3 juegos mentales que todas las personas tóxicas hacen contigo

Don’t be fooled, you are not the exception.

¿Cómo puedes saber si tienes una persona tóxica en tu vida? Permíteme presentarte los tres juegos mentales más comunes de las personas tóxicas y siéntete libre de juzgar por ti mismo.

Por favor, asegúrate, una vez que esta persona demuestre ser tóxica, de no convencerte de que puedes cambiarla.

Because, unless you are a professional therapist, it’s hardly unlikely for you to impact his behavior.

Tienen trastornos mentales y de personalidad y necesitan ayuda profesional.

Lo último que necesitas es arruinarte intentando entenderle y dándolo todo para ayudarle.

Ahora que lo tenemos claro, aquí están los tres juegos mentales que la gente tóxica juega contigo.

Juego #1: Ganar, Conservar o Adquirir el Control

Toxic people are all about control—if they don’t have control over other people, they have nothing.

Si pueden obtener una respuesta determinada de ti o hacer que hagas lo que ellos quieren, eso les da la sensación de poder que están buscando.

Esto les hace sentir que controlan la situación y también les da la sensación de poder sobre ti.

What’s the story behind this? Toxic people need to have control everywhere, but if they can’t get it wherever they want it, they’ll double the dose on you.

So if they can’t have control at work, they’ll search for it elsewhere—ergo they’ll make up for it with you.

Pay attention if you’re purposely giving the control to satisfy the person playing the mind game or ¿estás siendo manipulado?

Juego #2: Guilt-Tripping

Toxic people need to have you inferior since that’s the only way to make them superior. By making you insecure, they feel more confident.

Unless you do what toxic people want you to do, they’ll make you guilty.

They’ll call you names and they’ll be able to bring you down or to make you believe that you’re doing something wrong.

En lugar de decirlo abiertamente: Tengo un problema con que hagas eso, él puede acusarte de frígida para que él consiga más sexo o ella puede acusarte de machista para que te comportes como ella quiere.

Either way, it’s an unhealthy way to express feelings or emotions and you don’t want to be the victim of such a mind game.

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Juego #3: Avergonzar y descalificar

 

Toxic people heal their complexes by bringing other people down. They only feel good if people they’re surrounded by feel miserable and they’ll do everything to build such an environment for themselves.

Personas que juegan a avergonzar intentan expresar su enfado buscando pillarte haciendo algo que consideran inapropiado.

They’re just waiting for you to make a mistake so they can shame you or point out how what you’re doing is wrong.

If you mention something related to religion, for example, it could be that’s all they’ve been waiting for to make you feel ashamed of your beliefs.

Also, they are very good at disqualifying people. It’s a method of saying something hurtful to someone and then, when they become hurt, doing a double-whammy by making it seem as if they didn’t at all mean what you thought they meant.

It’s often followed by “Sometimes you’re so over sensitive.” or “It was just a joke, chill.”. They are disqualifying you at first and after that, they’re insulting you. It’s like they purposely hurt you twice.

¿Estás seguro de que quieres manejar estas cosas o estar rodeado de este tipo de gente?

Although you may be a victim of a toxic person, don’t forget there is a huge possibility that a toxic person is a victim of another toxic person and it just goes round and round.

You can’t change them, but you can try to help them because they truly need help.

There are people qualified to deal with such issues and the best you can do, if you don’t feel like losing that person, is to hold his/her hand during the process of realizing they have issues.

But, if they don’t want help, don’t stick around long enough to be intoxicated by toxic people. You owe yourself much more.

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