Incontri online: Come riconoscere i pericoli

In questo mondo di smartphone e social media, è più facile che mai entrare in contatto con qualcuno per un appuntamento.

Il problema è che incontrarsi online e prendere spunto da un profilo di incontri è rischioso. Anche se la persona non è un vero e proprio maniaco, ci sono alcune cose da tenere d'occhio prima di accettare di incontrarsi.

Solo amicizie femminili. This could be a red flag. It’s perfectly normal to have a few females in his inner circle, but if every one of the shots has him with his arm around another babe, you may wonder what his intentions on the site are in the first place.

If you’re looking for something long-term, you don’t want to fall for someone who’s only looking to hook up. If you’re getting a bad vibe, steer clear.

Tutti i selfie. It’s easier to tell what someone actually looks like if there are a variety of photos from all different angles. If the entire profile consists of only selfies, you’ll have to guess what the rest of him looks like in person, as well as question why he’s obsessed with this pose.

Qualsiasi foto da sobrio. If he is drinking in every shot, you might want to think twice. While it’s good to have a few social snaps out with friends, too much alcohol can be a cause for concern. If his profile includes only keg stands and beer bongs, click “next.”

Passatempi discutibili. While it’s nice to date someone who has a good sense of humor, it’s quite another if they’re a troublemaker – like, big time.

If there are any pics of blatant crimes or comments about spending a night in jail, this is likely not something you want to get in the middle of – after all, a criminal record can be life-changing.

Parlare male. If the entire profile consists of this person bashing their ex, or exes, a certain group, every institution, or society at large, this is a bad attitude that you’re not going to want to deal with.

Odiatore o estremista. For obvious reasons, if this person’s profile depicts a propensity for putting others down or even engaging in extremist activity, this should be a no-go. Next!

Narcisista. Se ci sono mille foto e un trafiletto su quanto questa persona sia perfetta, è meglio scoprire il suo bluff e passare il dito a sinistra. L'ultima cosa che volete fare è rimanere invischiati in una relazione con un narcisista che probabilmente sarà violento a tutti i livelli e infedele per giunta.

What’s more, sometimes individuals with this personality disorder project a false façade that is entirely different from reality. So, you may never actually know the person you’re connecting with even after you meet.

Nessuna informazione. The opposite can be just as dangerous. If there are absolutely no photos, or just one and it’s kind of blurry and far away, and nothing written, be careful.

L'unica immagine potrebbe essere stata rubata, il profilo potrebbe essere stato creato da qualcuno che vuole frequentare questa persona ma non ha alcun investimento in questa impresa, oppure si tratta semplicemente di una persona completamente a secco. Nessuna informazione, niente di buono.

Foto professionali. Rest assured, if this person is really a professional model, he will know that he also needs to post a polaroid or two showing he’s legit. If all of the photos are professional, it’s difficult to determine what this person looks like without photo-editing.

Dovete anche preoccuparvi della legittimità delle foto incluse o del fatto che questa persona potrebbe essere troppo presa dalla proiezione della perfezione per essere in una partnership sana.

Online dating has become the norm in this digital world, but just because “everyone’s doing it,” doesn’t make it any less risky.

In fact, it’s easier than ever to pretend to be someone else and that’s just downright scary. Always have a safety plan in place and involve your trusted network, letting them know where you are and who you’re with. Then, take your time and first connect with this person online only. Build a rapport and watch out for profile red flags.

Naturalmente non si può mai sapere con certezza fino a quando non ci si avvicina, ma ci sono alcune precauzioni che riducono al minimo il potenziale di pericolo.