Como rejeitar alguém de forma simpática e respeitosa: 12 Textos Eficazes

Quando se trata de namorar, uma das coisas mais frustrantes é pensar em como rejeitar alguém de uma forma simpática e forma respeitosa. 

You’ve been on a couple of dates (or you haven’t even dated) and you’ve realized that you’re not really interested in further dating (or ever dating).

You don’t want to give them falsa esperança e talvez queira ficar apenas amigosnão é?

Agora, como explicar isto a uma rapariga ou a um rapaz simpático, sem rutura o contacto na íntegra ou sem parecer o maior idiota?

You don’t want to give them a desgosto with thoughtless words but you don’t want them to think there is still hope. You need to be realistic and authentic. Easier said than done, right?

Compreendo-o. Mas, ei, nem toda a esperança está perdida! 

Sabe o que se diz: A honestidade é a melhor política! Aqui está uma lista dos textos mais eficazes que pode utilizar de acordo com a sua situação!

Nota: Não hesite em modificar os textos de acordo com a sua situação ou estilo. Além disso, não se esqueça de consultar a lista de dicas essenciais abaixo que o ajudarão a dominar a arte de rejeitar bem!

12 dos melhores modelos de mensagens para o ajudar a rejeitar alguém de forma simpática

1. “I’m not ready yet”

“Hey (someone’s name). I really enjoyed spending time with you on our primeiro encontro but I’m afraid I got some más notícias.

I want you to know that I’m not ready for a relação romântica or anything serious yet and that’s why I think it would be wise to stop dating for the time being. 

I don’t want you to think that there’s something wrong with you because there isn’t. It’s me.

I’ve got some things to sort out in my head and that’s why I cannot continue dating you. (Once I’m done with it, I’ll definitely let you know.)”

Esta é uma óptima forma de rejeitar alguém de forma simpática, porque a ênfase está em si e não na pessoa.

A outra pessoa precisa de saber que não é ela o problema (especialmente se for uma pessoa muito homem simpático ou rapariga e quer manter-se em contacto com eles). 

Além disso, esta mensagem de texto é óptima para pessoas indecisas (como eu), pelo que coloquei a última frase entre parênteses para esse efeito.

If you’re not really sure about rejecting them completely, you can add that last sentence in case you change your mind in the future. 

2. “I just want to focus on my studies/work right now”

“Hi (someone’s name). I’m sorry to disappoint you but I think you deserve to know that I can’t really date anyone right now.

I just want to focus on my studies/work at the moment, so I don’t really have time for anything else, which includes dating.

I don’t want to waste your time and that’s why I’m telling you all this in advance. I hope you understand.”

If you’re busy with other things at the moment and you don’t have time for dating or a relationship, you should accentuate that and add that the reason why you’re telling them is that you don’t want to waste their time. 

This will show them how considerate and polite you truly are, because you care about other people’s time and feelings.

Além disso, pode acrescentar isto no final da mensagem, se lhe apetecer: I’ve got your número de telefone, so I’ll make sure to contact you once I free myself from the shackles of obligations.

3. “I’m not the right girl for you”

“I’ve been thinking about telling you this for days and whenever I gathered the courage to do it, something stopped me. So, I’ll be as firm as possible. I just want you to know that I’m not the right girl for you. 

At times, I can be really annoying or needy and sometimes I’m also overly excited about stupid things. There are also days when I can’t control myself and I do things on impulse.

Acho que devias saber tudo isto antes de as coisas se tornarem sérias.

You might not understand it now but trust me, you’ll thank me later.”

Esta é a forma perfeita de dizer à outra pessoa: It’s not you, it’s me. By adding all those silly things like being annoying or excited about stupid things, you’re making it less serious and therefore, less painful.

A mensagem é cativante e divertida e, acima de tudo, honesta até ao âmago.

4. “I don’t think we’re uma boa combinação“

“Hi (someone’s name). Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about the two of us and I concluded that we’re not really a good match. I’m into rock music, you’re into country. I’m an introvert and you’re an extrovert. 

There are plenty of other things we discussed which made me realize that we’re two extremes.

I think you deserve to know how I feel about the whole thing, so I’m letting you know because I don’t want to give you falsa esperança.”

There will be times when you’ll meet someone who is the total opposite of you and when that happens, you shouldn’t pretend you’re okay with it (if you’re not).

If that is the case with you, the best way to reject them nicely is by saying that you’re not a good match. 

It’s objective and it’s your personal opinion and they cannot judge you for that or get insulted. They can only appreciate you being honest about it.

5. “Obligations, obligations…”

“Hey (someone’s name). As I’m writing to you, I’m thinking about all the deadlines I need to meet this next month, my two jobs, little sister, pet, you name it. 

As you can see, I don’t have time to breathe, let alone spend some quality time with someone and I’m truly sorry for that.

