Porque é que não ouviste falar dele o dia todo (15 razões surpreendentes)
Let’s say you had a super exciting first date. You thought your love life was about to flourish. And then, all of a sudden, he disappears without a word! You haven’t heard from him all day!
O que é que está a acontecer? A culpa é tua? Foi algo que fizeste?
These questions can be too exhausting! There’s nothing worse than not knowing. Would you like to change that? If you read on, you surely will. I’m your dating coach for the day!
Ficará a conhecer as 15 razões mais comuns pelas quais um homem desaparece no ar e como deve lidar com isso.
15 Common Reasons Why You Haven’t Heard From Him All Day
Se quer saber porque é que o seu homem desapareceu durante o dia, veja as 15 razões seguintes:
1. Ele está a afirmar o seu domínio
Most men want to be the dominant one because they think that’s how it should be. They play with your feelings and controlar o seu comportamento, subtly telling you that they’re in charge.
That could be why you haven’t heard from him all day. He knows you will be freaking out. He knows you will just want him more.
The result will be you blaming yourself and seeking ways to win his heart again. And, that’s how he keeps you under his control.
His end goal isn’t being with you, but rather being with someone who will make him feel like ”the man” in the relationship.
2. He’s afraid of rejection
This is a real issue for every man. When he’s got his eyes on a woman, he wants nothing more than to tell her immediately.
But, doing that would mean risking being hurt. It’s much easier to desaparecer de repente do que enfrentar os seus sentimentos.
He’s probably intimated by you, and the last thing he wants is for you to react badly.
Vai gozar com ele? Ou vai rejeitá-lo educadamente?
Qualquer uma das opções é dolorosa aos seus olhos.
If you think this is his reason, it’s likely that he’ll eventually gather the courage to come back.
However, if you see that your relationship isn’t going anywhere, it might be time for you to make a move.
3. A confusão está a matá-lo
Don’t worry, that wasn’t necessarily your last date!
Women aren’t the only ones with periods of confusion. Men aren’t always sure what they want either… or not sure what YOU want.
Even if you had an incredible date last night, he might still not understand what it all meant. Or, maybe he’s esconder os seus sentimentos because yours weren’t as obvious as you thought.
Eu sei que a maioria dos homens gosta de perseguição, mas alguns são demasiado inseguros para ir atrás de si.
You need to show him that you care; otherwise, he’ll keep on lutar contra os seus sentimentos em vez de os confessar.
Da próxima vez que o vires, experimenta técnicas de sedução. Toque-lhe suavemente durante uma conversa ou abrace-o um pouco mais. Porque não namoriscar um pouco também?
If you’re scared, you don’t have to be obvious, but you can still let him know how you feel in other, more subtle ways.
4. It doesn’t mean anything at all
No, not everything has a deeper meaning. I’m also the one who always looks beneath the surface, but sometimes you just can’t find anything…
Your man probably doesn’t see this as ghosting. To him, it might be a normal thing, and you, still the woman he’s totally attracted to.
It’s just a forma como a sua mente funciona. If you asked him about it, he likely wouldn’t understand why you’re so upset.
If I were you, I wouldn’t jump to conclusions. Just take a deep breath, do some other work, and everything will be clear to you once he reaches out again.
5. He’s super busy
Your man is in control of his own life. It is he who decides what to do with his time. And, the same goes for you. You can’t really blame each other for having other things to do.
Maybe he’s having a really tough day with many tasks waiting to be done. Among all that hustle and bustle, he probably can’t find the time to make a chamada telefónica ou enviar uma mensagem de texto.
I know your mind is immediately suspicious. ”Nobody is too busy. It’s all a matter of priorities.”
Well, that’s not always true. Sometimes, the problem is you not respecting his schedule.
If it’s always like that, and you barely talk, I understand your struggle.
No entanto, se aconteceu só desta vez, não há razão para se preocupar.
Just remember to respect each other’s boundaries because that’s a sign of a relação saudável.
6. Envia demasiadas mensagens de texto
I’m guilty of this, too. I tend to act on my feelings without thinking too much about it, so sometimes, I send way more messages than I should. I just can’t stop.
I know it’s sad having to suppress yourself to fazer com que um homem a persigamas, infelizmente, normalmente funciona.
