Encontros online: Como detetar o perigo
Neste mundo de smartphones e redes sociais, é mais fácil do que nunca contactar alguém para um encontro.
O problema é que encontrar-se online e seguir as pistas de um perfil de encontros é arriscado. Mesmo que a pessoa não seja um completo cretino, há algumas coisas a ter em atenção antes de concordar em encontrar-se.
Apenas amigas do sexo feminino. This could be a red flag. It’s perfectly normal to have a few females in his inner circle, but if every one of the shots has him with his arm around another babe, you may wonder what his intentions on the site are in the first place.
If you’re looking for something long-term, you don’t want to fall for someone who’s only looking to hook up. If you’re getting a bad vibe, steer clear.
Todas as selfies. It’s easier to tell what someone actually looks like if there are a variety of photos from all different angles. If the entire profile consists of only selfies, you’ll have to guess what the rest of him looks like in person, as well as question why he’s obsessed with this pose.
Algumas fotos sóbrias. If he is drinking in every shot, you might want to think twice. While it’s good to have a few social snaps out with friends, too much alcohol can be a cause for concern. If his profile includes only keg stands and beer bongs, click “next.”
Passatempos questionáveis. While it’s nice to date someone who has a good sense of humor, it’s quite another if they’re a troublemaker – like, big time.
If there are any pics of blatant crimes or comments about spending a night in jail, this is likely not something you want to get in the middle of – after all, a criminal record can be life-changing.
Falar mal. If the entire profile consists of this person bashing their ex, or exes, a certain group, every institution, or society at large, this is a bad attitude that you’re not going to want to deal with.
Odiador ou extremista. For obvious reasons, if this person’s profile depicts a propensity for putting others down or even engaging in extremist activity, this should be a no-go. Next!
Narcisista. Se houver milhares de fotografias e uma sinopse sobre como esta pessoa é perfeita, é melhor chamar o bluff e deslizar para a esquerda. A última coisa que quer fazer é envolver-se numa relação com um narcisista que provavelmente será abusivo a todos os níveis e infiel.
What’s more, sometimes individuals with this personality disorder project a false façade that is entirely different from reality. So, you may never actually know the person you’re connecting with even after you meet.
Nenhuma informação. The opposite can be just as dangerous. If there are absolutely no photos, or just one and it’s kind of blurry and far away, and nothing written, be careful.
A única imagem pode ter sido objeto de catfishing, o perfil pode ter sido criado por alguém que quer que esta pessoa namore, mas não tem qualquer investimento no empreendimento, ou trata-se apenas de alguém totalmente seco. Sem informação, nada de bom.
Fotos profissionais. Rest assured, if this person is really a professional model, he will know that he also needs to post a polaroid or two showing he’s legit. If all of the photos are professional, it’s difficult to determine what this person looks like without photo-editing.
Deve também preocupar-se com a legitimidade das fotografias incluídas ou com o facto de essa pessoa estar demasiado empenhada em projetar a perfeição para ter uma parceria saudável.
Online dating has become the norm in this digital world, but just because “everyone’s doing it,” doesn’t make it any less risky.
In fact, it’s easier than ever to pretend to be someone else and that’s just downright scary. Always have a safety plan in place and involve your trusted network, letting them know where you are and who you’re with. Then, take your time and first connect with this person online only. Build a rapport and watch out for profile red flags.
É claro que nunca se pode ter a certeza absoluta até que os dois se aproximem, mas há algumas precauções que minimizarão o potencial de perigo.
