Un coach di relazioni sciocca tutti dicendo perché le donne restano con uomini traditori
Sebbene l'infedeltà sia una rottura per molti, alcune persone scelgono di rimanere con il proprio partner per molte ragioni diverse.
Se non l'avete mai provato, potrebbe essere difficile per voi capire perché qualcuno dovrebbe rimanere con un partner traditore. However, it’s more complicated than it seems.
Some people say it’s because the person has low self-esteem and they think they can’t do much better. But then, why the hell would Beyonce stay with Jay Z? That woman is the epitome of confidence!
Uno TikTok mi ha fatto riflettere su questo argomento, ma mi ha anche fatto scattare la molla, a dire il vero. Nel video, un coach di relazioni ha detto qualcosa che ha suscitato un enorme dibattito!
“Women that accept cheating men are cheating women”
Sadia Khan (@sadiapsicologia) has a totally different view on cheating that’s quite controversial. She was in a podcast where she talked about women who stay in a relationship even if they get cheated on.
Secondo lei, non sono migliori dei loro partner, perché secondo lei sono anche infedeli. Lo ha spiegato dicendo:
“Women that accept cheating men are cheating women. And women who don’t accept cheating men are the loyal ones.”
Ha anche aggiunto che nessuna donna fedele accetterebbe un simile comportamento:
“Only unfaithful women are okay with that deal. I promise you. I work with them every single day.”
Well, this will ruffle some feathers for sure! I don’t think it’s really fair to generalize women since I know a lot of them who got cheated on but were always loyal. I’m sure ci sono donne a cui potrebbe andare bene, ma sicuramente non tutte!
Sadia explained her point by saying why loyal women would never stay and tolerate infidelity. However, women in the comments weren’t happy with her explanation and said she was completely wrong.
La verità sulle donne che scelgono di restare
According to the relationship coach, loyal women can’t tolerate and handle cheating because they could never betray their partner like that.
Come ha detto Sadia:
“What happens is that the woman that’s actually loyal and really loves you, she can’t handle the anxiety of it, she can’t do it ‘cause she’s too loyal, she’s too loving. She disappears, she makes her life hell, she’s horrible but she tends to be loyal.”
D'altra parte, le donne infedeli non si preoccupano se il loro partner tradisce because they’re usually in the relationship for other benefits:
“A woman who’s there for a paycheck and who is there sneaky accepting this and the other, I promise you, she’s plotting her revenge.”
I think it’s much more complex than that. My friend stayed with her boyfriend because she believed he made a mistake and regretted it. She realized later on she should’ve never forgiven him.
E poi, come ha commentato un utente, ci sono donne che restano per i loro figli and because they don’t want their families to fall apart.
One user even said she stayed because she had nowhere to go since she couldn’t financially support herself. And this is a pretty common situation. Another user commented:
“I disagree. Sometimes u stay in the hope the other person will change or because u can’t see yourself start over again. Ppl think they know it all this days.”
Only a few people agreed with Sadia and one even admitted she’s one of the women that tolerates cheating because of other things that relationship provides for her. She wrote:
“I’ve been cheated on. I stayed not because of love but because of all the other benefits. And yes, I’m plotting my revenge.”
As I said, Sadia was definitely right about some women but her point can’t be applied to every toxic relationship since Ognuno ha una situazione e un punto di vista diverso sull'infedeltà.
Ultimately, deciding whether to stay or dump them is never easy. Whatever someone decides, we can’t judge them since we don’t know their full story.
However, tolerating disrespect and betrayal shouldn’t be normalized. This is why conversations about boundaries and self-respect will always be important. If you’re currently with a cheating partner, just know there’s always a way out and you deserve someone who’ll truly love you!
