10 cosas que aterrorizan a los hombres en una relación
Todos los hombres tienen ciertos temores a la hora de relacionarse, aunque no siempre estén dispuestos a admitirlos.
Sometimes they’re not even aware of the exact reason they are blocked from moving on further in their relationships, but they can feel there’s something stopping them from committing to one girl.
Echa un vistazo a estas diez cosas que asustan a los hombres tan profundamente, que podrían no estar dispuestos a buscar relaciones verdaderas en absoluto.
1. Perderse
Let’s be honest, relationships take a lot of our free time.
Los hombres temen que, al pasar mucho tiempo con sus novias, no tengan tiempo suficiente para dedicarse a sus aficiones e intereses.
Día a día, esto puede dar lugar (en sus mentes) a perderse por completo. Básicamente, tienen miedo de que su relación con una chica se convierta en la mayor parte de su personalidad.
2. No respetar el código de los hermanos
Esto es importante. Los chicos tienen una reputación que mantener. Una de las reglas más importantes del código de los hermanos es que los chicos deben elegir a sus amigos antes que a las chicas en todo momento.
When one particular girl becomes important to them and they actually prefer spending time with her over his buddies, this doesn’t go unnoticed.
His friends will begin calling him out for this, and even though they’re probably only joking and messing with him, he still might be scared of what they actually think of him now.
3. Compromiso y apego emocional
Some guys are incredibly afraid of commitment. Even those who aren’t in the red zone of commitment fears aren’t completely insensitive to this one.
Tienen miedo de comprometerse con cualquier chica y encariñarse emocionalmente. Este miedo conecta con el miedo a salir herido al final.
This is the strongest in those men who have been hurt in the past and don’t want to go through the same again.
They prefer having many relationships in which they don’t have the time to get overly connected to the girl, and therefore lower their chances of getting their heartbroken.
4.(Perder contra) la competencia
Men are afraid of rejection. They are even more afraid of rejection that’s connected to the girl picking someone else over them.
This “competition” they are afraid of maybe completely fictional and have nothing to do with reality.
Their jealousy and insecurities might get them to think a girl is choosing others over him, and this scares them – a lot.
5. Moverse demasiado lento o demasiado rápido
Moving too slow may cause a guy to wonder if he’s good enough. He may start having doubts whether the girl simply doesn’t like him enough to move forward in their relationship.
En cuanto a lo de ir demasiado rápido, suele deberse a que no están preparados para comprometerse o pasar al siguiente nivel de la relación (mudarse, intercambiar las llaves de casa, casarse).
The “where is this relationship going” talk freaks them out and they aren’t ready for it to go anywhere.
6. No le gustan sus amigos
Men are afraid of their girlfriends having friends they don’t like. The truth is, each one of us is tied to our friends, sometimes even more than family.
Acudimos a ellos en busca de consejo, empezamos a comportarnos como ellos y compartimos con ellos muchos intereses y comportamientos.
If he doesn’t like the girl’s friends, he might be afraid that she is a different kind of person then he imagined her to be, or might turn into one of those people he dislikes.
7. No tener intereses comunes
Los chicos tienen miedo de no tener nada de qué hablar con las chicas o de no tener nada que hacer juntos.
If a girl’s interests are way too different from his, he will immediately imagine having no ways to spend his time with her.
A guy also afraid of getting pushed to pursue her interests instead of his – something no guy wants to do.
8. La relación se desmorona
El tiempo pasa. La relación que una vez fue estupenda resulta imposible de continuar. Se hace daño.
Yup, that’s right, it all basically ties to guys’ fear of being hurt in the end. They hate the thought of investing themselves and their emotions into something that’s going to go to waste.
9. Conocer a sus padres
This one is obvious. They are afraid of meeting the girl’s parents. There’s this pressure to impress the girl’s friends and family, but most importantly parents.
They are scared that they won’t come off great and that the girl’s parents dislike of them will mean the girl will start to find faults in them too.
10. Cambiar
En última instancia, tienen miedo al cambio. Cada relación trae cambios a tu vida, te des cuenta o no.
We’re not talking about girls trying to change guys on purpose, but rather the common course of every relationship.
Some guys hate the thought of their lives being different then what they are. They have their little rituals and the ways they want to go through the day, and changing this doesn’t seem appealing to them.
Tienen que aceptar la idea de que el cambio es necesario y, de hecho, bueno para ellos, y encontrar a la chica por la que merece la pena cambiar de vida.
