As pessoas arranjam tempo para o que querem. Isto é verdade (e porquê)?
I don’t know about you, but whenever I am disappointed in fellow human beings for not making time for me, I immediately enter the overthinking zone.
A primeira coisa que me vem à cabeça é: Estão zangados comigo?
Eis outras perguntas complementares: Terei feito algo de errado? Não sou digno da atenção deles? Ou será que eles têm coisas mais importantes para fazer neste momento?
Depois desta sessão de pensamentos excessivos, respiro fundo e lembro-me deste famoso ditado: As pessoas arranjam tempo para o que querem. E ponto final.
O que é que isto significa realmente?
Estamos tão ocupados que dar o nosso tempo a alguém ou a alguma coisa se tornou um luxo?
Are we unwilling to give our time to those who give their time to us just because we don’t feel like it? Have we become a nation of egocentric people who only think of their own needs?
As you can see, there are many reasons and theories for this “controversial” topic. Some of these reasons are totally valid, while others aren’t. Espero que a minha análise crítica deste tema vos encha de conhecimento e sabedoria.
As pessoas arranjam tempo para o que querem arranjar tempo
Todos sabemos que as pessoas têm coisas para fazer. O que também sabemos é que as pessoas dedicam o seu tempo e energia a coisas que lhes interessam. Lembre-se desta frase porque pode ser um salva-vidas em algumas circunstâncias.
Portanto, sim, a maioria das pessoas (incluindo tidsoptimistas) têm um horário muito preenchido. Distraem-se, ficam exaustos (especialmente se têm actividades sociais ansiedade), ou outras forças externas podem interferir com o seu desejo de arranjar tempo para outras coisas ou pessoas.
Mas, no final, nem mesmo as pessoas mais ocupadas estão tão ocupadas ou mau a enviar mensagens de texto that they can’t find a few seconds or minutes of their time to send you a text. No one is so busy that they can’t spend quality time with you once a month or a few times a year.
As pessoas arranjam tempo para o que e para quem querem porque têm as suas próprias prioridades. Se juntarmos a isto a falta de empatia e compreensão pelos outros, temos a receita: Uma receita para magoar aqueles que gostam de si.
Basicamente, podemos dividir as pessoas em duas categorias:
• Those who make time for what they want because they don’t have any other choice at the moment.
• Those who make time for what they want because they don’t really care about other things or other people.
With that said, below you’ll find a list of valid and not-so-valid reasons why people choose to make time for what they want.
Razões válidas para as pessoas arranjarem tempo para o que querem
Por vezes, as pessoas estão preocupadas com trabalhos exigentes, problemas de saúde ou assuntos familiares. Nestas circunstâncias e noutras semelhantes, arranjar tempo para qualquer outra coisa torna-se um luxo.
It’s difficult to prioritize other things when you aren’t at peace with yourself. Eis algumas razões válidas pelas quais as pessoas arranjam tempo para o que querem:
• A demanding and exhausting job.
Nem todos os trabalhos são iguais. Alguns trabalhos são dez vezes mais cansativos do que outros, pelo que, no final do dia, não lhe restam forças para mais nada senão dormir.
Ao fim de algum tempo, transforma-se num robô desprovido de alegria humana, como por exemplo apreciar as pequenas coisasA vida de uma pessoa pode ser muito mais fácil do que a de uma pessoa que não tem filhos, que se dedica a passatempos ou que passa tempo com os seus entes queridos.
If you’re a perfectionist with a demanding job, you’ll feel the urge to do everything in a “big way,” which can be exhausting.
• Health issues.
If you’ve ever watched the popular YouTuber known as Crazy Russian Hacker, then you’re familiar with the famous sentence that he says in every video: “Safety is the number one priority.”
I couldn’t agree more, but here’s my “advanced hypothesis”: Health should always be everyone’s first priority.
If you’re going through a period of life where you generally lack boa energia and you have poor health and low energy levels, then it’s no surprise that all your focus is directed on that.
• Family matters.
A saúde e a família são definitivamente duas coisas a que se deve dar prioridade acima de tudo.
Perhaps you stay at home every night to look out for your little sisters or brothers, you’re a single parent, or you have family issues that need to be addressed… All of these are legit reasons to make time for what you want – in this case, your family.
• Mental health problems.
You spend less time with others because you don’t experience relationships in the same way. The relationship you have with yourself is a burden, which is why you can’t focus on maintaining relationships with others.
A doença mental vem acompanhada de emoções negativas que o podem impedir de se concentrar em fazer o que está certo. Além disso, isolofilia doesn’t count as a mental illness.
• Working on finding themselves and their purpose.
