Um treinador de relações choca toda a gente ao dizer porque é que as mulheres ficam com homens traidores
Embora a infidelidade seja um fator de rutura para muitos, algumas pessoas optam por ficar com o seu parceiro por muitas razões diferentes.
Se nunca o experimentaste, talvez seja difícil para si compreender por que razão alguém ficaria com um parceiro que o trai. However, it’s more complicated than it seems.
Some people say it’s because the person has low self-esteem and they think they can’t do much better. But then, why the hell would Beyonce stay with Jay Z? That woman is the epitome of confidence!
Um TikTok fez-me pensar sobre todo este assunto, mas também me despoletou, para ser sincero. No vídeo, um treinador de relações disse algo que causou um enorme debate!
“Women that accept cheating men are cheating women”
Sadia Khan (@sadiapsicologia) has a totally different view on cheating that’s quite controversial. She was in a podcast where she talked about women who stay in a relationship even if they get cheated on.
Segundo ela, não são melhores do que os seus parceiros, pois diz que eles também são infiéis. Explicou este facto dizendo:
“Women that accept cheating men are cheating women. And women who don’t accept cheating men are the loyal ones.”
Acrescentou ainda que nenhuma mulher leal aceitaria esse comportamento:
“Only unfaithful women are okay with that deal. I promise you. I work with them every single day.”
Well, this will ruffle some feathers for sure! I don’t think it’s really fair to generalize women since I know a lot of them who got cheated on but were always loyal. I’m sure há mulheres que talvez não se importem com isso, mas definitivamente não são todas!
Sadia explained her point by saying why loyal women would never stay and tolerate infidelity. However, women in the comments weren’t happy with her explanation and said she was completely wrong.
A verdade sobre as mulheres que optam por ficar
According to the relationship coach, loyal women can’t tolerate and handle cheating because they could never betray their partner like that.
Como disse a Sadia:
“What happens is that the woman that’s actually loyal and really loves you, she can’t handle the anxiety of it, she can’t do it ‘cause she’s too loyal, she’s too loving. She disappears, she makes her life hell, she’s horrible but she tends to be loyal.”
Por outro lado, as mulheres infiéis não se importam se o seu parceiro as está a trair because they’re usually in the relationship for other benefits:
“A woman who’s there for a paycheck and who is there sneaky accepting this and the other, I promise you, she’s plotting her revenge.”
I think it’s much more complex than that. My friend stayed with her boyfriend because she believed he made a mistake and regretted it. She realized later on she should’ve never forgiven him.
E depois, como um utilizador comentou, há mulheres que ficam por causa dos filhos and because they don’t want their families to fall apart.
One user even said she stayed because she had nowhere to go since she couldn’t financially support herself. And this is a pretty common situation. Another user commented:
“I disagree. Sometimes u stay in the hope the other person will change or because u can’t see yourself start over again. Ppl think they know it all this days.”
Only a few people agreed with Sadia and one even admitted she’s one of the women that tolerates cheating because of other things that relationship provides for her. She wrote:
“I’ve been cheated on. I stayed not because of love but because of all the other benefits. And yes, I’m plotting my revenge.”
As I said, Sadia was definitely right about some women but her point can’t be applied to every toxic relationship since Cada pessoa tem uma situação e uma visão diferente da infidelidade.
Ultimately, deciding whether to stay or dump them is never easy. Whatever someone decides, we can’t judge them since we don’t know their full story.
However, tolerating disrespect and betrayal shouldn’t be normalized. This is why conversations about boundaries and self-respect will always be important. If you’re currently with a cheating partner, just know there’s always a way out and you deserve someone who’ll truly love you!
