21 dicas perspicazes sobre como respeitar o seu marido na vida real

Aprender a respeitar o seu marido e a demonstrar o seu amor através do respeito e do apreço são competências importantes que irão certamente reforçar a vossa ligação e melhorar o vosso casamento.

Utilizar algumas palavras simples para expressar o seu amor pelo seu marido isn’t and should never be enough. You must show it through your actions.

Deve demonstrá-lo respeitando-o e apreciando tudo o que ele é e tudo o que ele faz por si e pelo seu casamento todos os dias.

A confiança e o respeito são dois pilares em que se deve basear qualquer relação saudável. They’re equal, and they are as important as love is.

If you’re a religious person, then you know that God has also instructed us to respect our husbands. In Ephesians 5:33b, Paul wrote, “However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.”

In these words of God, we can also see that love and respect go hand in hand. You can’t have one without the other.

We can also see that respect must be earned. You can’t have respect for a disrespectful or marido controlador não importa o quão forte é o amor que sentes por ele.

It’s just as Dr. Emerson Eggerichs has explained in his book, Amor e respeito… “When a husband feels disrespected, it is especially hard to love his wife. When a wife feels unloved, it is especially hard to respect her husband.”

Marriage and family life is a very challenging journey. You’ll meet many obstacles on your journey, but the most important thing is to travel carefully and slowly, together, holding each other’s hand.

Como é que mostra respeito pelo seu marido?

O seu marido quer sentir-se amado, tal como todas nós. No entanto, acima de tudo, o seu marido precisa de se sentir respeitado e apreciado.

Let’s do some homeschooling, shall we? I’m going to teach you how to respect your husband more and mostrar-lhe que se preocupa para ele, honestamente.

Por isso, sente-se e preste muita atenção a estas formas simples que certamente a ajudarão a aprofundar a ligação emocional entre si e o seu marido.

Não falar de palavras; mostrar respeito através de acções

Your husband doesn’t need you to tell him that you love, trust, or respect him… he needs to feel those things through your actions.

A primeira vez que o desrespeitar ou a algo que é importante para ele, os seus sentimentos em relação a si começarão a mudar. The more you treat him badly, the less he’ll love you.

You can swear that you love him as much as you want, but it won’t be enough to make him believe it. As suas acções falam sempre muito mais alto do que as suas palavras. De facto, as palavras não significam nada if you can’t back them up with your actions.

There are so many little things that you can do every day to show your husband respect. Those things won’t take a minute of your time each day, but they will mean the world to your hubby for sure.

Remember, ‘in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health’…

Always keep in mind your wedding vows. You took an oath before God and in front of all of your family and friends that you’ll cherish and love your husband until death do you part. Now, you have to stick to your oath.

Your marriage will be wonderful, but at the same time, a very challenging and sometimes incredibly difficult journey. You’ll come across many peaks and valleys on your journey just like all marriages do.

Trust me, there is no happy marriage or happy couple who didn’t have to go through some rough patches. Those are some kinds of challenges that God sends our way just to see if our love is truly strong enough to endure it all.

The most important thing is to always remember that you’re in this together and to keep showing love and respect to your husband even if, sometimes, you start questioning whether he deserves it or not.

Those negative things and thoughts are temporary and transient, while on the other hand, you two are forever. And, in the end, that is the only thing that’s important.

Dê-lhe toda a sua atenção

Don’t think that we’re the only ones who can’t take it when we see that our husbands don’t listen to us. They hate it, also.

So, how do you respect your husband? Don’t look at your phone while he’s trying to talk with you, and don’t refuse him when he asks you to talk because you’re busy. Nothing should ever be more important than your man.

It’s time to have a weekend getaway for just the two of you. Leave your phones and everything else that might interrupt your quiet time behind.

Organize a small romantic trip for your hubby where you’ll be able to give him your undivided attention.

Comunicar de forma saudável

Tem de aprender a comunicar com o seu marido de uma forma mais eficiente e saudável. Isso significa nada de brigas, porque todos os desacordos e todos os conflitos podem sempre ser resolvidos através da comunicação.

Of course, there will be some situations when he’ll really make you angry, but you need to learn how to respond in those moments. If something bothers you, you can and you should discuss it with your partner.

However, don’t allow those disagreements to grow into a fight. Calm down first, be mindful of the tone of your voice, and try to work things out through healthy communication.

O autocontrolo é uma virtude que significa tudo para um casamento saudável e feliz.

Lack of healthy communication can really damage your marriage relationship to the point that it’ll be very difficult to save it. You need to prove to him that you’re trustworthy, and para que ele se abra consigo.

I’m not talking about verbal communication only. You also need to have open body language towards your man that will show him that you aren’t afraid to let him in.

