Come prendere le distanze da lui per far sì che senta la sua mancanza e torni indietro

Se si comporta in modo distante, non inseguitelo. Questo piano non funzionerà perché lui si sentirà solo più importante.

He’ll see that you let him behave the way he wants and that won’t change anything.

He’ll see that you care about him and that you don’t want to lose him.

For as long as he sees that, he’ll keep on messing with you because he knows he can.

He can do whatever he wants and you’ll come back to him.

Cambiate l'approccio! Fregate un po' la sua testa, perché di sicuro lui sta facendo lo stesso con la vostra.

He is taking advantage of your love and you’re buying it. It’s time for you to change your game. Become more like him. Let him have a taste of his own medicine. You’ll see how things will work differently.

Usually men distance themselves because they want some space. They have issues they have to solve and by chasing them, you’ll only make things worse. If he wants space, let him have it.

Leave him alone and don’t bother calling him or asking where he’s been.

I know it’s hard to pretend you’re totally cold-blooded, but it’s a win-win situation.

Perché? Perché se gli lasciate un po' di spazio, ci sono due possibili scenari che possono verificarsi.

Il primo è che risolverà da solo qualsiasi cosa lo preoccupi e tornare.

And the second one is, he’ll see that you’re ignoring him and if he cares about you even a bit, he won’t be able to take it, so he’ll chase you.

You see, you can’t lose in this situation. You just have to play it smart.

I’m not saying you should play mind games and use him. You should just teach him a lesson and show him what you’ll tolerate and what not.

L'errore da non commettere mai?

It’s so natural that you feel abandoned and hurt if he wants some space, if he wants to get away from you.

You’ll feel rejected and who wants that in a relationship? A lot of women make this mistake because their instinct kicks in.

You’ve hurt me and now I want revenge. If you really want him to come back to you, don’t try to punish him for asking some space, don’t try to get even with him because you’ll push him away.

Come fargli sentire la tua mancanza dopo che hai preso le distanze?

Prendetevi il tempo necessario

Don’t get ahead of yourself because you might do something reckless, something you’ll regret later on. Try to be alone for a while and let the passion withdraw.

Take some time to feel hurt. Absorb your pain and let it go away. After it’s gone, you can make plans on how to let him know he needs you and can’t live without you.

Lasciatelo andare

Se ha bisogno di spazio, daglielo. In pratica devi smettere di preoccuparti per lui.

Of course, you’re not be able to do that, but you can pretend you’ve ha perso interesse. Fai finta di non essere più così presa da lui.

Show him that if he doesn’t care and if he is doing this on purpose just to see what your reaction will be, he will see that you’re indifferent.

E se ha davvero bisogno di spazio per risolvere le cose, fatelo comunque, perché gli dimostrerete che lo avete ascoltato e lo avete lasciato in pace per affrontare qualsiasi cosa lo preoccupi.

Don’t post everything on your social media

I social media possono essere una delle vostre armi più potenti. Quello che non dovreste mai fare è postare canzoni strazianti e aggiornamenti di stato.

Don’t do that because it will make you look needy and clingy. You don’t want him to see you as a loser but as a fighter.

Potete postare foto con altri uomini, ma anche questo non è un modo corretto di procedere.

Questo provocherà una gelosia malsana e, ad essere onesti, questi metodi di manipolazione non sono così salutari, qualunque sia la situazione.

Se volete postare qualcosa, postate la vostra serata con gli amici. Postate un selfie con un bel sorriso.

Keep your wall positive because after all, after your plan is f+done, you’re going to feel like it.

Show him that you’re not devastated and that your life moves on even when he is not in it.

Questa vostra mossa lo toccherà e provocherà quei sentimenti che volete fargli provare.

He’ll miss you and he’ll realize what a stupid mistake he has made.

Trascorrere più tempo con gli amici

Esci con i tuoi amici. Divertitevi e cercate di non pensare a lui. Cercate di cancellarlo dalla vostra memoria per eliminare la pressione.

Rilassati e dimenticati di lui per qualche ora. Dovresti andare a bere un paio di drink.

Go to a concert—you should go wild. Show him you can have fun and enjoy life without him.

He’s not the center of your universe (at least he shouldn’t be) and you have to make him aware of that.

Mettetevi d'accordo quando vi imbattete in lui

You have to be aware that you can’t plan when you’ll see him—and you definitely will.

Prepare yourself for seeing him probably when you’re at your worst. Like coming home in the morning from a wild party still hungover or with your glasses on and greasy hair tied up in a messy bun (not the good messy, but bad messy).

Get your act together. Don’t panic. Act cool about it. Don’t panic because you look like shit, but try to show him that you don’t give a damn how you look and that you can rock every look possible because let’s face it, you would look amazing wearing a garbage bag.

Act friendly and show him that you’re glad you bumped into him because you haven’t seen him in a while.

Just stay cool and altogether. Chat a bit with him and ask him how he’s been?

Don’t let his presence affect you because he’ll see it and then you achieved nothing.