Ele é meu namorado? 15 sinais legítimos de que vocês dois são finalmente oficiais
You’ve met through a dating app (possibly Tinder) or texting and things have really been going well!
You spend time together, do little things for each other, and you’ve taken things to the next level quite fast.
E agora, estar com outra pessoa nesta altura parece uma loucura!
So far, there are no red flags, and even though he’s a new guy in your life, you feel incredibly comfortable in his company.
And all your best friends are giving you a hard time because lately you’ve been ditching them for your new relationship (although you’re not sure if you should be calling it that quite yet…)
Usually, you’re not one for online dating, but with this guy, it isn’t a big deal as he’s genuinely the same guy his Tinder profile said he was.
There are good signs about him everywhere you look, but you’re just so hesitant to call him your boyfriend, even though he legit feels like one.
Como é que se descobre isso de uma vez por todas sem ter de lhe perguntar diretamente?
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Definir a relação
The beginnings of a relationship are always the most exciting, fun, and unpredictable, while at the same time so daunting and scary, as you never know if you’re on the same page.
Como é que se sabe quando é que se pode chamar namorado(a) a alguém?
Como é que se passa de bons amigos para uma relação de compromisso com uma transição suave e clara?
What has to happen for a person you’ve known since high school (or just met recently met through social media) to become your boyfriend?
Well, there are a few things that have to happen in order to be able to call the person you’ve been seeing your boyfriend, even if it’s still a very nova relação.
Em primeiro lugar, devem passar muito tempo juntos e enviar mensagens de texto ou telefonar com regularidade.
There has to be some sort of a connection and eagerness to see each other, otherwise it’s doomed from the get-go.
I know this firsthand. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve asked myself that pesky question.
Ele é meu namorado? Somos finalmente oficiais?
More often than not, I’d be rushing into things without really having a good grasp of what a relationship actually is.
So now, I can say I’ve got a fair amount of experience with that gray area to know when things are taking a turn for the better and when you’re just living in fantasy land.
I’m going to share with you a lot of useful bits from my colorful personal experience, along with some solid relationship advice I got in the process.
Ele é meu namorado?
é uma das coisas mais desconcertantes que uma rapariga pode perguntar a si própria, e toda a gente merece saber a verdade, por mais bonita ou difícil que seja de engolir.
A relação saudável renuncia ao e se porque, com o homem certo, sabemos sempre qual é a nossa posição.
And since sometimes, discerning his signals and figuring out where it’s going can be challenging due to a sudden rush of all kinds of emotions, I’ll help you discover the status of your relationship.
You’ll never have to wonder if he’s your boyfriend again because these signs will tell you once and for all.
Boa sorte!
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Ele faz mesmo um esforço para o ver
It’s the little things like this that make it truly count.
See, if a man wants to see you, he’ll move mountains if need be.
And if he doesn’t, he’ll just keep making excuses.
As pessoas arranjam tempo para quem querem arranjar tempo!
O seu homem planeia encontros noturnos?
Ele tira tempo da sua agenda ocupada para passar tempo consigo sem a fazer sentir culpada?
Tudo isto são sinais de um grande namorado em formação.
Ele faz-nos sentir desejados e apreciados, e desfrutamos de cada segundo passado na sua companhia.
It’s easy to let the girl organize everything and just show up (if that).
Mas um tipo que faz planos, cumpre o que diz e nunca arranja desculpas é um tipo que pode ser considerado um namorado verdadeiro e legítimo.
Ele telefona-lhe regularmente
As mensagens de texto são tão antiquadas! Estava a brincar.
As mensagens de texto são fixes e tudo, mas quando um homem está a falar a sério sobre si, a certa altura, os telefonemas vão tornar-se uma coisa normal!
It goes without saying that you’re probably texting all the time, but as the relationship progresses, you should start calling each other a bit more often.
So if your guy doesn’t mind picking up the phone and having an actual conversation (aside from texting of course) every now and then, you’re probably on the track to a healthy relationship!
I’ll be the first to admit that phone calls aren’t my favorite thing in the world, but with an actual boyfriend, they’re a necessity.
Tomam um brunch juntos
Os encontros noturnos são muito importantes para a vossa relação.
Precisam de passar tempo juntos para construir e reforçar essa ligação.
Mas as datas diurnas são igualmente importantes (se não mais).
Encontrarmo-nos para um brunch significa querermos ver-nos logo no início do dia e isso significa alguma coisa.
Sair à noite inclui sempre bebidas, possivelmente outras pessoas, e muita música e animação.
Mas o brunch significa uma refeição agradável e significativa entre duas pessoas, em que se pode ter uma conversa a sério enquanto se está completamente sóbrio e acabado de sair da cama.
I don’t know about you, but I don’t have brunch with casual hook-ups.
