Come flirtare su Instagram e ottenere un appuntamento

Okay, let’s get real. We often use Instagram as a dating app. There, I said it! I am sorry, Mark Zuckerberg, it is what it is.

You sometimes find yourself stalking someone’s profile, analyzing their pictures and stories while trying to figure out how to talk to them. Well, you’re not alone.

This is a reality for many people, but don’t worry, I got your back! Just listen to me and imparerete a scivolare nei loro DM e a restarci. 

So che l'intero concetto di Instagram può essere un po' complicato, perché un passo sbagliato può portarvi in “seen land” o, peggio ancora, un elenco di blocco. 

Tuttavia, le mie tattiche di flirt su Instagram mi hanno assicurato un uomo so I think I know what I’m talking about! But before we start, I have a question! What does your IG profile look like?

1. Il vostro profilo è una finestra sulla vostra vita

Try to look at your profile from someone else’s perspective and see if you would accept your request in their place. 

La prima impressione è sempre importante e questa potrebbe essere l'unica occasione per attirare la loro attenzione or a reply back. If you don’t have a profile picture of yourself, your bio is empty, and your profile is locked, don’t expect them to accept your request. 

Personally, when I get a request from someone with a profile like that, I don’t even think twice but decline it immediately. So make sure your profile looks attractive, and if they do accept your request, don’t like all of their pictures immediately just because you’re excited, take it slow.

2. Rilassarsi con i like

Calm down, I get you, you don’t know how to get their attention. Trust me, there are better ways to do it than attacking the like button. 

Don’t get me wrong. Liking a few of their recent photos is a great way to get noticed at first but può anche risultare fastidioso o addirittura strano. 

Mi è capitato che ai ragazzi piacessero tutte le mie foto nel giro di un paio di minuti, e badate bene, avevo sempre una collezione di post piuttosto grande. Ancora peggio sarebbe se gli piacessero nel cuore della notte, scegliendo solo quelle che ho postato mentre ero in spiaggia.

Honestly, it’s giving Joe Goldberg energy. Don’t be that guy that will end up in a girls’ group chat as a “inquietante stalker di mezzanotte”. Instead, play it cool, and if you wouldn’t bother someone like that when you meet them in person, then why do it online?

3. Comportarsi come nella vita reale

If you saw someone you like in public, would you approach them and start harassing them, saying inappropriate things? Well, let’s hope not! 

People can get weird on social media because they get too comfortable and give themselves more freedom. Don’t hide behind your profile and think you suddenly became someone else and then give completely different energy in person.

Ricordate sempre che just because it’s an online world, it doesn’t mean it’s not real. Being genuine and respectful will take you further than pretending you are something you’re not.

I once went on a date with someone who seemed perfect over messages. However, when we finally met in person he was a weirdo and even attacked the waiter just because he didn’t put ice in his drink! Safe to say I was shocked and never went out with him again.

4. Don’t force things

The best flow is the natural flow and honestly, this goes for everything in your life. My friends and I would often try to figure out what is the logic behind someone who repeatedly sends you a follow request and just doesn’t give up.

Se l'ho negato ieri e dieci volte prima, perché pensa che abbia cambiato idea? Questo non può che rendervi più ripugnantie non il contrario. 

Lo stesso vale per la messaggistica. Entrate nei loro DM ma vi lasciano in sospeso o vi danno solo risposte a vuoto? Per favore, prendete il cartello. 

5. Le parole gentili possono aprire una porta di ferro

Questo è sicuramente il mio motto di vita. In base alla mia esperienza, e questo vale per ogni aspetto della vita, Spesso le parole scelte con cura permettono di ottenere ciò che si vuole.. Basta sapere come realizzarli nel modo giusto.

È così che mi sono riservata un appuntamento con chiunque volessi, e alla fine ho persino sposato un ragazzo conosciuto su IG!

I wouldn’t just react with a fire emoji on his selfie, I took it to the next level. I would wait for him to post something about things he did or loved and then take it as a chance to start a conversation.

“Omg! I didn’t know you also loved that TV show. It’s my favorite!” Something like this would always keep a conversation going for quite a while. It’s also proven that Le persone sono più disposte a rispondere quando si porre loro una domanda.

So instead of only congratulating them for their achievement, ask them to tell you more about that experience. You can even ask for advice on something they’re good at. If people like something, then it must be talking about themselves.

Ricordate sempre di keep it casual and don’t be too pushy. Piccoli errori possono costare molto. Possono sembrare molte le cose da tenere d'occhio, ma la pratica rende perfetti!