3 jogos mentais que todas as pessoas tóxicas fazem consigo
Don’t be fooled, you are not the exception.
Como é que pode saber se tem uma pessoa tóxica na sua vida? Deixe-me apresentar-lhe os três jogos mentais mais comuns das pessoas tóxicas e fique à vontade para julgar por si próprio.
Por favor, certifique-se de que, quando essa pessoa se revelar tóxica, não se convence de que pode mudá-la.
Because, unless you are a professional therapist, it’s hardly unlikely for you to impact his behavior.
Têm perturbações de personalidade e mentais e precisam de ajuda profissional.
A última coisa de que precisa é de se arruinar ao tentar compreendê-lo e dar tudo por tudo para o ajudar.
Agora que isso ficou claro, eis os três jogos mentais que as pessoas tóxicas fazem consigo.
Jogo #1: Ganhar, Preservar ou Adquirir Controlo
Toxic people are all about control—if they don’t have control over other people, they have nothing.
Se conseguirem obter uma resposta específica de si ou levá-lo a fazer o que querem, isso dá-lhes a sensação de poder que procuram.
Isto fá-los sentir que têm o controlo da situação e dá-lhes também a sensação de poder sobre si.
What’s the story behind this? Toxic people need to have control everywhere, but if they can’t get it wherever they want it, they’ll double the dose on you.
So if they can’t have control at work, they’ll search for it elsewhere—ergo they’ll make up for it with you.
Pay attention if you’re purposely giving the control to satisfy the person playing the mind game or está a ser manipulado?
Jogo #2: Guilt-Tripping
Toxic people need to have you inferior since that’s the only way to make them superior. By making you insecure, they feel more confident.
Unless you do what toxic people want you to do, they’ll make you guilty.
They’ll call you names and they’ll be able to bring you down or to make you believe that you’re doing something wrong.
Em vez de dizer abertamente: Tenho um problema com o facto de fazeres isso, ele pode acusá-la de ser frígida para conseguir mais sexo ou ela pode acusá-lo de ser sexista para o obrigar a comportar-se como ela quer.
Either way, it’s an unhealthy way to express feelings or emotions and you don’t want to be the victim of such a mind game.
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Jogo #3: Envergonhar e desqualificar
Toxic people heal their complexes by bringing other people down. They only feel good if people they’re surrounded by feel miserable and they’ll do everything to build such an environment for themselves.
Pessoas que fazem jogos mentais de vergonha tentam exprimir a sua raiva procurando apanhá-lo a fazer algo que consideram inadequado.
They’re just waiting for you to make a mistake so they can shame you or point out how what you’re doing is wrong.
If you mention something related to religion, for example, it could be that’s all they’ve been waiting for to make you feel ashamed of your beliefs.
Also, they are very good at disqualifying people. It’s a method of saying something hurtful to someone and then, when they become hurt, doing a double-whammy by making it seem as if they didn’t at all mean what you thought they meant.
It’s often followed by “Sometimes you’re so over sensitive.” or “It was just a joke, chill.”. They are disqualifying you at first and after that, they’re insulting you. It’s like they purposely hurt you twice.
Tens a certeza de que queres lidar com estas coisas ou estar rodeado por este tipo de pessoas?
Although you may be a victim of a toxic person, don’t forget there is a huge possibility that a toxic person is a victim of another toxic person and it just goes round and round.
You can’t change them, but you can try to help them because they truly need help.
There are people qualified to deal with such issues and the best you can do, if you don’t feel like losing that person, is to hold his/her hand during the process of realizing they have issues.
But, if they don’t want help, don’t stick around long enough to be intoxicated by toxic people. You owe yourself much more.
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