10 coisas de que os homens têm medo quando estão numa relação

Existem alguns medos comuns que todos os homens têm quando se trata de relações, mesmo que nem sempre estejam dispostos a admiti-los.

Sometimes they’re not even aware of the exact reason they are blocked from moving on further in their relationships, but they can feel there’s something stopping them from committing to one girl.

Veja estas dez coisas que assustam tanto os homens que eles podem não estar dispostos a procurar relacionamentos verdadeiros.

1. Perder-se a si próprio

Let’s be honest, relationships take a lot of our free time.

Os homens receiam que, ao passarem muito tempo com as suas namoradas, não tenham tempo suficiente para se dedicarem aos seus hobbies e interesses.

Dia após dia, isto pode resultar (nas suas mentes) na perda total de si próprios. Basicamente, têm medo que a sua relação com uma rapariga se torne a maior parte da sua personalidade.

2. Não respeitar o código de conduta

Esta é uma das grandes. Os rapazes têm a sua reputação a defender. Uma das maiores regras do código dos manos diz que o rapaz deve escolher os seus amigos em vez das raparigas em qualquer altura.

When one particular girl becomes important to them and they actually prefer spending time with her over his buddies, this doesn’t go unnoticed.

His friends will begin calling him out for this, and even though they’re probably only joking and messing with him, he still might be scared of what they actually think of him now.

3. Compromisso e ligação emocional

Some guys are incredibly afraid of commitment. Even those who aren’t in the red zone of commitment fears aren’t completely insensitive to this one.

Têm medo de se comprometerem com uma rapariga e de se ligarem emocionalmente. Este medo está relacionado com o medo de serem magoados no final.

This is the strongest in those men who have been hurt in the past and don’t want to go through the same again.

They prefer having many relationships in which they don’t have the time to get overly connected to the girl, and therefore lower their chances of getting their heartbroken.

4.(Perder contra) a concorrência

Men are afraid of rejection. They are even more afraid of rejection that’s connected to the girl picking someone else over them.

This “competition” they are afraid of maybe completely fictional and have nothing to do with reality.

Their jealousy and insecurities might get them to think a girl is choosing others over him, and this scares them – a lot.

5. Andar demasiado devagar ou demasiado depressa

Moving too slow may cause a guy to wonder if he’s good enough. He may start having doubts whether the girl simply doesn’t like him enough to move forward in their relationship.

Quanto a avançar demasiado depressa, isso normalmente está relacionado com o facto de não estarem preparados para se comprometerem ou passarem a relação para o nível seguinte (mudarem-se, trocarem as chaves de casa, casarem).

The “where is this relationship going” talk freaks them out and they aren’t ready for it to go anywhere.

6. Não gostar dos seus amigos

Men are afraid of their girlfriends having friends they don’t like. The truth is, each one of us is tied to our friends, sometimes even more than family.

Recorremos a eles para pedir conselhos, começamos a comportar-nos como eles e partilhamos muitos interesses e comportamentos com eles.

If he doesn’t like the girl’s friends, he might be afraid that she is a different kind of person then he imagined her to be, or might turn into one of those people he dislikes.

7. Não ter interesses comuns

Os rapazes têm medo de não ter nada para falar com as raparigas ou de não ter nada para fazer em conjunto.

If a girl’s interests are way too different from his, he will immediately imagine having no ways to spend his time with her.

A guy also afraid of getting pushed to pursue her interests instead of his – something no guy wants to do.

8. A relação está a desmoronar-se

O tempo passa. A relação que já foi óptima revela-se impossível de continuar. Ele magoa-se.

Yup, that’s right, it all basically ties to guys’ fear of being hurt in the end. They hate the thought of investing themselves and their emotions into something that’s going to go to waste.

9. Conhecer os seus pais

This one is obvious. They are afraid of meeting the girl’s parents. There’s this pressure to impress the girl’s friends and family, but most importantly parents.

They are scared that they won’t come off great and that the girl’s parents dislike of them will mean the girl will start to find faults in them too.

10. Alterar

Em última análise, têm medo da mudança. Todas as relações trazem mudanças à nossa vida, quer nos apercebamos disso ou não.

We’re not talking about girls trying to change guys on purpose, but rather the common course of every relationship.

Some guys hate the thought of their lives being different then what they are. They have their little rituals and the ways they want to go through the day, and changing this doesn’t seem appealing to them.

Têm de aceitar a ideia de que a mudança é necessária e, de facto, boa para eles, e encontrar a rapariga pela qual vale a pena mudar de vida.