Principais diferenças entre o amor verdadeiro e uma simples paixão
Sometimes, when you fall for a person really hard, you’re left unsure if it’s amor verdadeiro you’re feeling or whether it may be just a passing crush.
It can be really hard to differentiate between the two because they both consume you and leave you with butterflies in your stomach—the only difference being that one will likely pass.
But how do you know when it’s love, when it’s just a crush, and how to act on it? I know. It’s a real puzzle, but there are ways to help you decipher this eternal mind boggle and act accordingly.
Eis algumas diferenças fundamentais que o ajudarão a distinguir entre o amor verdadeiro e uma simples paixoneta!
1. When it’s a crush you’re dealing withSe a pessoa o atrai, é um aspeto físico ou um traço, como os olhos, o sorriso, a personalidade extrovertida, as mamas ou uma voz fantástica.
But when it’s real love, there won’t be just one thing that makes them so appealing.
Everything about them will be so alluring and inviting, and you won’t be able to pinpoint just one thing.
That’s the big difference. When you’re no amor , you will be attracted to this person as a whole package, and you won’t even notice certain little things because you’ll be able to see the entirety of their amazingness.
In a crush, you’ll find them attractive or intriguing because of a certain thing, but there won’t be that grand feeling of overwhelming attraction and connection as is the case with love.
2. When it’s a crush you’re dealing withSe não for possível, sentirá uma necessidade enorme de os impressionar constantemente e de se mostrar da melhor forma possível.
You’ll only wear your best clothes, you will always have your face perfectly made up, and you will watch your every move, sometimes even stooping to tiny lies in order to make the best impression.
But when it’s real loveSe não for o caso, sentir-se-á perfeitamente à vontade para ser exatamente quem é em todos os momentos.
There won’t be pressure to always look your best and be careful what you say.
Deixarás que te vejam por quem és e não haverá fingimento.
Either they will love you for you or you’re out. Playing pretend will not interest you with this guy.
Real love makes you feel good about yourself, no matter what you’re wearing and how you’re feeling.
Está lá para o erguer e para o acarinhar sempre pelo seu lado fantástico.
Com uma paixoneta, será constantemente forçado a vestir-se a rigor e a comportar-se bem, porque a ideia de essa pessoa o ver com o seu aconchegante traje caseiro o assusta.
3. When it’s a crush you’re dealing withSe o seu tema de discussão for "nada de especial", apenas tocará a superfície, sem se aprofundar nos assuntos importantes, como os sentimentos, a família e as suas ambições de vida.
You won’t be too comfortable talking about the big stuff, about everything that goes on inside your head, and your biggest fears and insecurities. This just won’t be that type of a thing.
But when it’s real loveSe o seu namorado é um homem de negócios, vai querer discutir com ele as coisas mais intrigantes e complexas. Nada estará fora dos limites e será capaz de falar durante horas, sem nunca se cansar.
You will call him on the phone, and it will be the most beautiful part of your day that you’ll never wish would end.
Ele conhecerá o seu verdadeiro eu, e terá todo o gosto em partilhar com ele as profundezas da sua mente.
Esta é a principal forma de distinguir entre os dois. O que fala com essa pessoa diz muito sobre o futuro que pode ou não ter.
Não se importa de lhe contar os seus segredos mais profundos ou sente-se desconfortável por ele saber demasiado? Se for esse o caso, trata-se de uma paixoneta que vai passar.
When you meet somebody who will make you feel like it’s real love, you will be over the moon to share your entire self with him.
4. When it’s a crush you’re dealing with, you will constantly feel like you’re in a hurry. The excitement and the rush will constantly consume you, and you will always feel like time is running out.
The moment you’re in will always feel so fleeting, and you will be scared of it passing, which will stem from the insecurity of not knowing if it will happen again.
But when it’s real love, you won’t feel the need to rush anything. You will be at peace, not hurrying anywhere.
Love takes time to build, one step at a time, and you’ll know it won’t run off anywhere.
You will allow it to grow while you nurture it with love, care and patience. Love is not a race, and you will be understanding of it. It’s always there, and you will feel secure in it.
If you feel insecure and like it’s going to vanish if you don’t dedicate every second to it, it’s probably not love. Love never makes you feel rushed and unsure.
It builds your self-esteem and makes you comfortable with taking your time. Anything worth having is not supposed to be forced. If it is, it’s probably not real love.
5. When it’s a crush you’re dealing with, you’ll be kind of obsessed with him, but not in a good way.
Esquecerá os seus amigos e a sua família e terá esta obsessão doentia de passar cada minuto com ele.
It will ruin your social life, and you will be in too much of a heightened state to notice what you’re doing. It will consume you, in the worst way possible.
But when it’s real loveA vida em comum vai aproximar-vos muito, mas também terá um impacto positivo nas vossas relações com os vossos entes mais próximos e queridos.
Quererá a sua aprovação e a sua opinião. Importar-se-á com o que elas sentem em relação a ele, porque são igualmente importantes para si.
Nunca os ignorarás e permitirás que dêem o seu contributo honesto.
A crush makes you momentarily forget what’s important and disregard those who truly matter to you.
You won’t be completely yourself, and you will hate yourself for it later on when the dust settles.
When you’re in love, the support of your friends and family will mean everything. You will care about everyone getting along and lifting each other up.
6. When it’s a crush you’re dealing withA ideia de uma confrontação assusta-o muito. No caso de se envolver numa luta, sentirá sempre que isso pode significar o seu fim, pelo que se sentirá constantemente inseguro e evitará discutir a todo o custo.
This means you’ll never be able to be one hundred percent yourself, as you will always try to avoid disagreements by agreeing with things you normally wouldn’t agree with.
But when it’s real loveSe o seu filho não estiver a trabalhar, vai compreender que, por vezes, é normal que haja atritos entre os dois e que, ocasionalmente, vão ocorrer desacordos.
It only means you both care enough to fight for each other, and you’re not scared of opening yourself up to the fullest and being vulnerable.
In love, there will always be tiny quarrels and discussions. But you will know that it doesn’t mean it’s the end.
Tudo o que significa é que tem coisas que precisa de resolver, e é exatamente isso que vai fazer.
You will never fear that being open and honest will lead to your relationship’s doom.
Serão uma frente unida, capaz de enfrentar os maiores problemas que possam surgir no vosso caminho.
7. When it’s a crush you’re dealing with, you will get easily jealous and possessive. If he takes too long to reply or if he hasn’t called that day, you’ll feel a little crazy and mad at him.
It will really bug you not hearing from him for a few hours, as you will be sure he’s with someone else or doing something he shouldn’t be doing.
But when it’s real love, you will feel a sense of peace and trust. You won’t go crazy if he doesn’t immediately get back to you because you have the utmost trust in him.
You won’t go into panic mode if you haven’t heard from him for half a day because you know he’ll call or text as soon as he gets a chance.
Love brings you peace, serenity and faith in each other. You don’t go attacking him for the smallest things, and you don’t let your mind get the better of you.
When you feel okay and at peace when he’s away and not able to text at all times, it’s real love you’re feeling.
Uma paixoneta vai fazê-lo enlouquecer sem motivo e os seus ciúmes vão estar no auge.
