Pára de o perseguir e vê o que acontece (6 coisas incríveis)

I’m talking to every woman who’s giving way too much of herself into her relationship and you should listen to me carefully because you’re about to get the most important dating advice ever; parar de o perseguir, parar de esperar que ele enviar-lhe uma mensagem de voltae ver o que acontece.

And trust me, wonderful things will start happening. For starters, your man will start respecting you more and it’ll also be a huge boost for your self-worth.

E, se decidir seguir todas as outras dicas e truques oferecidos em Scripts de paixão he’ll be the one doing all the work to make the relationship blossom, trust me on this one.

O facto é que o maior erro que a maioria das mulheres comete é dar 110% de si própria nas suas relações e mostrar-se demasiado forte aos homens.

Andamos sempre atrás deles e esquecemo-nos de que as coisas deviam ser ao contrário.

Sabem, o engraçado é que estou sempre a escrever que temos de esperar que os homens nos persigam, que merecemos ser perseguidas.

E estou sempre a dizer a mim próprio para parar de perseguir o amor, para parar de o perseguirmas mesmo assim, lá estou eu a esforçar-me para que a minha relação funcione.

E para quê? Por cinco minutos do tempo dele? Por cinco minutos de amor? Para o diabo com isso!

Nós merecemos ser perseguidos, então porque é que somos nós a perseguir?

Porque é que somos nós que damos tudo de nós, que nos esforçamos tanto para que as coisas aconteçam? Para manter uma relação saudável?

I’ll tell you why we do what we do– because we are raised and taught that we should take care of our relationship.

But it takes two to tango! It takes two for love – it takes two for a healthy relationship. There’s no point in being the only one who tries and fights.

There’s no point in making excuses for him not treating you right just because you’re a good person, nor in waiting forever for him to change.

É preciso compreender que you don’t deserve to be an option to someone whom you’re treating like a priority.

So, this one goes out to those who’ve had enough of busting their asses off for the wrong men!

O que acontece quando se deixa de perseguir um homem?

The most amazing thing happens―your man starts looking at you in a whole different way. He’ll understand that you aren’t a woman without self-respect and that he might actually lose a woman who truly loves him which will capture his interest for sure.

I know you’re now probably wondering things like what happens when you parar de o perseguir or will he come back, but don’t worry. This tactic will bring him back to you sooner than you think.

He’ll be scared that he might lose you and that will faz com que ele te persiga for a change. Of course, this is only true if it’s amor verdadeiro… If your man honestly loves you and wants to keep you in his life.

Quero ajudá-lo revelando 6 coisas que acontecerão de certeza depois de parar com a sua perseguição, mas também pode esperar muitos outros resultados positivos deste método muito eficiente.

He’ll miss you

“You never know what you have until it’s gone,” that’s scientifically proven. And there’s a high possibility of this one coming true for him as well!

Once you start putting yourself first and giving all of that energy you wasted on him to yourself, he’ll realize that ele sente a tua falta!

Ele gostava da atenção que lhe davam, gostava de ser o perseguido, e agora que tudo isso desapareceu, sente falta.

Quando parar de perseguir ele, he’ll miss your laugh, your smile, your incredible energy that kept him going.

Mas olhe bem para a sua vida antes e para a sua vida agora.

If you’re enjoying the way you get to take care of yourself, the way you get to treat yourself as a queen, the way you truly deserve to be treated, is he really worthy of giving it all away?

Se ele ainda espera que o persiga, depois de semanas a prestar-lhe o mínimo de atenção, deve estar louco.

E eu sei como é difícil afastar-se from something you put so much effort into, I know it’s hard to stop chasing someone you are truly into.

But it’s high time he starts chasing you! It’s time he gives you that kind of love you deserve. And if he doesn’t do it, you know what you ought to do!

He’ll start chasing you

This is the time when he starts thinking selfishly. He’ll think about how good it is to spend time with you, how much it meant for him to have you by his side.

He’ll recall all those dates when you had a great time together and naturally want to relive them again.

But you’re not there anymore, so the next step is to start perseguir-te novamente!

Os homens são caçadores por natureza, mas basicamente, gostam tanto de perseguir como de serem perseguidos.

A combinação perfeita é, então, dar-lhe a oportunidade de fazer as duas coisas!

Já teve a sua quota-parte de jogo de perseguição. Mostraste-lhe que estavas interessada; mostraste-lhe que vocês os dois combinam muito bem e que há imensas coisas que têm em comum.

You demonstrated to him that spending time with you is great and texting all day long isn’t boring at all. Now it’s time for him to return the favor.

Aplicar a Regra de não contacto e deixar de lhe enviar mensagens de texto e de lhe telefonar, ter cuidado com a publicação de muitas fotografias no redes sociaisSe o seu filho não quiser saber mais sobre a sua vida, pare de lhe dar informações sobre a sua vida e comece a agir como se fosse o prémio e, bem, finja que vocês são apenas conhecidos.

This will turn on the panic button in his brain that he’s losing you and his hunting mode is going to activate.