O meu tempo livre consiste em uma ou duas horas à noite, quando ligo a televisão e tento não adormecer enquanto vejo alguma coisa.

I wish we had met earlier or sometime in the near future when I will potentially have more free time but that’s just how things are at the moment.”

If the reason for rejecting someone is your tons of obligation at the moment but you’re interested in hanging out with them at some point in the near future, it’s important you tell them that.

You need to accentuate the fact that you’re interested in hanging out but prevented from doing so at the moment.

6. “Broken-hearted girl/guy”

“I want you to know I have really enjoyed every second of your company but there’s something you need to know about me.

I’m not ready for anything romantic yet because I need more time to heal my wounds from my previous separação. 

I could have continued dating you without telling you anything about it but it wouldn’t be fair toward you.

That’s why I’m telling you honestly that I need more time and space to absorb and accept everything that happened in the past.”

Separações are tough and it’s always wise to take some time for yourself and heal before jumping into a new relationship.

Also, the other person deserves to know the truth in case they’ve already developed romantic feelings for you. 

Ver também: 20 coisas que deve saber para se ajudar a curar um coração partido

7. “I’m only interested in friendship”

“Hey (someone’s name). I was thinking about telling you this earlier but I waited to be sure about it.

I want you to know that I really like you as a person and I’m interested in being friends with you but nothing more than that. 

Penso verdadeiramente que temos o potencial para sermos bons amigos but if this is something that’s too hard for you, I totally understand and respect that.”

Esta é praticamente auto-explicativa. 

8. “Lack of chemistry or attraction”

“(Someone’s name), you’re an awesome person and I’m sure you already know that. You’re kind, you’re supportive and you’re fun to hang out with.

However, I’m afraid there’s no química real/attraction between us, which is the essence of every relationship. It would be awesome if we could stay friends though!”

If you notice a lack of chemistry or attraction, this is a serious red flag that they’re probably not a potential partner but just a potential friend.

9. “Travel girl/guy”

“Hey (someone’s name). I’m going on a trip tomorrow/próxima semana, so I’m afraid I’ll be too busy to hang out.

I guess I’m an adventure-seeker and traveling is in my blood (well, my mom told me that), so I hope you understand that and hear from you soon.”

This one’s my favorite. I mean, who could get mad for being rejected by a passionate traveler? 

10. “Already dating someone else”

“I think you’re a really nice person but I’ll be straightforward with you: I’m already dating someone else. However, we could definitely stay in touch!

I’m just telling you this because I don’t want to jogar jogos with you. I respect you and I think you deserve to know the truth.”

Remember to always tell the other person if you’re already dating someone else because if you don’t, you could risk experiencing some seriously awkward situations (not to mention a broken heart). 

11. “I don’t feel the same way”

“You’re a really cool guy/girl and I have enjoyed texting with you/hanging out with you but I need to tell you that I don’t feel the same way about this whole thing. 

I rather see you as my big brother/sister/friend and I think you should know that, so that we can avoid any potential awkward situations or disappointments.” 

By telling the other person that you don’t feel the same way, you are letting them know that things are not the way they seem.

Sometimes, people tend to overthink and misinterpret some clues, so it’s important to let them know how things stand.

12. “I want you to respect my feelings like I respect yours”

“Hey (someone’s name). I realize that you like me a lot because of all those grand gestures and the way you treat me is truly impressive. I respect your feelings but I need you to respect mine, too.

Pensei que seria capaz de retribuir, mas quanto mais tempo passei contigo, mais me senti estranho em relação a tudo isto.

I think you’re a great person and I’m grateful for everything you’ve done for me. I respect your feelings and I hope you’ll respect mine as well.”

O respeito mútuo é uma das coisas mais poderosas quando se trata de amizades, relações ou encontros. Procurá-lo na outra pessoa é uma das melhores formas de rejeitar alguém de forma simpática e educada.

Como rejeitar alguém de forma simpática: 6 dicas essenciais

Porque escolher aleatoriamente um modelo de mensagem não é suficiente! Aqui estão algumas coisas a que deve prestar atenção e que o ajudarão a rejeitar alguém numa forma educada:

1. Seja honesto consigo próprio (e com eles)

Antes de decidir rejeitar alguém, sugiro que se pergunte primeiro se é exatamente isso que quer neste momento.

Fazer algo por impulso é o maior atalho para o arrependimento, por isso é preciso ser completamente honesto consigo próprio antes de decidir fazer algo a esse respeito.

Pense em todos os prós e contras de sair com essa pessoa (ou de estar com ela numa relação). Isto ajudá-lo-á a ver o panorama geral e a descobrir o que realmente quer. 

Escreva os seus pensamentos numa folha de papel para os colocar numa forma tangível e torná-los mais claros.

If you still want to reject that someone after you’ve done all that, then keep in mind that you should be honest with them about the real reason why you don’t want to date/continue dating them or be with them. 

