Amar-me não é um estado de espírito

Being committed to someone is not something to take lightly. It’s not something that depends on your mood or current state of mind. Commitment means that you will choose me and be there for me, regardless of any outside factor that might make it hard for you to love me that day.

Being committed means more than just love. It means more than just labeling someone your ‘boyfriend’ or ‘girlfriend’. This is something you shouldn’t rush into, unless you are fully ready and aware of everything it entails. Commitment is a big deal and it’s much more than just a label.

Compromisso significa nunca mais fazer nada pela metade. Significa ir até ao fim e dar tudo por tudo.

Commitment means being completely dedicated and faithful to one person. It means no longer weighing up your other options or looking at anything other than me. You are fully invested in making us a priority and don’t have anywhere else to be.

Commitment means you are not going to cheat on me. You are not even going to think about kissing anyone else, nor giving another girl false hopes. You are a taken man, dedicated to your partner and you make that perfectly clear wherever you are. And it doesn’t scare you. That is when you know it’s real.

You are already with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, so you really don’t have any need to go around and engage in meaningless flings. You knowhow hurtful that would be and you love me too much to even think about it.

Compromisso significa que está pronto para ser completamente transparente comigo. Embora esteja habituado a guardar certas coisas para si próprio, sabe que estar comprometido comigo significa partilhar o que é bom e mal comigo.

Sabes que não há outra forma de trabalharmos se não formos capazes de partilhar as nossas piores partes um com o outro.

Não há julgamento. Não há raiva. Apenas honestidade e um ombro para chorar.

Commitment means always putting our relationship first. It means always putting in the effort, even when it’s not convenient for you.

Significa saber que, independentemente do que a vida nos atire, encontraremos sempre uma forma de o fazer funcionar. Tu aprecias demasiado o nosso amor para nos deixares fugir ao primeiro sinal de problemas.

Compromisso significa estar pronto para compromisso. Significa que tomamos todas as decisões que afectam a nossa vida, juntos. Significa aprender a deixar-me fazer as coisas à minha maneira, sabendo que um dia farei o mesmo por ti.

You know that the decisions we make impact both of us, so you know it’s important to always find the middle ground. It’s not always going to be comfortable but in the long run, you know we’re worth it.

Commitment also means accepting that neither one of us is perfect. We are all flawed and it’s only a matter of accepting and loving each other despite and devido a our flaws and quirks. It’s what makes us all different and unique!

Commitment means that you will always stand up for me when I am being wronged. Be that in a room full of people or in private when it’s just the two of us. It means you will always defend me and stick up for me and never make me question your loyalty. And knowing that I’d do the exact same for you.

Commitment means realizing that, yeah, there will be fights, we will come to blows at times… but at the end of the day, you know that it’s not you against me. It’s you and me against the problem.

And finally, commitment means knowing how to apologize when you are wrong. We are not always both going to be right. And it’s extremely important to be able to apologize to one another when we realize we are in the wrong about something.

Dá à outra pessoa a sensação de ser apreciada e mostra a capacidade de assumir as nossas merdas.

Se vamos construir um futuro juntos, é importante que compreendas que não há futuro sem todas estas coisas. É isto que constrói uma relação boa, estável e duradoura.

If you aren’t ready for this, you know where the door is… but if you are, then let’s start working on making our forever as happy as possible.