If you haven’t heard from him all day, it’s probably because you exaggerated the number of your texts. Your clinginess was a turn off for him.
Ser pegajosa não é uma coisa boa no início de uma relação. Pratique mais autocontrolo e, quando o conquistar, mande mensagens de texto para toda a gente!
7. He’s got bad texting habits
Yes, this is a thing. I’m currently crushing on a guy who is PERFECT in person, but always ignores me for a couple of days when I text him.
I’m starting to accept that he’s just that type of person. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t want a relationship with me. He’s just not into texting at all.
If you’re going through the same thing, be a little more understanding about his preferences. HOWEVER, remember that se um homem te ama de verdadeele deve respeitar as suas necessidades também.
If you’re going to be in a relationship, there has to be compromise – tanto em conversas cara a cara como em mensagens de texto.
Don’t ask him to change his whole personality for you, but he definitely should be ready to invest a bit more time into making you feel special. That’s how relationships should work.
8. He doesn’t feel anything anymore
Maybe your man is just very fickle! He was crushing on you, but it wasn’t as intense as you hoped it would be. It disappeared in an instant! As did he.
Yes, if you haven’t heard from him all day, it might be because ele perdeu o interesse. Ele seguiu em frente, mas foi demasiado cobarde para lhe dizer na cara que as coisas mudaram.
Maybe a new woman appeared in his life, or he just had an epiphany about you. He realized that you weren’t so compatible after all, so he decided to leave.
If you have just met the guy, this is a very likely reason, but if you’ve known each other for quite a while, and you’re sure of his feelings, then you have nothing to worry about.
9. You’re not a priority
It’s sad, I know, but maybe you’re just not that important to this guy. However, before you start panicking, ask yourself these questions:
Há quanto tempo o conheces? São muito chegados? Puseram um rótulo na vossa relação?
I’m asking you this because if you aren’t that close to him, then you can’t really expect him to put you first. Think about it.
Ele tinha uma vida antes de ti. E, agora que chegaste, achas que tudo vai mudar de repente, como acontece nos filmes de romance?
Trust me, that isn’t healthy.
If you haven’t heard from him all day, don’t overthink it. Don’t get angry, but fazer com que ele se comprometa sem pressão. Deixem a vossa relação evoluir lentamente.
E, quando estiverem oficialmente juntos, ganhas o direito de te zangares com a lista de prioridades dele!
10. Foi demasiado honesto
Honesty is the best policy… but not at the beginning. If you revealed too much information immediately, it’s very likely you scared the guy off.
Se quiser manter um homem interessado, don’t talk about your childhood traumas or recent moodiness anymore. Save those conversations for later.
Os homens têm normalmente medo de ser emocionalmente vulnerável anyway. Don’t make it harder for him by expecting him to show his real self as soon as you meet.
I know you can’t wait to connect with him on a deeper level, but you need to be a bit more patient.
Por agora, brinquem um com o outro. Mostre-lhe a versão mais divertida de si próprio.
Every man’s mulher de sonho is the one who can make him laugh. If you’re able to do that, he will be more likely to open up to you.
11. You’re just one of the many
We all like to believe that we’re the only one our guy is texting, but sadly, that isn’t always the truth.
If you haven’t heard from him all day, that may be because there are other women that have his attention. Once he gets bored with them, he’ll probably come back to you.
He most likely doesn’t care about anyone because with love comes disappointment. So, his questões de empenhamento fazem-no saltar de uma mulher para outra.
He’ll send a bom dia mensagem para si e adormecer enquanto envia uma mensagem a outra pessoa.
Frankly, you’re better off without him. You should let go of anyone who doesn’t give you his full attention. There is surely a new guy out there who will treat you like a queen.
12. Ele espera que, desta vez, avance
It’s the 21st century, and a man doesn’t always have to make a move first. And, they’re aware of it, too!
Se o seu o tipo tem estado a ignorar-te all day, then it’s very likely he’s expecting you to send a mensagem de texto para ele.
Talvez ele quer-te muito, but isn’t sure about your emotions. Maybe he feels like he’s the only one making an effort, and now he wants you to reciprocate.
