5 sinais de que são almas gémeas (e 5 coisas que significam que acabaram)

The ultimate result of the dating Hell everyone goes through is finding your forever person. So, don’t tell me you don’t believe in soulmates because I know that’s crap.

Perhaps you don’t call what you’re looking for a soulmate, but finding the person to spend the rest of your life with and finding a soulmate is essentially the same thing.

Great, now that we’ve cleared that up, deixem-me seguir em frente.

After so many fails, after so many dates which you want to forget as soon as possible, there comes a time when you think you’ve hit the Jackpot.

He shows up. He takes you somewhere nice. You laugh. You tell each other jokes. You completely get each other. It’s a fairytale come true.

Soon, you find yourself thinking about him and missing him when he’s gone. He sends you textos de bom dia, and the vibration on your phone makes you wish you’ll see his name on the screen.

Soon, you’re completely hooked.

But something is bothering you nevertheless. Is it too soon to think he’s your soulmate, your person, or whatever you want to call it?

Não existe uma forma definitiva de provar que a pessoa por quem tem sentimentos fortes é a sua alma gémea. Mas se o seu instinto lhe está a dizer alguma coisa, eu digo para arriscar e ouvir esse sentimento.

If you don’t want to listen to your relationship sixth sense, there are other ways to decide whether he is your soulmate or your relationship will be over pretty soon.

1. Alma gémea: Ele apoia-te, aconteça o que acontecer

Soulmates don’t question your decisions. They support you even if they think you’re doing the wrong thing. Of course, they won’t let you do it without telling you what they think.

Mas, se for assim tão importante para si, deixá-lo-ão fazê-lo na mesma.

A diferença é que uma alma gémea vai estar lá quando tudo se desmoronar. Ele vai apoiá-lo nas suas intenções e confortá-lo quando falhar.

Uma alma gémea nunca nos abandonará.

2. You’re done: You’re not up high on his list of priorities.

Ele tem algo mais importante para fazer. Ele escolhe sempre sair com os amigos em vez de si.

Quando se precisa dele, não está em lado nenhum e, no final, aparece com uma série de desculpas.

This is not the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. This is an emotionally immature boy who hasn’t quite figured out yet what love and relationships are really about.

As coisas podem ficar assim durante algum tempo, mas a desgraça está escrita em toda a vossa relação, por isso é melhor acabar com ela agora, antes que piore.

3. Alma gémea: Têm rotinas que fazem aos fins-de-semana

Spending your days off with the person you love is the most beautiful thing a couple can do. Having a weekend routine also shows that your relationship is going places, and it’s serious.

Pense nisso. A pessoa que ama está a sacrificar o seu tempo livre para o passar consigo.

He doesn’t care about other things. He wants to be by your side doing something you do every Saturday morning or Sunday night.

You go for walks, on a picnic or you snuggle watching a movie. It’s not important what you do it’s important that you do it together.

4. You’re done: He chooses his friends over you

It’s not wrong for him not to spend every single weekend with you. You can’t expect him to ignore the fact he had a social life before you came along.

Seria muito errado da sua parte esperar que ele passasse todos os minutos do seu tempo livre consigo.

Tendo isso em conta, se ele faz o contrário e nunca passa o seu tempo livre consigo, então algo não está bem.

A man in love would never pass up an opportunity to be with the woman he loves. If he chooses his friends every single time, then, I’m sad to say, you two are over.

5. Alma gémea: Ele respeita a tua opinião

Ele arranja sempre tempo para se calar por um segundo e para a ouvir. Não porque precisa de o fazer, mas porque quer.

This man you fell for and consider to be your soulmate thinks you’re intelligent, confident, and pretty much awesome. He even thinks he could learn things from you, so he listens to you.

Ele não ouve apenas porque pode aprender algo novo, mas também porque se preocupa genuinamente consigo e quer obter o máximo de informação possível sobre si.

Ele quer saber tudo sobre ti porque quer dar-te o mundo. Ele precisa de ter a certeza de que nunca precisarás de mais nada para além dele.

6. You’re done: You don’t feel comfortable around him

Something just doesn’t feel right. You keep telling yourself that everything is okay, and you so badly want to convince yourself that it’s going to be fine, but that gut feeling just won’t leave you alone.

When everyone’s gone, when you are left alone with your own thoughts, one question bugs the hell out of you: What if he is not the man for me?

When you’re around him, you carefully choose your words because sometimes your words are misheard and misunderstood.

The point is, you can’t be your true self around him. Well, if this is the situation, that is one big NO-NO for your relationship.

7. Alma gémea: Ele ama a sua família

You love his family, too. You both feel like you belong with them. There are no awkward silences, no uncomfortable situations when you’re with them.

Quando o convidou pela primeira vez para passar o Natal com a sua família, ele ficou entusiasmado e, claro, não tinha motivos para ser outra coisa.

Your dad and he clicked instantly. He teased your mom in a cute way…

Em suma, ele adora-os porque ele ama-te. Ele respeita-os porque o respeita a si.

8. You’re done: He thinks your family has ganged up on him

He doesn’t want to go near your family at all. I’m not saying he should move in, but it would be nice and polite of him to visit them with you every now and then.

He doesn’t need to love them, but he needs to show some respect.

Em vez disso, evita-os e pensa que são eles que o excluem. Sente-se ameaçado e não é bem-vindo por alguma razão.

I’m not saying that this can’t happen, but if he treats you with respect and loves you, there is no reason why your family shouldn’t love him.

9. Almas gémeas: Viajam juntos

Like all couples who are meant to be with each other, who don’t mind spending every moment of their free time together, you love to travel together.

Gosta de explorar coisas novas e de fazer novas experiências, novas memórias.

More importantly, he enjoys being adventurous with you. You are more interesting than anyone else. He can go with his friends, but that won’t be the same – hence you’re soulmates.

10. You’re done: He prefers going solo

Opposite to traveling together, he chooses to go with the guys. Again, I’m not saying that’s a bad thing, but if this continues and in the end, he is traveling with them more than with you, you definitely have a problem.

Or even worse, he is going on his own. In the beginning of a relationship when you’re still getting to know each other, traveling on your own is not a surprise.

Mas à medida que a relação evolui e nada muda, isso significa que vocês os dois não vão ter futuro. O melhor é acabar com ela agora.