Ecco come si ama una persona sovrappensiero

Quando si ama una persona che pensa troppo, si ama una persona che è sempre confusa.

You love someone who can’t turn off their mind, someone who is fighting millions of questions every day. You love someone whose mind is a complete mess.

An overthinker can’t control their thoughts. They can’t store them in drawers inside their mind. They can only try to catch them as they float around in complete and utter disorder.

La loro mente li inganna. Un attimo prima sono calmi e uniti, ma appena succede qualcosa, una situazione nuova o imprevedibile, iniziano a pensare troppo.

What if this, what if that, how will I do this or that. They can’t stop asking questions and worrying about the outcome.

Sono persone che prendono una cosa alla volta. Elaborano le decisioni finché non sono sicuri al cento per cento di aver preso quella giusta.

And after they are done with it, they start overthinking about something else. It’s exhausting to live this way with a question mark hanging above your head all the time.

Quando si ama una persona che pensa troppo, bisogna essere pazienti con lei. Bisogna sapere come calmarli ed evitare di farli andare ancora più nel panico. Bisogna saperle capire.

Dovete dimostrare loro che siete al loro fianco ogni volta che ne hanno bisogno. Le parole non significano nulla per loro. Sono solo frasi vuote che escono dalla vostra bocca.

They can only make them overthink even more. Do you really mean what you said? What if you’re just saying that? What about when things get really serious, are you going to do what you said you would?

Dovete sapere come salvarli dall'annegare in un mare di domande quando si trovano ad affrontare una situazione difficile. Dovete sapere come scuoterli e riportarli alla realtà.

Dovete saper dimostrare loro che c'è sempre una soluzione a ogni problema e che lo risolverete insieme.

È necessario essere comprensivi. Dovete rendervi conto che, sebbene voi pensiate che tutto vada bene, loro pensano che tutto sia terribile.

You need to understand why you’ve been flooded with questions out of nowhere. You need to know that their mood swings are not intentional. You need to know that their fear is true and honest.

They can’t ignore their thoughts. They can’t shut down and autopilot themself through life. They can’t control their mind and just decide to get rid of all the thoughts that are poking around their brain and keeping them awake at night.

Dovete dimostrare loro quanto li amate anche nei momenti in cui si odiano e si perdono nella loro mente.

È necessario mostrare loro empatia and make them aware of the fact that you aren’t going anywhere.

Dovete mostrare loro che siete vulnerabili. too, that there are some things that scare you, too. You need to show them that they are not alone. You need to let them know that it’s okay to tell you what they are scared of and worried about.

You need to keep repeating to them that you love them, even if it’s a hundred times a day. Your every ‘I love you’ makes them calmer and more relaxed. Maybe it doesn’t mean that much to you but it means the world to them.

Bisogna essere onesti. You have to tell them how you feel. You have to know how to tell them what is going on inside your heart and mind, because if you don’t they will think about it all the time, bringing their mind to the point of cadere a pezzi.

You need to always show your feelings and lay them out in the open, never hide them, because they will sense that and obsess themself with why you’re hiding something from them.

Nella loro testa si prospettano un'infinità di scenari, da quelli peggiori a quelli più sopportabili. Ma tutti li renderanno ansiosi e spaventati.

Dovete sapere come calmarli e scacciare la loro ansia. Dovete sapere come mostrare loro che bella persona sono. Dovete sapere come mettere in evidenza le loro qualità e i loro lati positivi. Dovete sapere come mostrare loro la verità e farli uscire dalla loro mente disordinata e ansiosa.

Dovete sapere che mettono in discussione tutto, anche voi. Dovete essere preparati a tutte le situazioni.

You could be having a nice, calm evening relaxing and all of a sudden they will bomb you with questions that have been going around their mind for some time and just can’t stay in there anymore.

I know, loving an overthinker is so hard. But aren’t all relationships hard? Isn’t love hard? The greater it is, the harder it gets. The more your feelings grow, the more is at stake. An overthinker can drive you crazy.

Sometimes you can’t take it anymore but an sovrapensiero will never leave you. They will be loyal and their love is something you’ll have never experienced before.

They know how much you’re doing for them. They know it’s hard to keep someone on the ground.

They know it’s almost impossible to get them out of their head and calm them down when all the questions start wandering around inside their mind.

They will love until the end, no matter how strange you are or how many flaws you have. They will love you no matter what you’ve left behind in the past.

They will love you because they know they are a handful and your love is so strong that every time you’ve had enough, it gives you a push not to give up on them. Not to give up on you two.