É assim que se ama uma pessoa que pensa demais

Quando se ama uma pessoa que pensa demais, ama-se alguém que está sempre confuso.

You love someone who can’t turn off their mind, someone who is fighting millions of questions every day. You love someone whose mind is a complete mess.

An overthinker can’t control their thoughts. They can’t store them in drawers inside their mind. They can only try to catch them as they float around in complete and utter disorder.

A mente engana-os. Num segundo, estão calmas e concentradas, mas assim que acontece alguma coisa, uma situação nova ou imprevisível, começam a pensar demasiado.

What if this, what if that, how will I do this or that. They can’t stop asking questions and worrying about the outcome.

São pessoas que tomam uma decisão de cada vez. Processam as decisões até terem cem por cento de certeza de que chegaram à decisão correcta.

And after they are done with it, they start overthinking about something else. It’s exhausting to live this way with a question mark hanging above your head all the time.

Quando amamos alguém que pensa demais, temos de ser pacientes com essa pessoa. Temos de saber como acalmá-la e evitar que entre em pânico ainda mais. É preciso saber compreendê-la.

É preciso mostrar-lhes que estamos ao seu lado sempre que precisam de nós. As palavras não significam nada para eles. São apenas frases vazias que saem da tua boca.

They can only make them overthink even more. Do you really mean what you said? What if you’re just saying that? What about when things get really serious, are you going to do what you said you would?

É preciso saber como salvá-los de se afogarem num mar de perguntas quando enfrentam uma situação difícil. É preciso saber como sacudi-los e trazê-los de volta à realidade.

É preciso saber como mostrar-lhes que há sempre uma solução para todos os problemas e que vão resolvê-los em conjunto.

É preciso ser compreensivo. Temos de perceber que, apesar de pensarmos que está tudo bem, eles pensam que está tudo péssimo.

You need to understand why you’ve been flooded with questions out of nowhere. You need to know that their mood swings are not intentional. You need to know that their fear is true and honest.

They can’t ignore their thoughts. They can’t shut down and autopilot themself through life. They can’t control their mind and just decide to get rid of all the thoughts that are poking around their brain and keeping them awake at night.

É preciso mostrar-lhes o quanto os amamos, mesmo nos momentos em que eles se odeiam e se perdem na sua mente.

É necessário mostrar-lhes empatia and make them aware of the fact that you aren’t going anywhere.

É preciso mostrar-lhes que se é vulnerável too, that there are some things that scare you, too. You need to show them that they are not alone. You need to let them know that it’s okay to tell you what they are scared of and worried about.

You need to keep repeating to them that you love them, even if it’s a hundred times a day. Your every ‘I love you’ makes them calmer and more relaxed. Maybe it doesn’t mean that much to you but it means the world to them.

É preciso ser honesto. You have to tell them how you feel. You have to know how to tell them what is going on inside your heart and mind, because if you don’t they will think about it all the time, bringing their mind to the point of a desmoronar-se.

You need to always show your feelings and lay them out in the open, never hide them, because they will sense that and obsess themself with why you’re hiding something from them.

Um zilião de cenários vai passar-lhes pela cabeça, desde os piores aos mais suportáveis. Mas todos eles os deixarão ansiosos e assustados.

É preciso saber como acalmá-los e afastar a sua ansiedade. É preciso saber mostrar-lhe que é uma pessoa bonita. É preciso saber como realçar as suas qualidades e lados bons. É preciso saber mostrar-lhes a verdade e tirá-los da sua mente confusa e ansiosa.

É preciso saber que eles questionam tudo, incluindo a si. É preciso estar preparado para todas as situações.

You could be having a nice, calm evening relaxing and all of a sudden they will bomb you with questions that have been going around their mind for some time and just can’t stay in there anymore.

I know, loving an overthinker is so hard. But aren’t all relationships hard? Isn’t love hard? The greater it is, the harder it gets. The more your feelings grow, the more is at stake. An overthinker can drive you crazy.

Sometimes you can’t take it anymore but an pensador excessivo will never leave you. They will be loyal and their love is something you’ll have never experienced before.

They know how much you’re doing for them. They know it’s hard to keep someone on the ground.

They know it’s almost impossible to get them out of their head and calm them down when all the questions start wandering around inside their mind.

They will love until the end, no matter how strange you are or how many flaws you have. They will love you no matter what you’ve left behind in the past.

They will love you because they know they are a handful and your love is so strong that every time you’ve had enough, it gives you a push not to give up on them. Not to give up on you two.