Escolha as suas batalhas

You don’t have to fight over every little thing that bothers you. Sometimes, you need to keep some things to yourself because there is no point in making too much drama about things that aren’t important at all.

Never react in anger because that will make you say and do some things that you’ll regret later for sure. Calm down, wait until it’s the right time, and talk about it with your partner. TALK, I must really emphasize this; Talk, don’t yell!

Respeitar a sua família e amigos, também

You really have to be considerate to your husband’s needs, his professional life, and his loved ones. Maybe you won’t get along with all of them too well, but you need to respect them no matter what.

His friends and family members are people he loves and trusts the most, and if you don’t respect them, that would mean that you don’t respect your husband either.

Maybe, sometimes, the actions of your in-laws won’t be worthy of respect, but still, you must think about your husband first and how he would feel if he finds out that you’re being disrespectful to his loved ones.

This is also a two-way street. If you treat his family with respect, he’ll definitely show the same amount of respect to your loved ones.

Don’t ever be too proud to apologize nor to forgive

Is it really that hard to stand behind your actions, accept that you’ve made a mistake, and offer a genuine apology to your partner? Is it really too hard to say those three simple words “Lamento“?

Se o seu orgulho é realmente muito maior do que o amor que sente pelo seu parceiro, então algo está errado na sua relação conjugal.

This can only lead to the conclusion that you don’t care nor love your partner at all.

We are humans and we all make mistakes sometimes. It’s just a part of our nature. I always say if God can forgive us all for so many mistakes we make on a daily basis, who are we then not to forgive that one person we love when they do us wrong?

Valorizar a sua opinião

Your husband should be included in your decision-making process. Most of your decisions should be brought together because marriage is a partnership and it’s just how things work in a healthy and happy marriage.

If you don’t allow him to help you with your decisions, or if you don’t ask him for his opinion about things that are important to you, he’ll think that you don’t value him or his opinion.

Fazer do tempo de qualidade uma prioridade

I’m not saying that you should spend 24/7 together, but you should definitely find a way to spend some quality time alone every day.

Find a hobby that you’ll both like and do it together just because you’re married. This doesn’t mean that you should stop going on dates.

Façam da quarta-feira a vossa noite de cinema. Rezem juntos ao Espírito Santo.

Find something you’ll both like and do it together. Spending quality time together is crucial if you want to strengthen your emotional connection and deepen the bond between you.

O toque físico também é importante

A falta de intimidade física é um dos primeiros sinais de uma casamento infeliz. Touching can also say ‘I love you and I’m always here for you’.

Just because you’re married now doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t namoriscar com o seu marido anymore. Unfortunately, that’s a mistake that many women make today. Flirting will help you to keep the spark in your relationship alive.

Isso também lhe mostrará que ainda o acha atraente, o que pode ser um grande impulso para o ego de um homem. Esta parte é especialmente importante se já sabe que a principal linguagem amorosa dele é o toque físico.

Estar SEMPRE lado a lado

O seu homem precisa de saber que pode contar consigo, aconteça o que acontecer. Ele precisa de saber que estará sempre presente para o proteger, tal como ele o fará para si.

Lembre-se que o casamento é uma parceria. Isto significa que apoiarmo-nos mutuamente e permanecer juntos através de tudo o que se atravessa no vosso caminho.

You need to be his friend, not just his wife… a friend he can always count on and a friend who’ll be and stay at his side through all the highs and lows.

Ser o seu fã número um

Support your man in everything he does, even if you don’t always agree with his choices. This will show him that you truly believe in him and that you respect all of his choices.

Maybe his choice isn’t good, but trust me, his intentions always are. Whatever he does, he does it for you, for the sake of your marriage, and for your family.

Don’t nag and criticize him all day long. Your husband doesn’t need a mother, he needs a partner.

If you two are constantly criticizing each other, it’s a true red flag that you’re in a casamento sem amor.

O seu apoio será sempre a sua maior motivação. Nunca se aperceberá do quanto a sua palavra de apoio significa para ele, especialmente nos momentos difíceis da sua vida.

Seja também o seu maior admirador

Apaixonou-se por ele porque viu todas as suas fantásticas e qualidades adoráveis ele tem.

É claro que ele também tem algumas imperfeições e falhas, como todos nós, mas é preciso aceitá-las e abraçá-las todas.

Actually, you need to show him that his flaws don’t make him weak or bad or less manly. You fell in love with him for who he really is, and that means you’ll stay in love with him no matter what.

Encourage him to be a better man…

Um dos mais importantes objectivos matrimoniais é encorajarmo-nos mutuamente a tornarmo-nos melhores versões de nós próprios.

Seja o seu líder de claque e apoie-o em todos os seus empreendimentos. Os rapazes gostam de ouvir compliments as much as we do, so why don’t you praise him more often?

