Fique solteiro até atingir estes 10 objectivos de vida

Qual é a altura ideal para voltar a namorar? Quais são as coisas que deve fazer antes de encontrar um namorado?

These are the questions every woman asks herself at one point in her life, especially if she’s been single for a long period of time.

Well, we’re here to give you all the answers you need.

Aqui estão 10 objectivos de vida cruciais que deve fazer o seu melhor para alcançar antes de mudar o seu estado de relacionamento.

1. Fica solteiro até saberes o que queres

Before entering a healthy relationship, first you have to know who and what you want. And I’m not talking about romance here only.

It’s important for you to realize the direction in which you want your life to be headed.

You don’t have to necessarily achieve all of your life goals overnight but you should at least have a list of the things you would like to accomplish.

O mesmo se aplica ao facto de sabermos quem queremos.

Qual é o tipo de homem que queres ter ao teu lado?

Que tipo de relação deseja ter?

Quais são os seus maiores obstáculos e padrões?

Of course, I’m not saying that you will ever find a man who will have everything from your list but it is important to know what you’re looking for if you hope to ever find it.

2. Permanece solteiro até te tornares tu próprio

Stay single until you know who you are and most importantly—until you become okay with that.

Build your own personality, stop comparing yourself to the rest of the world, be proud of your uniqueness and don’t be a people pleaser who hides her real character to become more likable to others.

Remember—you’re not a child and the last thing you want is for your potential boyfriend to raise you and try to shape you the way he wants.

You don’t need any man changing the essence of who you are and turning you into a completely different person who fits his standards.

E é exatamente isso que vai acontecer se entrar numa relação antes de se tornar completamente você mesmo.

That’s what will happen if you don’t finish your own blooming process and if you don’t grow up completely.

3. Permanecer solteiro até deixar o passado para trás

Não vale a pena envolver-se em qualquer tipo de romance se ainda tiver questões não resolvidas do passado.

Uma relação de ricochete só a fará sentir-se pior.

Therefore, I’m begging you to ficar solteiro até conseguir tudo da sua bagagem emocional da forma mais saudável possível.

Yes, your past relationships are a part of you and they helped shape you into the woman you are today but that doesn’t mean that you should enter a new romance carrying all of your traumas with you.

Stay single if you still have feelings for your ex and if you’re dealing with strong insecurities or fears.

Stay single until you let go of the past and until you’re truly ready to move on.

Please, don’t let anyone tell you that you are taking too long to recover and that you should have found someone new already.

Remember that we all heal at a different pace so don’t beat yourself up if you need some more time.

4. Permanecer solteiro até tomar consciência de si próprio

Tornar-se consciente de si próprio significa ser capaz de se ver o mais objetivamente possível.

Significa estar consciente das suas qualidades, defeitos, desejos, esperanças e imperfeições.

Quais são as coisas que gosta de fazer? Como é que gosta de passar o seu tempo?

Tem gostos definidos em termos de música, cinema, literatura e arte? Quais são as suas preferências na vida?

Quem é você? Esta é a pergunta a que deve ser capaz de responder fora da sua relação, sem esperar que um homem a defina.

Most importantly—it means knowing your self-value and not allowing anyone to question it.

Ter consciência de si próprio também é importante no que diz respeito à sua história amorosa. Quais são os seus traços tóxicos?

What are the dating patterns you’re not so proud of and you’d like to change?

What are the mistakes you keep on repeating but can’t seem to get rid of? Stay single until you get answers to all of these questions.

Faça uma autoanálise e uma auto-introspeção e dê o seu melhor para se observar a si próprio como um espetador realista.

Trust me—you’ll learn a lot and you’ll discover some parts of your character you didn’t even know existed.

5. Stay single until you’re not afraid to be single

If you consider entering a new relationship just because you’re tired of your single life—don’t.

More importantly, don’t do so if you’re scared that you’ll end up forever alone and that you’ll never find your forever person.

Please, stay single until being single doesn’t feel so scary.

