10 coisas que você faz que emasculam seu homem

Todos os rapazes querem sentir-se como um super-herói. Apesar de crescerem e deixarem de idolatrar personagens de desenhos animados, continuam a querer sentir-se poderosos e corajosos como eles.

In that sense, they’re pretty simple creatures. Eles querem sentir que as mulheres confiam neles e precisam deles para resolver os seus problemas.

Sempre me ensinaram a ser uma mulher independente e forte e a querer fazer tudo sozinha. Acreditava simplesmente que sabia o que era melhor e que ninguém podia tratar das coisas como eu. Ao agir desta forma Nunca me apercebi que fazia o meu homem sentir-se pequeno e insignificante. 

After a long and honest conversation with him, he finally explained everything women do that emasculates men. Here’s what he had to say.

1. “We want respect, don’t treat us like kids!”

If men value something, it must be respect. Listen, I know men are not perfect, but neither are we. Everyone makes mistakes and unless it’s something major we should find a way to communicate it with respect.

Avoid nagging him in a rude way or talking down to him like he’s stupid. I believe all women have motherly instincts and that’s why we sometimes have the urge to treat even grown-up men like kids.

However, stop yourself for a moment and just think before you say something that might belittle him. You wouldn’t want him to treat you that way, right?

2. “Have a little trust in our capabilities!”

I had a problem with this one for a long time. I just couldn’t trust anyone to do anything as good as me. Whatever he did, I felt the need to intertwine and do it myself. You can only imagine how much it annoyed him.

Always trust your man knows what he’s doing. They rarely take something upon themselves if they’re not sure how to do it. So, let him use his skills, and then you can help him if he says he needs you.

You wouldn’t want people to doubt your capabilities, but always encourage you and believe in you. So remember that next time you try to correct him or stop him from doing something by himself.

3. “Your way of doing things is not the only right way!”

Speaking of trust in your man’s capabilities, maybe you have your specific way of folding clothes or filling up the dishwasher, but that doesn’t mean his way of doing it is bad!

Eu sei que preferias tirar-lhe o avental e expulsá-lo da cozinha quando visses a forma como ele prepara a refeição, mas ei, maybe he’ll do it better than you would. I always thought my man didn’t know how to cook so I would correct him and tell him to do it my way.

Quando finalmente o deixei fazer o que queria, fiquei surpreendido com as suas capacidades. Até aprendi algumas coisas com ele!

4. ”Bossing us around just turns us off.”

You might be the boss at your company, but leave your work and leadership skills outside of your relationship. I know we sometimes fight over who’s the main player in our relationship but calm down and just let him lead you for once.

You’d be surprised how much easier life is when you relax and deixe o seu homem assumir a liderança. Adorava ser o chefe até me aperceber que ele provavelmente precisava mais disso do que eu. 

Now, I wouldn’t change the princess treatment I have for anything! Once you try it out, you’ll never go back to bossing him around.

5. “You know guys have feelings too, right?”

This might be a shocker but yeah, men are humans too! Maybe they don’t cry watching Titanic mas acreditem em mim, eles também são seres emocionais. 

It’s already hard enough that society pressures them to “man up” so he doesn’t need you to be hard on him as well. Escolha cuidadosamente as suas palavras and speak with care just like you’d want him to do.

Também, don’t judge him for showing his emotions. If he feels he can be vulnerable around you, he’ll trust you even more and that builds a strong foundation for a healthy relationship.

6. “Comparing to others is the quickest way to bring us down.”

Bragging about your colleague’s income or praising your friend’s husband for how he acts might seem harmless to you. However, it does more damage than you realize. Especially when you do it often.

Although men are competitive by nature, they don’t like being constantly compared to others. It just makes them think they’re not good enough.

Quero dizer, ponha-se no lugar deles. Como se sentiria se ele mencionasse constantemente como é que as outras mulheres cozinham ou se vestem, ou fazem o seu trabalho? Não muito bem, suponho. Em vez disso, tente concentrar-se nos aspectos positivos dele e elogie-o de vez em quando. 

7. “If we don’t ask for help or advice, just leave it be.”

Por vezes, precisam de enfrentar os desafios sozinhos. Podem não o fazer sempre na perfeição, mas mesmo assim, só uma tentativa significa muito para elas.

Nós, mulheres, pensamos muitas vezes que sabemos tudo e que temos todas as respostas, mas, por favor, sentem-se e descontraiam-se. Deixem-no tratar do assunto! Men are not afraid to ask for help if they really need it, so don’t worry. He’ll definitely call you if he gets stuck!

Confiar um pouco nas suas capacidades e tentar animá-lo em vez de oferecer a sua ajuda when it’s not needed.

8. “No need to call someone else if we can do it.”

You have a leaky faucet and your first thought is to call a plumber. Hold on for a second. Take your phone and call your partner, he’s the only handyman you need!

Por vezes, desvalorizamos as suas competências, mas they’re capable of more than we actually think. Apercebi-me que eles têm um sentimento especial de realização quando conseguem reparar ou fazer algo sozinhos.

You’ll save your money and he’ll feel masculine and happy he helped you. Isn’t that better for everyone?

9. “Don’t make us jealous by flirting with other men!”

This one just pisses them off! I mean, it’s pretty clear why it would make them feel bad. Flirting with others is not fine in any case and can’t be justified.

Concentre-se no seu homem e elogie-o à frente dos outros. Isto aumentará a confiança dele e fá-lo-á sentir-se apreciado. 

Os homens querem ser desejados, eles querem saber que os seus olhos estão reservados apenas para eles. If you give your attention to others, they’ll just be insecure and think you’re not satisfied with what you already have.

10. “Chill out with controlling everything we do!”

You’re not his mom so don’t act like it. Everyone appreciates their freedom and todos nós precisamos de limites saudáveis independentemente da nossa relação com alguém.

Talvez ele queira passar o fim de semana inteiro a ver desporto ou a fazer aquela viagem com os amigos. Deixe-o fazer isso! Também pode aproveitar esta oportunidade para fazer o que quiser e dedicar algum tempo a si própria.