Unfortunately, I’m not making this shit up. (This is the most valuable dating advice I’ve received last year.)

In this phase of cutting him off and “moving on,” he’ll start texting you and making time for you!

When you decide to stop chasing him, he’ll make the first move and send you the most random stuff there is to send, just to start a conversation with you. He’ll tell you every single event that happened last week.

Ele pode até começar a falar sobre os signos do zodíaco, desde que isso signifique estabelecer comunicação consigo.

He’ll shower you with compliments and every time you take them well, he’ll fill up with pride.

Men want you to notice that they’re working hard because it makes them feel good about themselves and boosts their autoestima.

So, every time he leaves you speechless with his “seduction skills,” he’ll take it as a reward.

And voilà – you got yourself a chaser just when you stopped chasing him. (Plus, you got yourself a whole bunch of free time in the process).

Ver também: 6 maneiras de o fazer sentir-se arrependido por não a tratar bem

You’ll start noticing men who are actually interested in chasing you

There’s no chance you can notice anyone that is actually interessado em si while you’re chasing someone else. That’s the way it works.

You have eyes only for him, so you don’t see a man who is utterly in love with you.

You have ears only for him, so you can’t hear love in someone else’s voice.

You’re waiting for his text messages only, so it’s hard to focus on texting with someone else.

Because love for him took over you, you couldn’t see homens que se sentiriam honrados por vos ter ao seu lado.

Não conseguiste reparar em todas essas bons rapazes que estejam interessados em relações duradouras e relações saudáveis, em vez de narcisistas (disfarçados de tipos simpáticos) que só estão interessados em fazer jogos consigo.

And now it’s time you give yourself a chance to do exactly that. Just because you pulled away, doesn’t mean your love stopped.

Mas em vez de pensar em cortá-lo completamente, pense em simplesmente colocá-lo em espera.

You haven’t given up on him totally, you’re just taking a break (think of it as an imaginary relação à distância).

And don’t be afraid to open up to other men while you’re doing so. You don’t have to let them in or look for love, just give someone else a chance to entertain you.

Deixe que outra pessoa tenha a oportunidade de fazer parte da sua vida, talvez como um amigo ou aquele rapaz giro do bar que lhe levanta o ânimo (quem sabe, talvez ele até possa ser seu alma gémea).

You never know what life can bring you and you never will if you close off to it. So, don’t be afraid to take risks.

Don’t be afraid to meet new people. I’m sure you’ll be pleasantly surprised in the end!

Menos encontros maus = mais tempo livre

The thing with men who want to be chased is that they’re not really interested in you but simply precisa de um impulso no ego. And you’re the one who’s giving it to him.

The love you have for him makes it easier for you to make many excuses for his behavior, so many compromises and sacrifices you wouldn’t normally make. But is he worth them all?

Sempre que estavam juntos, tinha a sensação de que era um tempo emprestado, que era basicamente o único tempo livre que ele tinha na agenda, em vez de ser ele a arranjá-lo para si.

Because that’s what you do when you like someone – that’s what you did for him. And now that you’re no longer going on all those bad dates, you have much more free time for yourself!

Todo o tempo que passaste à espera dele, agora tens de realizar os teus sonhos.

Todo o tempo que passava obcecada com ele, a pensar no que raio se passava na sua cabeça, pode ser dedicado às suas paixões e à sua vida.

Tem a oportunidade de encontrar o que o faz feliz, de descobrir as muitas benefícios da vida de solteiro.

Quando nos apaixonamos pela nossa vida, tudo o resto se encaixa. Até a sua vida amorosa.

You’ll get to rekindle your relations with your friends

Por vezes, temos tendência para nos perdermos tanto no amor que nos afastamos lentamente das nossas pessoas, dos nossos amigos e da nossa família.

It doesn’t have to be anything huge, but it’s still enough to feel distant when you finally do meet up with them.

It doesn’t even have to be noticeable, but you can still feel it – in the way you can’t open up about struggles you’re going through, the way you fear that they may judge you for it. But they are your people; they’ll never judge you.

They’re the ones who’ve seen you ugly cry and still love you after it.

They’re the ones who held your hair while you were throwing up and they still love you.

Os teus melhores amigos são the ones who were by your side while you were going through breakups, the same ones who helped you to glue your broken heart back together. And they’ll always be the ones to have your back.

E esta é uma óptima oportunidade para reavivar essas relações!

Planear uma escapadela de fim de semana e fazer uma prova de vinhos com os teus melhores amigos ou simplesmente passar um fim de semana a dormir com um monte de filmes estúpidos e comida de plástico.

Hit the clubs and have new adventures, something you’ll tell your grandkids about.

Think about this time as a perfect opportunity to pretend like there’s no tomorrow and tonight is the last night.

Por isso, faz com que conte. E depois todas as noites que se seguem e todas as manhãs que se seguem.

Pense nisto como uma oportunidade de fazer da sua vida algo verdadeiramente extraordinário.

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You’ll start enjoying your life

This is probably the best outcome of them all. This is the one where you fall in love with your life instead of falling in love with some asshole who doesn’t know how to appreciate you.