Por outras palavras: Apenas dizer a verdade mas de uma forma agradável, forma educada.

Além disso, não se esqueça de que o pior coisa pode fazer é romper com alguém ou deixar de sair com essa pessoa sem nenhuma razão específica, só para descobrir que cometeu um erro.

2. Prepare-se para todos os resultados possíveis

A essência de aprender a rejeitar alguém de forma simpática reside na capacidade de se preparar para todos os resultados possíveis. Por resultado, refiro-me à reação da pessoa à sua declaração. 

Nem todos nós somos assim tão bons a aceitar a recusa. Algumas pessoas ficarão ofendidas mesmo que as rejeite da forma mais forma educada possible and there’s nothing you can do about it.

So, the best thing to do is prepare yourself for such a situation and think in advance about how you’re going to react if something like that happens. 

You don’t want to lose your cool and start saying things you don’t really mean just because their reaction forces you to do so (and you don’t want to involve their friends or membros da família nele).

Pretende-se evitar qualquer potencial constrangimento e pretende fazer a rejeição numa forma simpática. So, no matter what happens, don’t overreact or overthink. Stay polite and stick to what you really want and mean.

Além disso, lembre-se que mesmo o pior resultado é melhor do que fantasma.

3. Fazê-lo pessoalmente (se puderes)

If there’s one thing I hate most about these modern times, it’s a lack of face-to-face communication; we do everything via redes sociais e mensagens de texto.

Honestly, I am waiting for the day when being ‘in a social meios de comunicação relationship’ will become legit.

Por isso, por favor, faça a coisa da rejeição pessoalmente (se puder, claro). Se não, envie-a por SMS. 

The reason why it’s better to do it face-to-face is because the other person can see your genuine facial expressions and see whether you’re being honest with them. That effect is hard to achieve via a text message.

People tend to overthink things because they can’t hear the tone of your voice and they can’t see your face and therefore they cannot know for sure whether you’re being honest with them. 

I understand that doing it in person requires more courage than doing it via text message but the effect is not the same and that’s a fact. 

4. Evitar culpar a outra pessoa

If there’s one thing you should definitely avoid doing, it’s putting blame on the other person, like with something like this: I don’t want to date you because you drink/curse too much.

Este tipo de afirmação é um ataque direto a uma pessoa e deve ser evitado a todo o custo. 

You don’t want to make the pessoa sentir bad about the whole thing. You want them to understand what you’re trying to say to them and how you feel about it instead of blaming them for it.

Just imagine if someone told you that they didn’t want to date you because you drink too much. You would instantly feel insulted and start thinking that it’s none of their business if you drink too much, right?

Julgar e coscuvilhar são duas das coisas mais tóxicas do mundo e nunca têm um resultado positivo. 

Now imagine that someone said to you they don’t want to date you because they don’t think you’re a good match.

It’s neutral, polite and it’s really hard to get offended by a statement like that. And that’s the effect you need to achieve when rejecting someone nicely!

5. Don’t wait for a right time to do it

Compreendo que vai ter um tempo difícil reunir a coragem para os rejeitar, mas nunca há uma altura certa para coisas finais com alguém.

Pode pensar que se adiar para amanhã, próxima semana or next month, things will be different. But they won’t. 

The longer you wait to do something, the more you’re ansioso about doing it (definitely speaking from experience). So, don’t wait for a right time to do it because the right time doesn’t exist.

The right time is now. You can never know what’s going on in that person’s life at the moment, so how can you know when it is the right time for them? You cannot know, right?

Então, um dos melhores dicas de especialistas O que se diz por aí é o seguinte: Esperar pelo momento certo para fazer alguma coisa só vai fazer com que ela se prolongue.

E prolongá-la significa dar-lhes falsa esperança when they could’ve started dating someone else instead and moved on. 

Don’t wait for the right time to do it but just do it! (As Nike would say.) 

6. Don’t sugar-coat it

If you’re one hundred percent sure about rejecting them, then don’t cobertura de açúcar coisas, ou seja, dar-lhes falsa esperança.

If you know that you don’t want to date them ever again, don’t make them think that you might reach out to them at some point in the near future.

Merecem que lhes seja dita a verdade de uma forma forma simpática. Deve evitar fazer jogos mentais com eles porque, se o fizer, eles continuarão a viver numa ilusão, continuando a pensar que as coisas estão bem.

Em vez disso, deve aprender a rejeitar alguém de forma simpática e honesta. 

Como já foi dito: A honestidade é a melhor política

Rejecting someone is one of the hardest things to do but it’s necessary for both your happiness and the other person’s. If you feel like it’s something you should do, you shouldn’t prolong it any further. 

Dizer-lhe como se sente em relação a tudo isto fará com que se sinta melhor e será benéfico para ambos a longo prazo. Toda a gente merece ser feliz e, por vezes, a rejeição é o primeiro passo para o conseguir.

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