Para todas as raparigas que continuam a partir o seu próprio coração

When you look at your love life up to now from this point of view, all you can see is pain and disappointment. You’ve been hurt more than once and many men have taken advantage of you and did nothing but cause you pain.

When you come to think about it, you can’t even count how many times you had your heart broken. Of course, not all of these heartbreaks left a permanent mark on your soul but some of them were devastating.

And you keep wondering why that is so. How come you can’t find a way to leave this never-ending circle of having your heart broken and of you always being the one who gets hurt?

Porque é que todos estes homens a escolhem para lhe causar dor e para lhe partir o coração? Porque é que todos eles acabam por te deixar e porque é que ninguém te ama como tu mereces ser amada?

Bem, detesto ter de te dizer isto, mas tu é que continuas a partir o teu próprio coração.

Tu és aquele que apaixona-se por todos os homens erradosA pessoa que permitiu que eles continuassem a causar-lhe sofrimento depois de o terem feito pela primeira vez e a pessoa que continuou a sofrer por eles.

Eu sei que magoar-te era a última coisa que querias fazer, mas de alguma forma foi exatamente isso que acabaste por fazer.

Partiste o teu próprio coração cada vez que deixar entrar o tipo errado. Fazia-o sempre que encontrava um jogador ou um tipo que sabia que, no fundo, era problemático.

You did it every time you didn’t follow your intuition or every time you thought you could save or change a man. I know sempre pensaste que o teu amor iria curar todos os homens emocionalmente indisponíveis but sometimes this simply doesn’t happen.

E tu é que acabas magoado e emocionalmente prejudicado, enquanto eles continuam a viver a vida deles como se nada tivesse acontecido.

Partiste o teu próprio coração sempre que aceitaste alguém que sabias que te ia magoar.

You did it every time you gave a guy a second chance, thinking that time would be different. You did it every time you went back to a man who you knew wasn’t right for you.

You did it every time you let your abuser back in, thinking he wouldn’t continue hurting you.

You broke your own heart every time you forgave someone for the things you shouldn’t have.

You did it every time you forgave a guy for cheating on you, for abusing you in any way or for not treating you right. I know you did it because you loved them but the harsh truth is that you’d just given them a heads-up.

By forgiving them, you’d just shown them that their behavior was acceptable and that’s why they continued acting the way they did all along.

Partiste o teu próprio coração sempre que perseguiste um homem que era medo do compromisso. Because it was obvious that you two didn’t want the same things from the start.

And instead of walking away and instead of doing your best to try and find someone who would give you what you needed, you allowed these men to use you for their ego and you allowed yourself to become someone’s booty call, when that was the last thing you wanted.

Partiste o teu próprio coração sempre que pensaste que um tipo ia mudar por ti. What you obviously didn’t know is that people never change for others. People change only when they feel the need to.

Instead of looking for a guy who would be compatible with you, you kept getting yourself involved with men whom you wanted to change. But sadly that never happened and all of the pain that you’ve been through caused you to be the only one who changed.

You broke your own heart thinking you didn’t deserve better than some guy who treated you like shit.

You did it every time you were scared of stepping out of your comfort zone, every time you were afraid of leaving a guy you knew didn’t deserve you.

You did it every time you missed a chance to be with someone who would love and appreciate you just because you thought you weren’t good enough for them.

Partiste o teu próprio coração sempre que te agarraste ao passado. Fazia-o sempre que revivia todas as recordações que tinha na cabeça.

Fê-lo sempre que leu todas as suas mensagens antigas com o seu ex e sempre que chorou até adormecer a pensar em como poderiam ter sido felizes.

Fazia-o sempre que olhava para fotografias antigas de vocês os dois a sorrir, sempre que via o perfil dele no Instagram ou no Facebook ou sempre que passava por casa dele ou ia a algum lado, na esperança de o encontrar.

You broke your own heart whenever you didn’t allow yourself to move on. You did it because you didn’t know that you were the one impedir-se de ser verdadeiramente felizA que não se permite ultrapassar os homens que só lhe trouxeram dor.

Por isso, por favor, pare de fazer tudo isto a si próprio e salte finalmente para o futuro feliz que merece. Valoriza o teu coração porque só tu o podes curar.