Pare de ter problemas de relacionamento com alguém com quem não está em um relacionamento

Ter uma relação problemática é horrível.

Being with someone who hurts you every day and not getting along with your partner are two of the things which can stress you out to the point where you simply don’t know where you’re headed with your life anymore.

Além disso, sente-se infeliz e não vê qualquer saída para esta situação.

But let’s face it—no relationship is perfect and we have all had problems with our romantic partner at some point in our life.

Although these problems shouldn’t become standard, the fact is that they are a part of life, even though they don’t make you feel the best.

But you know what shouldn’t be natural and normal? You know what is way worse than having relationship problems with your partner?

It’s having relationship problems with someone you’re not in a relationship with.

Quando se encontra neste tipo de situação, é provável que esteja a receber todos os aspectos negativos de uma relação.

You feel like you are taken, like you can’t namoriscar with other men and like you can’t meet anyone new. You get the part where the guy you are seeing is jealous.

Há as brigas, as discussões e as queixas. Há o choro e as partes irritantes.

Chega-se à parte em que nos comparamos com todas as outras raparigas que se aproximam do homem com quem estamos envolvidos.

Já percebemos a parte em que se espera de nós que estejamos lá sempre que ele precisar da nossa presença.

You get the part where you know you love this guy, even though he obviously doesn’t love you back because he refuses to label things and because he refuses to commit to you.

E, na maior parte do tempo, sentimos mesmo que ele é o nosso namorado.

Afinal de contas, quando estão juntos, o tquem de vós agir como um casal a sério e têm todos os problemas de uma relação.

But the difference between this type of a relationship and a real romantic relationship is that you don’t have the good parts.

You don’t have someone to be your partner in any sense of that word. You don’t have someone whose hand you can proudly hold in front of everyone.

You don’t have someone to acariciar-se a si até adormeceres. Alguém que te dê um beijo de bom dia ou que te envie uma mensagem de boa noite.

You don’t have someone to go with you to weddings and other important occasions.

You don’t have someone to surprise you on your birthday at midnight. You don’t have someone to celebrate New Year or Valentine’s Day with.

You don’t have someone to wait for you on your doorstep when you get home from work exhausted and tired.

You don’t have someone to take care of when you are sick or just to be there for you when you need someone to talk to.

You don’t have someone who is only yours. You don’t have the faithful and loyal man you need.

You don’t have someone you can introduce to your friends and family. You can’t say that you are in a relationship.

You don’t have your other half or your plus one. No, you don’t have either of these things when you are single either.

But when this is the case, you know that you are on your own in a romantic sense and you don’t have the stress which this almost relationship brings with it.

Sabe também que está disponível para outros homens e que pode colocar-se no mercado dos encontros sempre que lhe apetecer.

Por isso, se pensa que o seu quase relação é digno de todos os problemas que está a viver, leia tudo isto e pense em todas as coisas negativas que lhe está a trazer e pense em todas as coisas positivas de que está privado.

And I’m sure you’ll change your mind.

I’m sure you’ll see that you are wasting your time on someone who doesn’t want to commit to you and that he’ll probably never change his views.

You’ll see that you are actually trapped in a relationship without labels, when that is the last thing you want.

You’ll see that you deserve someone who will proudly call you his girlfriend. That you deserve someone who will be yours and who will love you for real.