Por isso, se o seu homem a levar a sair durante as primeiras horas do dia, as suas intenções são bastante claras (ele quer ser seu namorado!)
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You don’t spend all your time in the bedroom
Sex is a vital aspect of any relationship and whoever says that it doesn’t play a big role is lying.
You need to be sexually compatible, otherwise, there’s no chance you’ll make it work.
There’s always room for improvement, but if your needs aren’t met and it feels weird and wrong, you’re not with the right dude.
So now that we’ve cleared that up, make sure you click on ALL levels and never settle for mediocre sex.
When you find a guy who gives you what you need and satisfies your desires in the bedroom, that’s the real deal.
Mas o sexo não é TUDO o que gira em torno da vossa relação.
Também é preciso poder passar tempo de qualidade fora do quarto!
Passar tempo ao sol, talvez desfrutar de um passatempo em conjunto, ou simplesmente ver televisão e sentir-se feliz e em paz.
When time spent outside the bedroom is as good as the time spent IN it, then you know you’re officially a couple!
You’ve met each other’s family and friends
First thing that’s important to note is the vast difference between women and men when it comes to chatting about their new boyfriend/girlfriend.
It’s highly unlikely that a man will go on about you to his family and friends as much as you will because men don’t have that need to talk about everything with their best friends like girls do.
So you shouldn’t be worried if you haven’t met todos of his buddies and still don’t know his entire family.
You’ll get there.
Desde que conheça pelo menos um ou dois amigos próximos e talvez a irmã dele ou qualquer outro familiar direto.
Guys don’t put that much thought into these things, so don’t worry about it too much.
You probably obsess over it way more than he does and he plans on bringing you home at some point, but there’s no rush on his part because, as I’ve said, guys just don’t care about it too much.
He doesn’t mind PDA
This doesn’t mean that every guy has to be into PDA (because they’re not) but if your man is into this, then you’ve got a keeper!
A man who can hold your hand and kiss your cheek as you’re strolling down the street is a man who’s happy to show the world his love toward you.
When a guy can hug you, hold you, and give you a huge smooch anywhere public, without caring who’ll see and what they’ll think, now that’s a guy who’s quite clearly head over heels for you.
Not all guys will do that (and it doesn’t have to mean anything) but if yours does, he’s one proud boyfriend who you should stay close to!
Podemos falar literalmente de tudo com ele
Uma das coisas que mais gosto nas pessoas é o facto de poder falar livremente com alguém, sem qualquer reserva.
I’ve had a boyfriend that was my lover, my life partner, and my best friend all in one.
Falar com ele era um sonho e eu podia ter conversas com ele sobre literalmente qualquer coisa e nunca me cansava dele.
He challenged me intellectually, didn’t fear defying me, and always told me the truth.
Talking to him was a breath of fresh air, as people like him don’t come by very often.
Como é que se sente em relação a seu gajo?
As vossas conversas satisfazem-na e gosta de conversar com ele sobre as coisas mais aleatórias?
Ele conta-lhe os seus segredos e você partilha com ele os seus medos mais profundos?
A conversa é uma parte vital de uma relação, e se conseguir falar com ele sobre qualquer coisa, em qualquer altura, então saberá que são um casal legítimo.
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Ele fala de si no tempo futuro
Um homem que não tem intenção de permanecer na sua vida nunca fará planos para o futuro consigo.
He’ll never insinuate that there’s a future together because he knows there isn’t one.
But when a guy says ”we” instead of ”I” when making plans or talking about his dreams, that tells you everything you need to know.
Este tipo quer que fiques por perto.
He sees you in his future plans and whenever he’s talking about where he sees himself, later on, he always pictures you there too.
Isn’t that all the reassurance you need? For me, there isn’t a sweeter thing in the world than a man planning a future around you and making sure you know it.
You’re comfortable being dressed down around him
Quando começaram a encontrar-se, vestiam-se sempre muito bem e a maquilhagem estava sempre no ponto.
You’d enjoy dressing up for him and you’d never let him see you in your natural state (puffy eyes, baggy clothes, and a messy bun).
But lately, you’ve stopped caring about all that.
Agora, sente-se tão à vontade para ser completamente você mesma ao pé dele.
You used to dread being seen without makeup, but now you couldn’t care less.
Ele faz-nos sentir bonitas em todos os momentos.
A few months ago it would’ve been a no-go on letting him see you in your oversized T-shirt and your home-edition leggings, but now that’s mostly how he sees you and you love it!
Don’t get me wrong, dressing up for your man is really nice from time to time, but being your messy self around him is so much more important because that’s simply you!
And if you feel loved in all of your versions, you’ve got yourself a real one.
Ele conhece todos os teus amigos e as tuas relações com eles
Ele controla todas as suas raparigas e o que elas fazem.
He knows them all by name and he’d be able to tell you the ones you’re closest to and which ones have been getting on your last nerve lately.
