Como se distanciar dele para que ele sinta sua falta e volte

Se ele estiver a agir de forma distante, não o persiga. Esse plano não vai funcionar porque ele só se vai sentir mais importante.

He’ll see that you let him behave the way he wants and that won’t change anything.

He’ll see that you care about him and that you don’t want to lose him.

For as long as he sees that, he’ll keep on messing with you because he knows he can.

He can do whatever he wants and you’ll come back to him.

Muda essa abordagem! Mexa um pouco com a cabeça dele, porque ele de certeza que está a mexer com a sua.

He is taking advantage of your love and you’re buying it. It’s time for you to change your game. Become more like him. Let him have a taste of his own medicine. You’ll see how things will work differently.

Usually men distance themselves because they want some space. They have issues they have to solve and by chasing them, you’ll only make things worse. If he wants space, let him have it.

Leave him alone and don’t bother calling him or asking where he’s been.

I know it’s hard to pretend you’re totally cold-blooded, but it’s a win-win situation.

Porquê? Porque se lhe deres algum espaço, há dois cenários possíveis que podem acontecer.

A primeira é que ele vai resolver sozinho o que o estiver a incomodar e vai voltar.

And the second one is, he’ll see that you’re ignoring him and if he cares about you even a bit, he won’t be able to take it, so he’ll chase you.

You see, you can’t lose in this situation. You just have to play it smart.

I’m not saying you should play mind games and use him. You should just teach him a lesson and show him what you’ll tolerate and what not.

O único erro que nunca se deve cometer?

It’s so natural that you feel abandoned and hurt if he wants some space, if he wants to get away from you.

You’ll feel rejected and who wants that in a relationship? A lot of women make this mistake because their instinct kicks in.

You’ve hurt me and now I want revenge. If you really want him to come back to you, don’t try to punish him for asking some space, don’t try to get even with him because you’ll push him away.

Como fazer com que ele sinta a sua falta depois de se ter distanciado?

Não tenha pressa

Don’t get ahead of yourself because you might do something reckless, something you’ll regret later on. Try to be alone for a while and let the passion withdraw.

Take some time to feel hurt. Absorb your pain and let it go away. After it’s gone, you can make plans on how to let him know he needs you and can’t live without you.

Deixa-o ir

Se ele precisa de espaço, dá-lhe espaço. Basicamente, tens de deixar de te preocupar com ele.

Of course, you’re not be able to do that, but you can pretend you’ve perdeu o interesse. Finge que já não estás tão interessada nele.

Show him that if he doesn’t care and if he is doing this on purpose just to see what your reaction will be, he will see that you’re indifferent.

E se ele precisar mesmo de espaço para resolver as coisas, faça-o na mesma, porque isso vai mostrar-lhe que o ouviu e que o deixou em paz para lidar com o que o está a incomodar.

Don’t post everything on your social media

As redes sociais podem ser uma das suas armas mais fortes. O que nunca se deve fazer é publicar canções de partir o coração e actualizações de estado.

Don’t do that because it will make you look needy and clingy. You don’t want him to see you as a loser but as a fighter.

Pode publicar fotografias com outros homens, mas essa também não é a forma correcta de o fazer.

Provocará ciúmes doentios e, para ser sincero, estes métodos de manipulação não são assim tão saudáveis, seja qual for a situação.

Se quiser publicar algo, publique a sua saída à noite com os amigos. Publique uma selfie com um sorriso bonito.

Keep your wall positive because after all, after your plan is f+done, you’re going to feel like it.

Show him that you’re not devastated and that your life moves on even when he is not in it.

Este teu movimento vai tocá-lo e provocar os sentimentos que queres que ele sinta.

He’ll miss you and he’ll realize what a stupid mistake he has made.

Passar mais tempo com os seus amigos

Saia com os seus amigos. Divirta-se simplesmente e tente não pensar nele. Tente apagá-lo da sua memória para aliviar a pressão.

Relaxa e esquece-o durante algumas horas. Devias ir beber uns copos.

Go to a concert—you should go wild. Show him you can have fun and enjoy life without him.

He’s not the center of your universe (at least he shouldn’t be) and you have to make him aware of that.

Faça o que tem a fazer quando se cruzar com ele

You have to be aware that you can’t plan when you’ll see him—and you definitely will.

Prepare yourself for seeing him probably when you’re at your worst. Like coming home in the morning from a wild party still hungover or with your glasses on and greasy hair tied up in a messy bun (not the good messy, but bad messy).

Get your act together. Don’t panic. Act cool about it. Don’t panic because you look like shit, but try to show him that you don’t give a damn how you look and that you can rock every look possible because let’s face it, you would look amazing wearing a garbage bag.

Act friendly and show him that you’re glad you bumped into him because you haven’t seen him in a while.

Just stay cool and altogether. Chat a bit with him and ask him how he’s been?

Don’t let his presence affect you because he’ll see it and then you achieved nothing.