don’t expect you to.

Since I’m feeling generous, here are the two biggest flirting lessons that I’ve learned so far:

1. Don’t be predictable.
2. Always keep a man wondering about what you’re going to say or do next.

Dito isto, aqui estão alguns piadas de sedução e frases de engate engraçadas que o atraia e o faça rir demasiado:

You may fall from the sky, you may fall from a tree, but the best way to fall… is in love with me.

I’ll be Burger King, and you be McDonald’s. I’ll have it my way, and you’ll be lovin’ it.

Parece que perdi o meu número de telefone. Pode dar-me o seu?

Are you a keyboard? Because you’re my type!

O meu nome é (o seu nome), mas pode chamar-me esta noite.

Dê uma olhadela nele como a mulher corajosa e confiante que é!

If there’s one thing that needs to be changed in our (female) flirting game, it is this: Don’t be afraid to check that man out and let him know that you’re interested.

I understand. Checking someone out has also been a man’s job so far (well, predominantly theirs), but this shouldn’t be so. We live in the 21st century, where expressing ourselves in the weirdest ways possible is acceptable.

Forget that I mentioned the word “weirdest” because this has nothing to do with it. What I want you to do, my lady is feel free to check him out, give him a flirty smile and then continue doing what you were doing (chatting with your friend or similar).

If you do this, I can guarantee that he will be smitten with you. How couldn’t he? He will think to himself: Uma senhora confiante e bonita acabou de me examinar. Que raio. Tenho de ir ter com esta mulher e conhecê-la melhor (em todos os sentidos do termo).

Ser destemido. Seja ousado. Exprima-se

When it comes to flirting, there is no space for gender stereotyping. Don’t be ashamed to step up your game and tell that corny joke or pick-up line. Don’t be afraid to dig deeper and find new unordinary ways of flirting.

Flirting is an art in itself, and you cannot go wrong with it (as long as you’re not overdoing it). As always, leave some space for him to show off his flirting game as well.

Flirt – wait for his response – flirt some more – retreat – repeat. É isso mesmo, rapariga!