Estes 4 sinais de alerta vão afastar todos os homens de si
Same as men, women might do something or act in a certain way that can push others away from them. We often don’t even realize the way we’re acting sometimes can send men running for the hills!
We are quick to judge others and say they’re a major red flag but at the same time, we’re not ready to look deeper into ourselves. I remember when I was really into one guy and he liked me too but still ended up leaving me.
After some introspection, I realized that I might have been too cold or given him mixed signals. I often told acting that way would attract him even more. Well, I guess that’s not true at all!
Felizmente, um treinador de relações Ásia Elaine finalmente revelou os 4 principais erros das mulheres fazer que os homens notam sempre e de que fogem. De acordo com os numerosos homens nos seus comentários, tudo o que ela disse é extremamente verdadeiro e exato!
1. Esperar tudo mas não dar nada
Assim que a Ásia começou a sua TikTok Já me senti chamado!
Segundo ela, o primeiro sinal de alerta é a energia não recíproca:
“You hear a lot of women in the dating market saying when the right man comes along you will not have to try. And although it’s true you won’t have to try too hard, there’s a difference between not trying too hard and not trying at all.”
Of course, you don’t want to seem desperate and all over him but ainda tens de te mostrar suficientemente interessada para o manteres por perto. You probably wouldn’t be crazy about someone who’s not giving you enough attention or acting cold and distant. So why do you think a man would like that energy?
2. Querer que ele seja o seu multibanco
This is a red flag a lot of women have today. And I can’t even blame them since society has normalized it too much.
Como explica Asia:
“Feeling entitled to lavish treatment or financial assistance from a man that you barely even know that’s still trying to get to know you is an extremely unrealistic expectation. And social media has done a really bad job of making modern women think that that behavior is normal.”
Esperar que um homem seja o seu ATM pessoal assim que se conhecem não é algo que ele aprecie. Embora pagar por um primeiro encontro seja completamente normal e a maioria dos homens não se importe com isso, querer mais do que isso pode enviar uma mensagem errada.
If he’s willing to go above and beyond because he wants it, then let him, and enjoy your privilege. Otherwise, don’t think he’s required to do everything girlies on TikTok have convinced you is a standard.
3. Agir de forma imatura ou louca a toda a hora
Oh, this is a big one. Ladies, we have to admit we can be drama queens sometimes. I know you want to spice things up and create a bit of drama here and there, but that’s not the right way to make things more interesting.
A Ásia também disse:
“When good men get a sense of that behavior, you lashing out, blocking their number, cursing them out, they either just stop taking you seriously from that point forward or they don’t tolerate it all together. Because you’re coming across to him more so like a child who’s throwing a temper tantrum than you are as a woman who wants to be taken seriously as an adult.”
Por isso, sim, agir como um louco e ter explosões incontroláveis de emoções sem qualquer razão válida só para chamar a atenção deles é completamente errado! Instead handle every situation maturely and with grace. Even if he annoys you, show him he can’t get to you so easily.
4. Não estar na sua energia feminina
Asia diz que esta pode ser a bandeira vermelha mais controversa e que a razão por detrás dela está muitas vezes escondida nas profundezas da nossa sociedade. Ela disse:
“A lot of women will shy away from being feminine now because of the negative connotation that’s associated with that in modern society. Whether you like it or not, the reality is that men like feminine women.”
Refere ainda que algumas mulheres evitam ser femininas devido às suas experiências passadas por isso, colocam um escudo protetor para não se magoarem. Como ela explica:
“Blocking your feminine energy is often a defense mechanism for a lot of women so they don’t get hurt in the future but don’t let the experiences of the past turn you bitter.”
So don’t be afraid to nurture and show your soft side. It’s what makes us women special. You’ll see that the moment you embrace your femininity, you’ll attract your Prince Charming!
Nos comentários, tanto as mulheres como os homens concordaram com todos os pontos que ela referiu. Os homens agradeceram-lhe por ter trazido este tema à luz do dia, enquanto as mulheres ficaram gratas por ela ter sido honesta e ter chamado a atenção para alguns comportamentos que devem evitar.
While it’s fine to talk about red flags men have, temos de ser verdadeiros connosco próprios e reconhecer os nossos lados maus. A autorreflexão é uma parte incrivelmente importante do nosso aperfeiçoamento. Se quisermos atrair o melhor parceiro, também precisamos de nos esforçar para sermos as melhores versões de nós próprios.
