Citas en línea: Cómo detectar el peligro
En este mundo de teléfonos inteligentes y redes sociales, es más fácil que nunca conectar con alguien para una cita.
El problema es que quedar por Internet y guiarse por un perfil de citas es arriesgado. Incluso si la persona no es un completo asqueroso, hay algunas cosas que debes tener en cuenta antes de quedar.
Sólo amigas. This could be a red flag. It’s perfectly normal to have a few females in his inner circle, but if every one of the shots has him with his arm around another babe, you may wonder what his intentions on the site are in the first place.
If you’re looking for something long-term, you don’t want to fall for someone who’s only looking to hook up. If you’re getting a bad vibe, steer clear.
Todo selfies. It’s easier to tell what someone actually looks like if there are a variety of photos from all different angles. If the entire profile consists of only selfies, you’ll have to guess what the rest of him looks like in person, as well as question why he’s obsessed with this pose.
Alguna foto sobria. If he is drinking in every shot, you might want to think twice. While it’s good to have a few social snaps out with friends, too much alcohol can be a cause for concern. If his profile includes only keg stands and beer bongs, click “next.”
Pasatiempos cuestionables. While it’s nice to date someone who has a good sense of humor, it’s quite another if they’re a troublemaker – like, big time.
If there are any pics of blatant crimes or comments about spending a night in jail, this is likely not something you want to get in the middle of – after all, a criminal record can be life-changing.
Hablando mal. If the entire profile consists of this person bashing their ex, or exes, a certain group, every institution, or society at large, this is a bad attitude that you’re not going to want to deal with.
Odiador o extremista. For obvious reasons, if this person’s profile depicts a propensity for putting others down or even engaging in extremist activity, this should be a no-go. Next!
Narcisista. Si hay un millar de fotos y una propaganda sobre lo perfecta que es esta persona, es posible que desee llamar a su farol y deslizar a la izquierda. Lo último que quieres es meterte en una relación con un narcisista que probablemente te maltrate a todos los niveles y además te sea infiel.
What’s more, sometimes individuals with this personality disorder project a false façade that is entirely different from reality. So, you may never actually know the person you’re connecting with even after you meet.
No hay información. The opposite can be just as dangerous. If there are absolutely no photos, or just one and it’s kind of blurry and far away, and nothing written, be careful.
La única imagen podría haber sido catfished, el perfil podría haber sido creado por alguien que quiere que esta persona a la fecha, pero no tiene ninguna inversión en el esfuerzo, o esto es sólo alguien totalmente seco. Sin información, no hay nada bueno.
Fotos profesionales. Rest assured, if this person is really a professional model, he will know that he also needs to post a polaroid or two showing he’s legit. If all of the photos are professional, it’s difficult to determine what this person looks like without photo-editing.
También debes preocuparte por la legitimidad de las fotos incluidas o porque esta persona pueda estar demasiado interesada en proyectar perfección para estar en una relación de pareja saludable.
Online dating has become the norm in this digital world, but just because “everyone’s doing it,” doesn’t make it any less risky.
In fact, it’s easier than ever to pretend to be someone else and that’s just downright scary. Always have a safety plan in place and involve your trusted network, letting them know where you are and who you’re with. Then, take your time and first connect with this person online only. Build a rapport and watch out for profile red flags.
Por supuesto, nunca se puede saber con certeza hasta que los dos se acercan, pero hay algunas precauciones que minimizarán el potencial de peligro.