Don’t go around looking for a potential boyfriend just because all your friends found their special man.

Don’t do it because you’re ashamed of never having a plus-one or because you feel it’s about time for you to find a serious relationship.

Don’t settle for less and lower your standards just because you’re afraid that your biological clock is ticking or because you’ve become obsessed with the thought that you won’t find a man to grow old next to.

Em vez disso, antes de se meter numa relação, aprenda a aproveitar ao máximo a sua vida de solteiro.

Utilize todos os seus benefícios e divirta-se com o facto de ser solteiro!

Stay single until you stop searching for love and until you realize that it will come to you when you least expect it and when it’s meant to be.

6. Permanecer solteiro até se tornar financeiramente autossuficiente

Uma das piores coisas que uma mulher pode fazer a si própria é tornar-se financeiramente dependente do seu namorado ou marido.

Don’t get me wrong—I’m not saying that every guy out there will use this against you the first time you have an argument but that’s a risk you shouldn’t be taking.

After all, you’re a mature, healthy adult who is perfectly capable of earning her own money and you don’t need anyone providing for you.

No, this doesn’t mean that you have to be filthy rich before entering a relationship. However, it would be great if you are financially self-sufficient first.

É que, por muito que goste de um rapaz e por muito forte que o seu romance possa parecer no início, a dura verdade é que nunca se sabe quanto tempo vai durar e nem sequer se pode ter a certeza se as coisas vão acabar mal no futuro.

So, it’s best to avoid a situation in which you’re remaining in a toxic relationship just because you’re financially dependent on your partner and have nowhere to go.

7. Permanecer solteiro até começar a procurar um parceiro igual

When you’re looking for a boyfriend, don’t expect to find a parent you’ve been missing your whole life, an older brother you never had, a life coach or a savior.

Em vez disso, comece a procurar um parceiro igual que passe pela vida ao seu lado, ombro a ombro consigo.

Don’t go searching for a purpose or for someone to magically resolve all of your problems.

You don’t need a guardian angel, nor a man who will snap his fingers and heal your broken heart just by appearing in your life.

8. Ficar solteiro até ser feliz sozinho

The most crucial thing every girl in the world needs to remember is that a relationship can’t make you happy.

Yes, it can make you feel better, it can improve your life but if you’re not in a good place with yourself, it won’t make a huge difference.

You see, if you’re not happy single, you won’t be happy taken. So, please stay single until you become happy on your own.

Stay single until you realize that there won’t come a man with a magic wand into your life who will wipe away all of your tears and erase all of your problems, traumas or issues.

Um homem que vai matar todas as suas inseguranças profundamente enraizadas ou que vai fazer com que se ame mais.

Yes, the right guy will help you with all of this. However, you’re the only creator of your own happiness and the key is in your hands.

You’re in charge and you can’t expect anyone else to take the wheel.

9. Fica solteiro até começares a amar-te primeiro

There is one thing you need to remember above everything else—the relationship you have with yourself is more important than any other, including romantic ones.

You can be crazy over a man, you can care for him from the depths of your heart but you’ll never have a happy love life until you learn the importance of putting and loving yourself first.

Please, don’t get yourself involved in any relationship until you build a healthy relationship with your inner self.

Stay single until you realize that you’re more than enough, until you build your self-confidence, until you become sure about yourself and your abilities and until you become selfish enough to prioritize your own needs in front of everyone else’s.

É que nenhum homem a apreciará, respeitará ou amará da forma que merece até que você mesma o faça.

You need to show him that you’re very much aware of your own worth and that nothing he says or does can impact your self-image.

10. Stay single until you’re ready for a relationship

Por último, mantenha-se solteiro até se sentir preparado para partilhar a sua vida com outra pessoa.

Don’t go around chasing a relationship if you feel pressured by the people in your surroundings, if you’re doing it because you think it’s how things should be or if you simply prefer to not be alone now.

Don’t listen to anyone or anything besides your gut and trust me—things will work themselves out.