Eis como responder quando as pessoas te perguntam porque é que ainda estás solteiro

If you’re single, chances are people are looking at you with that distinctive facial expression that feels a bit like pity. You know, after they learned you’re single.

Some of them are even brave enough to ask why you’re still único, like it’s a casual question and not a deeply intimate one.

If you’re becoming slightly irritated with this kind of question, I’ve got you!

Here are some perfect responses I,  a single person who’s just trying to live a normal life and be happy on her own, came up with:

I’m perfectly happy on my own.

Simple and straight to the point. Apparently, lots of people think that a single woman can’t be happy.

I assume they think we’re desperate and dissatisfied but the truth is so far from that.

If you explain further that it is possible for a woman to be happy without a man and they don’t understand, that’s their problem, not yours.

I haven’t met anyone I wish to spend my life with.

In other words, you’re not the type to settle for just anyone. You and your ideal partner haven’t crossed paths just yet and maybe you never will, who knows?

What’s important is that you’re content with yourself and your decision.

Esta resposta deveria ser bastante clara, mas ainda assim, para muitas pessoas, o simples facto de estar com alguém é um sinal de sucesso.

What they don’t understand is that maybe you’re just an unconventional woman who doesn’t see herself in a conventional relationship.

Porque é que pergunta? Há algo de mau em ser solteiro?

Ok, esta pode parecer rude para alguns, mas a pergunta em si é rude.

Tecnicamente, isto não é uma resposta mas uma contra-pergunta, no entanto, muda o foco de si para eles.

Esperemos que isso os faça reconsiderar a sua decisão de fazer tais perguntas.

Uma relação não é a minha prioridade na vida, tenho outros planos.

Outra coisa que as pessoas assumem é que toda a gente valoriza da mesma forma uma parceria, uma relação e um casamento.

It’s a perfect opportunity to surprise them by saying you have different priorities in life – for your career, for example.

You’re an ambitious woman with different life values and there’s nothing wrong with that.

Divirto-me demasiado sozinho.

Relationships can be great, but sometimes they’re nothing but a hassle and that’s a fact.

Sometimes it’s just easier and more fun to do things alone. It feels more genuine.

If you’re the type of person who’s never bored, you know what I’m talking about.

There are so many things to experience, so many ways to fill your time with meaningful activities, and it’s more than possible to do this on your own.

Gosto demasiado dos namoros casuais para desistir deles.

Not every woman dreams about the prince charming she’s going to spend her life with.

Algumas mulheres são mais descontraídas e gostam de se divertir sem compromissos.

If you’re this kind of woman, you probably won’t be bothered by this question at all because you’re at peace with your decisions and know what you want in life.

Fazes a mesma pergunta aos homens?

Chame-os à atenção. Porque é que só às mulheres é feita esta pergunta, enquanto os homens podem desfrutar do facto de serem solteiros?

This is not fair; in fact, it’s a misógino coisa a dizer.

If they want to make you uncomfortable, why shouldn’t you do the same?

Your life and your relationships are a private matter and shouldn’t be anyone else’s business.

A woman’s value shouldn’t be measured through her relationship status.

You’re so much more than that and it’s time for people to realize.

Lastly, don’t let anyone tell you how you should live your life. Follow your intuition, your values, and your dreams.

Everything else will fall into place once you’re happy with your decisions – whatever they may be.