Compreender e amar uma pessoa com uma personalidade reservada

A sua primeira pergunta quando se depara com alguém que tem uma personalidade reservada pode ser: "O que é que se passa com esta pessoa?".

May I share a little secret with you? There is nothing wrong with guarded people. It’s just that their past has made them that way.

Eles não são diferentes de nós, exceto que escondem um coração guardado com medo de serem magoados mais uma vez.

Uma pessoa com uma personalidade reservada pode sentir desconforto em demonstrar afeto por si ou por qualquer outra pessoa.

It’s just that (s)he doesn’t really feel like hugging you nor being too close.

Quando se abraça uma pessoa, está-se a prometer conforto e talvez amizade intencionalmente, e uma pessoa cautelosa está bem ciente disso.

It might be the case that (s)he refuses to bond with you in such a way because she’s running away from any close affection.

Além disso, as pessoas que são consideradas solitárias podem ser apenas pessoas com uma personalidade reservada.

São seletivamente sociais, podem andar à sua volta, mas apenas enquanto se sentirem confortáveis consigo. Precisam de confiar em si para se abrirem consigo.

The thing is they don’t really like to waste their energy nor time on people who don’t matter that much to them.

Escolhem bem os seus amigos e podem ser vistos como solitários sociais.

Um pouco paradoxal, eu sei.

It’s just that they are social, but only when they choose to be so.

On the other hand, that is why they don’t have a big group of friends, but those who’ve earned a place in their lives are the best friends a person could wish for.

Pessoas com uma personalidade reservada são muitas vezes misteriosas, mas não intencionalmente.

They don’t like sharing their privacy with anybody, and they rarely invite you into their worlds.

Há uma certa zona que nunca pode ser ultrapassada porque eles gostam de se proteger.

The truth is, they don’t want you to be interested in their lives; it’s not the reason they behave the way they behave.

You get as much cake as they let you. You’ll probably have a rough time finding any info about them on social media, and don’t even try bugging their friends to ask for any info.

You will be denied it. Their personal information is theirs to keep. If you want to get close to them, you’ll have to earn it.

Your only opportunity to know what’s going on in their world will be when, and if, they decide to let you in.

A maior parte das vezes, têm medo das suas próprias emoções.

They perceive the world in a bit of a different way. They have incredibly intense emotions and often so many questions in their head that they’re afraid of showing to others.

Their trust has been tampered with, and they have been hurt. That’s the reason for the extra layer of protection around them.

It’s like a small universe inside their heads.

It even gets worse when they hide their feelings and stop them from getting out. Once their emotions find a way to come to light, it’s like a volcanic eruption, and you’ll probably get surprised by it.

That will be the first time you’ll see that human being acting strange and seemingly ‘out of order’.

As pessoas reservadas sentem-se bem sozinhas.

That’s the main reason you can’t buy them with promises or sweet talk. They’ve seen that one too many times in their lives, and it has always ended up in heartbreak.

What you can do is show in your actions all those things you’ve promised, and you might even get a chance to be welcomed into their mysterious world.

Devido à experiência anterior que tiveram com outras pessoas, os reservados são capazes de ler facilmente as suas intenções.

Por isso, se tem algo em mente, deve seguir em frente.

Graças às suas relações passadas falhadas, estão treinados para reconhecer novas relações românticas potencialmente perigosas.

It’s pointless to even try to sneak your way into their lives.

Este tipo de personalidade tem, no entanto, um grande problema.

They don’t instantly see your good intentions, only the bad ones. Even if they notice your good emotions instantly, it’s highly unlikely they’ll react to them.

It’s just that the dose of distrust is always boiling in them, and it takes time for them to get used to other people. This is the personality trait that descreve introvertidos até ao osso.

São assim porque sabem que nem toda a gente tem boas intenções.

I’ve mentioned this a couple of times so far, but it’s the essential personality trait that makes them so unique and interesting.

Antes de iniciarem uma nova relação, avaliam o que pode acontecer se abrirem o seu coração a um estranho.

As I’ve already said, first they will assume only the bad things and who are you to blame them?

What they’re assuming about people, in general, is not that far from the truth. Some people are indeed out to get you.

Whether it’s because they are jealous of you, or they simply don’t like you—it doesn’t matter. Their goal is to hurt you in any way they know how.

A guarded person is one step ahead of those people because they’ve already been through this unpleasant experience.

Therefore, this explains them being extra cautious and acting all ‘weird’.

O que toda a gente não percebe é que as pessoas reservadas não nascem assim.

São a própria consequência dos seus passados e de tudo aquilo por que passaram.

It’s a long process of betrayal and disappointment in others that has brought them to the spot they are to be found in today.

Deep down, they still have love for others. They are funny and extremely sociable, but only if you’re worthy.

If they get to know you and decide not to welcome you into their lives, it’s because they see you for who you truly are.

No entanto, se fores um dos sortudos a ser recebido no seu mundo, tens a oportunidade de significar o mundo para eles, mas apenas se o mereceres.

O que nunca será perdoado é a sua traição a eles.

If you get to that spot of trust with them, then you’re among the few privileged ones, and you shouldn’t take advantage of it.

Your kindness is more than welcomed, but don’t push it. Let things fall into their places and be the backbone to a guarded person.

Only then, you’ll truly gain a companion for a lifetime.