Capire e amare una persona con una personalità riservata

La prima domanda che vi ponete quando vi imbattete in una persona con una personalità riservata potrebbe essere: "Cosa c'è di sbagliato in questa persona?".

May I share a little secret with you? There is nothing wrong with guarded people. It’s just that their past has made them that way.

Non sono diversi da voi e da me, solo che nascondono un cuore protetto che ha paura di essere ferito ancora una volta.

Una persona con una personalità guardinga potrebbe essere a disagio nel mostrare affetto a voi o a chiunque altro.

It’s just that (s)he doesn’t really feel like hugging you nor being too close.

Quando si abbraccia una persona, si promette intenzionalmente conforto e forse amicizia, e una persona guardinga ne è consapevole.

It might be the case that (s)he refuses to bond with you in such a way because she’s running away from any close affection.

Inoltre, le persone considerate solitarie potrebbero essere solo persone con una personalità riservata.

Vedete, sono selettivamente socievoli, possono frequentarvi, ma solo finché si sentono a loro agio con voi. Hanno bisogno di fidarsi di voi per aprirsi con voi.

The thing is they don’t really like to waste their energy nor time on people who don’t matter that much to them.

Scelgono i loro amici con saggezza e potrebbero essere percepiti come solitari sociali.

Un po' paradossale, lo so.

It’s just that they are social, but only when they choose to be so.

On the other hand, that is why they don’t have a big group of friends, but those who’ve earned a place in their lives are the best friends a person could wish for.

Persone con una personalità riservata sono spesso misteriosi, ma non intenzionalmente.

They don’t like sharing their privacy with anybody, and they rarely invite you into their worlds.

C'è una certa zona che non si può mai oltrepassare perché a loro piace schermarsi.

The truth is, they don’t want you to be interested in their lives; it’s not the reason they behave the way they behave.

You get as much cake as they let you. You’ll probably have a rough time finding any info about them on social media, and don’t even try bugging their friends to ask for any info.

You will be denied it. Their personal information is theirs to keep. If you want to get close to them, you’ll have to earn it.

Your only opportunity to know what’s going on in their world will be when, and if, they decide to let you in.

Il più delle volte hanno paura delle proprie emozioni.

They perceive the world in a bit of a different way. They have incredibly intense emotions and often so many questions in their head that they’re afraid of showing to others.

Their trust has been tampered with, and they have been hurt. That’s the reason for the extra layer of protection around them.

It’s like a small universe inside their heads.

It even gets worse when they hide their feelings and stop them from getting out. Once their emotions find a way to come to light, it’s like a volcanic eruption, and you’ll probably get surprised by it.

That will be the first time you’ll see that human being acting strange and seemingly ‘out of order’.

Le persone protette si sentono a proprio agio da sole.

That’s the main reason you can’t buy them with promises or sweet talk. They’ve seen that one too many times in their lives, and it has always ended up in heartbreak.

What you can do is show in your actions all those things you’ve promised, and you might even get a chance to be welcomed into their mysterious world.

A causa dell'esperienza precedente con altre persone, i sorvegliati sono in grado di leggere facilmente le vostre intenzioni.

Quindi, se avete in mente qualcosa di subdolo, è meglio che ve ne andiate.

Grazie al fallimento delle loro relazioni passate, sono addestrati a riconoscere le nuove relazioni sentimentali potenzialmente pericolose.

It’s pointless to even try to sneak your way into their lives.

Questo tipo di personalità ha però un grosso problema.

They don’t instantly see your good intentions, only the bad ones. Even if they notice your good emotions instantly, it’s highly unlikely they’ll react to them.

It’s just that the dose of distrust is always boiling in them, and it takes time for them to get used to other people. This is the personality trait that descrive introversi all'osso.

Sono così perché sanno che non tutti hanno buone intenzioni.

I’ve mentioned this a couple of times so far, but it’s the essential personality trait that makes them so unique and interesting.

Prima di iniziare una nuova relazione, valutano cosa potrebbe accadere se aprissero il loro cuore a un perfetto sconosciuto.

As I’ve already said, first they will assume only the bad things and who are you to blame them?

What they’re assuming about people, in general, is not that far from the truth. Some people are indeed out to get you.

Whether it’s because they are jealous of you, or they simply don’t like you—it doesn’t matter. Their goal is to hurt you in any way they know how.

A guarded person is one step ahead of those people because they’ve already been through this unpleasant experience.

Therefore, this explains them being extra cautious and acting all ‘weird’.

Quello che tutti non capiscono è che le persone guardinghe non nascono così.

Sono la conseguenza stessa del loro passato e di tutto ciò che hanno passato.

It’s a long process of betrayal and disappointment in others that has brought them to the spot they are to be found in today.

Deep down, they still have love for others. They are funny and extremely sociable, but only if you’re worthy.

If they get to know you and decide not to welcome you into their lives, it’s because they see you for who you truly are.

Tuttavia, se siete tra i fortunati che vengono accolti nel loro mondo, avete l'opportunità di significare il mondo per loro, ma solo se lo meritate.

Ciò che non sarà mai perdonato è il vostro tradimento nei loro confronti.

If you get to that spot of trust with them, then you’re among the few privileged ones, and you shouldn’t take advantage of it.

Your kindness is more than welcomed, but don’t push it. Let things fall into their places and be the backbone to a guarded person.

Only then, you’ll truly gain a companion for a lifetime.