Para todas as raparigas: Apaixona-te primeiro por ti própria

This one is for every girl who has ever wanted fairy tale love. I’m sure you’ve heard things like “that doesn’t exist in the real world” or “chivalry is dead”. But I am here today to tell you that what you’ve heard isn’t true.  However, here’s the tricky part: It doesn’t come from a man in the castle and it most definitely does not come from “love at first sight”. True love will only be found within yourself.

Toda a gente passa por uma fase da vida em que se sente perdida ou como se faltasse alguma coisa. Se calhar, até pode estar a passar por essa fase ainda hoje. Como resultado, dá por si a perseguir pessoas who surely don’t give a damn about you or numbing your pain with things you never said you would.

That’s the problem though—as much as you try to numb the symptoms, you are doing nothing to cure the cause. We feel so low that we chase the highs in other people/substances/materials. But how can we look for a love we have yet to find? Or a feeling we have yet to feel?

When you sit there and ask yourself, “If I were to be given a love so deep, what would it look like?”, you often start to visualize emotions and materials a person can give you. You forget about the love you are already receiving and about the love you can give yourself. You know you are capable of giving someone the world but you forget to give it to yourself.

Pára de dar essas partes de ti. É muito mais simples do que pensa. Pode já ter ouvido isto muitas vezes, mas vou repetir mais uma vez. Muda a tua mente e mudarás a tua vida. Corte completamente com qualquer pessoa que o faça sentir-se menos você mesmo.

Se está constantemente a assentar for people who lower your worth, you will never make time for those who truly value the person you are meant to be and will blossom into. Just remember you don’t need anyone who doesn’t need you!

Pare de esperar que alguém apareça e a leve a fazer todas as coisas que sempre desejou. Você é completo e é completamente capaz de fazer coisas fantásticas na sua própria companhia. Pare de esperar que alguém lhe diga o quanto é maravilhoso e o quanto o adora.

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Today, I challenge you!—Wake up, wash your face, look yourself straight in the eye, and give yourself a compliment. And if that seems a little too easy, I challenge you to do this every day. Tell yourself everything you want to hear from someone else. I promise you there will be no better feeling than the one you will receive.

Forget about what people think of you! If there is one thing I have learned within the process of loving myself, it is that in order to love yourself, we CAN NOT—and I repeat, CAN NOT—listen to anybody else’s perception of you.

You are not what people think you are—you are what YOU think you are. You are not what people make yourself to be—the ways of you are written in your heart and actions. And if you don’t feel too good about yourself, there is the issue in itself. But it can surely be taken care of with a few words of motivation from yourself.

Last but not least, take care and forgive yourself. I know it may sound a little on the “I’ve heard it all before side” but that’s because it is. We just choose not to ever listen, or maybe we don’t know the way to go about it. Forgive yourself in the smallest ways. “I forgive myself for making myself believe I am less than I truly am” or “ I forgive myself for not watching what I put in my body”.

In doing so, we release ourselves of the heavy burdens we carry around trying to be perfect. Let’s face it—we are humans and none of us are perfect. Therefore, we might as well accept ourselves the way we are, forgive ourselves for past mistakes, and keep loving ourselves regardless. The process of this will truly lead to abundance and self prosperity.

Dê o primeiro passo de mudança para se amar a si próprio. Don’t rely your happiness on other people. Hoje é o dia em que acorda e percebe que tem a capacidade de fazer absolutamente tudo o que deseja. Comece com pouco e lembre-se sempre são as mais pequenas mudanças dentro de nós que irão atrair as maiores mudanças nas nossas vidas.  

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