Todos nós temos caminhos diferentes na vida e alguns de nós ainda estão a criar o seu próprio caminho. If you’re at that stage in your life, know that it’s an important reason and should be prioritized.
Regardless of whether you’re focused on encontrar o seu objetivo and passions or you’re going through the stages of spiritual awakening, working on finding and amarmo-nos a nós próprios exige muito tempo e paciência.
Razões não tão válidas para as pessoas arranjarem tempo para o que querem
The not-so-valid reasons are characteristic of people who are lost and don’t have clear goals and who are only interested in doing things they can get some kind of pleasure from. So, let’s see:
• Not finding 5 mins in their day to text or call you back because “they’re busy.”
Here’s a quick recap of my recent experience: Every single time I texted him, he would ignore it the whole day. When I asked him why he acted that way, he just said that he was too busy.
Well, here’s my humble conclusion: Pessoas egoístas don’t have a problem finding selfish ways to get what they want or not do what they don’t want.
Nunca haverá um momento perfeito para fazer algo. O trabalho importante não é mais importante do que as pessoas de quem gostamos. Todos nós temos 5 minutos num dia para enviar uma mensagem de texto ou telefonar a alguém, se quisermos.
• Being constantly busy.
“Being constantly busy” is an “elegant way” to excuse yourself from doing things you don’t want to do. Even if they had the busiest schedule in the world, they’d still manage to find time for important people in their life. Why? Because it’s human nature.
A potential silver lining in all this is that if they’re constantly busy, they’re probably not worthy of being in your life. If you notice such signs, do yourself a favor and save yourself.
• Other lame excuses.
Algumas pessoas têm muito pouca compreensão dos outros. Este tipo de pessoas está principalmente concentrado em si próprio e em coisas triviais, como passar demasiado tempo a ver televisão e recusar-se a fazer qualquer outra coisa para além disso.
Prioritizing such things over spending time with people who love you shouldn’t become routine. As desculpas esfarrapadas exigem tanto esforço, mais do que ser honesto consigo próprio e outros.
How Do You Deal With People Who Don’t Have Time For You?
First of all, try to deal with it in a positive way. This means that you shouldn’t judge them or make them feel bad about their choices. It’s best to find a neutral way to tell them how their behavior makes you feel. An open and honest conversation is a must.
Se as suas razões forem válidas, dê-lhes algum tempo e espere que o contactem primeiro quando puderem. If they don’t, or if their reasons are totally invalid, then you have every right to cut off all contact and focus on people who are happy to spend time with you.
The biggest mistake you can make is to think that the problem is you. If you’re sure that the problem is not you but their lame excuses, then you shouldn’t let them make you question your self-worth.
Em vez disso, avança. Porquê? Because they don’t deserve to spend time with you, even if they want to. Life’s too short to waste time sobre essas pessoas.
How they treat others says a lot about how they perceive themselves and life in general. Do you really want to spend your time with superficial people who don’t care about your feelings and are only focused on themselves?
10 ‘People Make Time For What They Want’ Motivational Quotes
I’m sure these inspiring quotes summarize everything said above:
1. “People make time for who they want to make time for. People text and reply to people they want to talk to. Never believe anyone who says they’ve been too busy. If they wanted to be around you, they would.” – Unknown
2. “Many things aren’t equal, but everyone gets the same 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. We make time for what we truly want.” – Unknown
3. “Save the excuses. It’s not about ‘having time.’ It’s about ‘making time.’ If it matters, you will make time.” – Unknown
4. “You will never find time for anything. If you want time, you must make it.” – Charles Buxton
5. “When you really matter to someone, that person will always make time for you. No excuses, no lies, and no broken promises.” – Unknown
6. “The only people you need in your life are those who want you in theirs. Never make someone a priority if they only see you as an option.” – Unknown
7. “If someone wants to be part of your life, they will make an obvious effort to do so. Think twice before reserving a space in your heart for people who do not make an effort to stay.” – Unknown
8. “Don’t force someone to make time for you. If they really want to, they will.” – Unknown
9. “Nobody is ever too busy. If they care, they will make time.” – Unknown
10. “We all make time for what we feel is important in our lives.” – Unknown
Reflexões finais
It’s true people make time for what they want. Also, people have different reasons when it comes to making or not making time for certain things and other people.
No entanto, no final do dia, tudo se resume a uma coisa: onde há vontade, há um caminho. Everything else is just an excuse (unless we’re talking about one of those valid reasons above).
If this happens to you, don’t worry too much. Have enough patience to understand them. Also, ter a coragem de seguir em frente when you have to. It’s as simple as that.