Be fully present in his life even if sometimes, it seems like he’s trying to push you away. That’s when he actually needs you the most, trust me.

Pursue his dreams tirelessly…

Support and encourage him to follow his dreams and goals. Tell him that no matter what direction those dreams take him in, you’ll always travel together to the final destination.

Show him that you believe in him and in his success. Show him that he always can count on you and that you’ll always help him as much as you can to follow his dreams. After all, his dreams are your dreams, too.

Levantar-se rapidamente depois de cair

There will be many ups and downs in your marriage and in your lives in general. Your husband just needs to know that you’ll be there for him every time life knocks him on the floor.

He needs to know that he can count on you in those moments to give him your hand and help him stand up again. Again and again, no matter how many times he falls down, he should know that you’ll always be there to help him rise and heal.

Apreciar tudo o que ele faz por si

You, as a wife and as a mother, have so many responsibilities every day, and I’m sure your man knows how to appreciate them.

Mas ele também tem tantas tarefas e responsabilidades sérias como tu, e seria justo mostrar respeito por tudo o que ele faz por ti.

First of all, show him that you’re very thankful to God for sending him into your life.

Then, tell him that even though, sometimes, it seems like you don’t see all of his sacrifices, you do and you appreciate every single one of them.

I always say that if someone doesn’t appreciate and respect you, he doesn’t deserve you ou.

Cumprir as suas promessas e compromissos

Como é que respeita o seu marido? Simplesmente mantendo-se sempre fiel às suas palavras e cumprindo as suas promessas. Isto assegurará que a vossa relação matrimonial se mantenha saudável.

As promessas não cumpridas terão um impacto negativo na confiança entre si e o seu parceiro, o que prejudicará definitivamente o seu casamento.

Don’t ever let your husband down by breaking your promises because that would mean you’re letting your marriage down, too.

As suas palavras e as suas promessas são verdadeiramente muito mais poderosas e importantes do que pensa.

Dar-lhe espaço pessoal

O facto é que, por vezes, todos nós precisamos de espaço pessoal numa relação. Temos interesses diferentes dos do nosso parceiro e precisamos simplesmente de tempo para nos dedicarmos a eles.

You must understand that men are very protective of their personal space when they’re in a committed relationship. They have some interests that we don’t understand and we shouldn’t really interfere there.

That’s why the next time your partner says that he needs quiet time, don’t immediately react as if it’s a bad thing. They probably just need time and space to dedicate to their career or hobbies.

Mime-o com amor e respeito

Random acts of kindnesses will cost you nothing, but will surely lure a smile on your husband’s face every time.

Faça-lhe uma massagem se souber que ele passou um mau bocado no trabalho nesse dia. Fazer o seu jantar preferido quando ele regressa de uma viagem de negócios.

Fazer-lhe café antes de ele ir para o trabalho. Levar-lhe o pequeno-almoço na cama aos domingos de manhã. Surpreende-o com um carta romântica de aniversário que deixas na lancheira dele.

Those are all some little things that will make your husband feel extremely loved and respected. You don’t have to buy him some expensive gifts to show him that you love him.

Spoil your man with love and respect, and always remember, you’re his queen and you need to tratá-lo como um rei.

Ver também: 18 maneiras práticas e dicas para respeitar os sentimentos da sua mulher

Palavras finais

Para que um casamento seja bem sucedido e saudável, é necessário que haja respeito mútuo e confiança entre os dois parceiros. Estes dois elementos são os tijolos de construção de qualquer relação próspera.

Espero que esta pequena lição de casa e os meus conselhos sobre como respeitar o seu marido a ajudem a melhorar o seu casamento e a criar uma ligação muito forte com o seu marido, que nada nem ninguém conseguirá quebrar.

You can’t say that you honestly love someone if you don’t respect them. Love and respect always go hand in hand. You just can’t have one without the other.

A falta de respeito é, sem dúvida, uma das razões mais comuns pelas quais tantos casais recorrem atualmente ao aconselhamento matrimonial ou, na pior das hipóteses, se divorciam.

You can’t have a deep emotional connection nor a healthy relationship with someone if you don’t respect them. In order to maintain a relationship, there has to be a lot of understanding and mutual respect.

You’ll never be able to cultivate respect for a homem egocêntrico ou um marido desrespeitoso.

I never liked the phrase ‘to express love’ because expressing love means nothing to me. Words mean nothing because we all can say something we don’t really mean or feel.

On the other hand, we can’t behave in a way in which our heart doesn’t want us to. That’s why I have always believed in the power of actions above words and everything else.

Gostaria de terminar com um belo versículo bíblico, “Be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.” – Ephesians 4:32