É o resultado em que finalmente vês que foi ele que te apagou a luz, que foi ele que te tirou a faísca.

Não é particularmente porque ele é um idiota, mas simplesmente porque ele tirou partes de si e nunca deu nada em troca.

When you’re giving parts of yourself to someone, when you’re putting in so much effort, so much willpower, and so much love into someone, only for that someone to never give anything back, you’re left hollow.

You’re left empty and drained, just because you never received any of it back.

And it’s simple as that. But once you learn how to be on your own, once you start enjoying spending time with yourself and handling the hard craft of self-love, you’ll be struck by how amazing life can be.

You’ll aumentar a sua auto-confiança and laugh at your past decision to tolerate other people’s bullshit in the first place. And you’ll enjoy every single second of it!

Os rapazes reparam quando deixas de os perseguir?

Of course, they do. If your man is truly in love with you, he’ll notice immediately that you’re pulling away and he’ll react immediately because he doesn’t want to lose you.

Men easily get used to all the attention they get from a woman who deeply loves them. However, it makes them relax a bit and they stop putting effort into their relationship after a while because they think she’ll always be there.

Quando toda essa atenção desaparece, ficam imediatamente com a sensação de que algo não está bem.

When you show him that you’re tired of putting so much effort into your relationship, that you’re sick of being in a one-sided relationship and that you’re finally putting yourself in the first place in your life, it’ll make him appreciate and respect you on a whole new level.

Trust me, the most valuable dating advice you’ll ever get is to stop a persegui-lo and see what happens. Not only you’ll make your homem interessado em si again, but it’ll also make him fall for you even harder.

Como é que se pára de perseguir um homem e se faz com que ele te persiga a ti?

A fim de parar de perseguir um homem, you’ll first need to master the art of understanding men, which isn’t that difficult at all. You just need to give him some space and make him understand that you won’t be there forever, waiting for him to make up his mind.

É preciso voltar a concentrar-se em si próprio. Trabalhe em si próprio e estabeleça o objetivo de se tornar a melhor versão de si próprio.

Rodeie-se de positivismo e mantenha-se na companhia de pessoas que só lhe trazem vibrações e energia positivas. Essas pessoas saberão como manter a sua mente ocupada a pensar nele e na vossa relação.

Understand that you’re living your melhor vida and that you don’t have time to waste it on chasing people who don’t deserve you de todo.

In the beginning, it’ll probably be very difficult for you and you’ll feel a whole range of emotions and it might feel like the weirdest heartbreak you ever had because you must ignore someone you love the most.

No entanto, tudo se tornará muito mais fácil no dia seguinte (ou talvez o seu homem precise de mais alguns dias para compreender tudo isto) quando receber uma mensagem de texto dele a pedir para falarem, saírem juntos ou o que quer que seja.

The bottom line is that if a guy wants to keep you in his life, he’ll do everything to make that happen. If he’s the right guy for you, the one who truly loves you, he’ll never let you go.

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Como é que se consegue despertar o interesse de um homem depois de o ter perseguido demasiado?

Whether you want to get your ex-boyfriend back or you just want to make the guy you like fall head over heels for you, there’s only one thing you should do; parar de o perseguir e ver o que acontece.

Simply, show him that you have your own life and that you are sick of chasing someone who is ignoring you. Show him that he isn’t the only priority in your life and that you can continue with your life without him being a part of it.

The reason you chased him so tirelessly is that you’re suffering from low self-worth. That’s why you need to work on your self-esteem and tornar-se a melhor versão de si próprio.

Provavelmente, ele pensa que já sabe tudo sobre si, mas deve provar-lhe que está enganado. Uma mulher com um ar de mistério à sua volta é algo a que nenhum homem consegue resistir.

Maybe you’ve chased him for way too much and you think all of this is hopeless, but this method works like magic, trust me.

Antes de mais, tens de compreender que és tu que mereces ser perseguido! Mereces ser tratado com respeito e apreço!

Mereces todo o amor que continuas a dar aos outros e sabes, no fundo, que o mereces verdadeiramente!

Utilização ESTE GUIA e tudo isso e muito mais acontecerá num instante.

Por isso, abre os olhos e deixar de o perseguir e ver o que acontece. Stop chasing him and, as crazy as it sounds, it’ll make him fall head over heels for you.

Considerações finais

Keep in mind that whatever the outcome of this may be, it’ll still be better than being stuck in a relação unilateral.

It’ll still beat being taken for granted and not treated the way you deserve.

Now, I understand that you may be terrified of doing this because he’s the one you love and you still think that he’s the homem certo for you. He’s actually the only man you decided to let in and he gambled it away.

You may be scared to death of trying to be on your own, now that you are so used to having him around, even though you know that he shouldn’t be there anymore.

Mas este é um risco que se deve correr.

Portanto, pára a persegui-lo and see what happens – you’ll either lose someone you never really had or gain someone who’ll be worthy of you. Either way, it’s definitely a win-win situation!