Ele ouve-nos quando falamos sobre eles e dá-nos feedback.
So he knows that Laura is like a sister to you and that you’d do anything for her.
He knows all about Jenny’s latest hookup and the embarrassing story behind it (no judgment, though!)
He knows how quirky Samantha and Emma are, and he’s already used to their dry sense of humor.
He genuinely cares about knowing them because they mean a lot to you, ergo, they’re important to him too.
É bom poder falar sobre elas com ele, sabendo que ele nos compreende e tem conselhos úteis quando precisamos deles.
Ele tem uma escova de dentes em sua casa
Uma escova de dentes nunca é apenas isso.
It means this guy knows he’s going to spend time at your place a lot, and he came prepared!
Leaving things at each other’s place means that the relationship is moving in the right direction.
This is a big deal! If you have a drawer specifically for him and vice versa, you’re one step closer to moving in together.
The pace is right, the intentions are clear and your willingness to leave stuff over (knowing it’s more than okay) means you’ve become a legit boyfriend/girlfriend.
Deixar as coisas por lá é basicamente arranjar uma boa desculpa para as ir ver o mais possível (não que seja preciso uma desculpa).
If your man plays video games at your place, laid back on your couch, and you can do your nails at his, you’ve entered the relationship zone.
Ele chama-te nomes doces e carinhosos
When you’re in a committed relationship, it goes without saying that you develop cute pet names for each other and it simply becomes a habit to call each other those things.
It’s not uncommon to prefer calling him ”babe” instead of his actual names because you simply adore him too much.
E, por sua vez, ele chama-lhe os seus nomes de estimação especiais, pelos quais se derrete!
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Ele respeita-o e encoraja-o
A lot of men who aren’t serious in their intentions don’t really care about your ambitions and goals, and your journey to achieving them.
They just want one thing from you and they’re good to go.
Mas um homem digno do título de namorado é uma história completamente diferente.
Este homem preocupa-se com o que fazes da tua vida.
He doesn’t let you give up on yourself and he pushes you to the ends of your abilities.
Ele quer genuinamente que tenhas sucesso porque a tua felicidade é a felicidade dele.
Uma relação saudável significa duas pessoas que se amam nos bons e nos maus momentos e que se apoiam mutuamente.
If your man is the wind beneath your wings, you’ve got yourself a real boyfriend.
He doesn’t present you with ultimatums
Os rapazes podem ser muito estranhos e irritantes em relação às raparigas e às suas carreiras.
Not all guys are respectful of their girl’s ambitions and they often resort to ultimatums if they don’t get enough attention due to their girl’s busy schedule.
That’s a whole thing right there, but we’re going to focus on those small select few who understand that women have jobs and dreams too, and don’t hold it against them.
Um homem digno de se chamar seu namorado nunca a fará escolher entre ele e o seu trabalho, ou entre duas coisas quaisquer.
O seu namorado vai perceber que pode fazer mais coisas ao mesmo tempo e ter sucesso em todas as áreas.
He’ll understand that he’s not your apenas priority in life but he’s very high on your list.
If, and only if you’ve got a guy who truly gets this, you can call him your boyfriend.
He’s the reason for constant joy in your life
At the end of the day, we all just yearn for that special someone who’ll bring joy and peace to our lives.
Sem stress, sem ansiedade e sem sinais contraditórios que apontem para uma separação.
Estar com esta pessoa deve ser como uma faísca que se reacende de cada vez que a vemos.
A sua presença deve trazer-lhe felicidade e alívio imediatos.
If it doesn’t, it’s honestly not worth it.
Life’s too short to spend time on people who cause you stress more than they actually make you happy.
Don’t be afraid to admit to yourself that you simply crave joy and peace.
If this guy makes you feel all tingly on the inside and brings a smile to your face the minute you lock eyes, you’ve found yourself a keeper.
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Embrulhar tudo
After carefully going through all of the signs above, I hope you’ve been able to figure out the status of your relationship and if your man is indeed worthy of being called your boyfriend.
The first thing you should take away from this article is that it’s okay to put yourself first.
It’s okay to expect all those things because you deserve that, and more.
At some point in life, you realize that it’s so insane sacrificing your own happiness for the sake of someone who doesn’t give you half the effort that you give him.
If you’ve got a guy who checks most of these boxes, then you’ve snagged yourself a real, kind, respectful boyfriend.
Nunca se contente com menos. Nunca minta a si própria na esperança de que ele mude para melhor.
If he doesn’t hold your hand when you’re struggling and never lifts you up when you’re down, he’s not your man.
Be with someone who’ll make you a priority when everything is making it difficult to put you first.
Be with a man who’ll always make time for you without checking his schedule, because that’s the sign of a man who’s irrevocably in love with you.
And that’s the only type of man you should ever be with.