If you’ve been on the bench so far, it’s time to finally get up! Don’t wait for him. Go and get him instead. Trust me, it’s not that scary.
Se ele tem sentimentos por ti, he won’t care about silly things like the chase. He won’t mind if you reach out first. On the contrary, he will be thrilled!
13. He’s committed to somebody else
Why, of course there’s always somebody else, lol! Everybody seems to be heartbroken nowadays. You can’t find one guy who’s ready for something new.
If your man has vanished from the face of the earth, that’s probably because there’s someone else on his mind.
It could be an ex-girlfriend he can’t forget, or someone new he met last week. Either way, he is devoted to her, and you are the one left hanging. Don’t ever allow that.
Porque não encontrar alguém novo? Quando é que o última vez andaste com alguém?
Experimente aplicações de encontros online, como o Tinder. Ou então, contacte alguém nas redes sociais que tenha chamado a sua atenção! Caso contrário, pode sempre conhecer um homem na vida real.
De que é que está à espera? Dê o primeiro passo!
14. A sua mensagem foi confusa
Before getting angry with him, first make sure that what you’re saying is clear.
Sim, ele devia ter-lhe perguntado primeiro se havia alguma confusão, mas talvez isso o deixe pouco à vontade.
If you notice that your message might be misinterpreted, don’t hesitate to text him first!
You don’t have to ask him if he understood your meaning. Just be like ”Hey, btw, what I meant was…” and remove any room for doubt.
But, yeah, if this is why you haven’t heard from him all day, you’ve got nothing to worry about.
15. He’s not that into you
As sad as it is, maybe you just don’t mean all that much to him. Maybe he was never too attached to you, which made it easier to walk away.
Pense na forma como ele a tratou. Quanto tempo é que ele lhe dedicava? Ele tomá-lo por garantido?
A man who doesn’t love you will always give you the mínimo indispensável, thinking it’s more than enough. Everyone else will come before you. There will rarely be any peace in the relationship.
That’s a major red flag.
Foi este o seu caso? Como é que se sentiu na presença dele?
If you’re honest with yourself, your gut feeling will tell you if his feelings were real. And, if they weren’t, maybe it’s time to parar de o perseguir.
É normal não ter notícias de um homem durante um dia?
Isso depende da proximidade.
If you have had just one date, it’s normal not to text or call each other. It’s desirable, definitely, but not obligatory. And, it isn’t a sign he’s not interested either.
Ele pode ser um homem bom who just prefers face-to-face conversations. Maybe he’s preparing to ask you on a segundo encontro mais cedo do que pensa!
On the other hand, if you are in a relationship, it’s more understandable to be worried. But still, don’t jump to conclusions.
Just because this is happening doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world. Maybe something really important came up. Either way, as soon as he comes back, ask him all about it.
Should I Text A Guy If I Haven’t Heard From Him?
Sem dúvida, mas não em todas as circunstâncias.
If he’s a guy you have just met, you might want to take it slow. After all, he didn’t have the time to get attached to you, so your clinginess might just drive him away.
No matter how much he initially liked you, he won’t like your controlling behavior.
Think about it. You’re not even his girlfriend yet, and yet you demand to know what only a girlfriend knows.
On the other hand, if he’s your boyfriend, go for it! You’re officially in a relationship, and you have every right to ask him about his whereabouts. Faça-o no dia seguinte!
Still, pay attention to how you say the words. This isn’t about releasing your anger or despair. Maybe there is something serious at hand.
Even if there isn’t, he’s entitled to a day off! Just remind him to tell you about it next time.
Conclusão
See? Just because you haven’t heard from him all day doesn’t mean it’s all over. Patience is key. If you wait it out, you will know everything soon enough.
O conselho mais importante numa relação é, como sempre, valorizar-se mais a si própria do que a qualquer homem. A sua saúde mental está em primeiro lugar.
Sim, se calhar ele tinha uma razão válida para não ter estendido a mão. Mas, se reparares que he just doesn’t care about you, it’s better to leave before your self-esteem decreases even more.
Mereces um homem que te faça a sua prioridade; um gajo que vai sempre enviar-lhe uma mensagem de volta.
Find someone who always takes your feelings into consideration. I know it’s easier said than done, but the first step is letting go of those who don’t add to your happiness.
