A sua atenção não significa nada se não tiveres o seu respeito

É uma mulher atraente e altamente desejável - não há dúvida sobre isso.

Onde quer que vá, há muitos homens a olhar para si, a tentar comunicar consigo e a convidá-la para sair.

Ele não é diferente dos outros. À primeira vista, ele parecia estar apaixonado por si.

Ele só tinha olhos para ti. Ele estava em cima de ti e fez tudo o que estava ao seu alcance para te conquistar.

Por isso, naturalmente, pensou que ele era o tal. Ele deu-te tanta atenção e agiu como se fosses a mulher dos seus sonhos.

However, as soon as he got what he wanted, everything changed. No, I’m not just talking about taking you to bed.

I’m referring to the fact that this guy started treating you differently as soon as you showed him that he had captured your heart.

As soon as he became aware that you’d fallen for him, he showed you his true colors.

A partir desse momento, tornou-se evidente que este tipo tinha absolutamente não vos respeito.

Nunca teve em consideração as suas opiniões, sentimentos ou desejos.

Então, começou a fazer quase tudo para captar a sua atenção.

You just wanted the man from the beginning of your relationship back – at any cost.

Estava pronto para fazer o que quer que fosse necessário para se tornar mais simpático para este tipo.

He didn’t even have to directly ask you to change – you did it by yourself.

In the beginning, you started pretending to be someone you’re not. However, you didn’t do it with the intention of deceiving him.

Só querias que ele te visse como melhor, mais inteligente, mais atraente e mais interessante.

No entanto, com o tempo, perdeu-se. A rapariga que costumava ser, de repente, não se encontrava em lado nenhum.

Well, let me tell you something: I know that you want this guy’s undivided attention.

I know that you’re the happiest person in the world when he texts you or when he likes your social media posts.

Sei que o teu coração salta de alegria quando ele arranja tempo para te ver.

No entanto, while you were busy chasing him and trying to get his attention, you missed something much more important: his respect – which you’ve never got.

Believe me on this one: His attention means nothing if you don’t have his respect.

Na verdade, este homem não é diferente de qualquer outro tipo de homem que a observa nas discotecas.

For someone like him, you’re nothing but a piece of meat. He sees you as a trophy – as a girl all of his friends would like to be with but can’t.

He doesn’t care about your reputation or future. Most importantly: he doesn’t care how you feel and whether you might suffer later on.

Deep down, he knows you’re a catch.

He knows that he is not enough for you, which is why he gives you breadcrumbs of his attention – so you will always come asking for more.

Ele usa toda esta situação para manter o controlo sobre si. Faz jogos mentais para a manter agarrada, porque não tem mais nada para oferecer.

So please, don’t do whatever he asks you to do.

Don’t run into his arms every time he calls you, don’t sleep with him if that’s the only thing he wants, and don’t send him nudes in the hope of getting a text back.

Acredita em mim: isto é tudo menos respeito.

This guy doesn’t really appreciate your presence in his life, nor does he cherish the deep love you feel for him.

De que é que está à espera exatamente? Achas que he’ll change? That he’ll grow to respect the real you with time?

If that is so, you’re just wasting your time. Things will remain like this forever and this guy will never start treating you right.

That’s why I’m begging you not to give him any more of your energy. Instead, be patient enough to wait for a guy who deserves you.

Instead of fighting for this immature boy’s undivided attention, wait for a real man who will give you many more valuable things, such as respect, loyalty, and appreciation.

Porque o amor verdadeiro é assim.