Você está entre o desgosto e a cura? 7 maneiras de superar o limbo emocional

When you find yourself lingering somewhere between heartbreak and healing, you have reached emotional limbo. It’s not a bad place to be. It’s a step in your healing process, a sort of threshold you have to cross to get to your destination.

O limbo emocional significa que está a caminho da sua nova vida, mas o passado ainda o domina. Cada vez que dá um passo em frente, dá um passo atrás e isso mantém-no na mesma posição. Não estás nem aqui nem ali. Não estás no mesmo lugar quando o teu coração se parte pela primeira vez, mas ainda não estás curado.

If you think that it’s time to cross that threshold and continue a new life where you are healed but you just can’t find the right way to do it, we are here to help. There are 7 phases you have to surpass to get yourself out of emotional limbo.

Dê a si próprio tempo para fazer o luto da relação passada

We don’t want to grieve. We don’t want sadness over our break-up overwhelming us, so we get stuck in this place of numbness where we just exist. We don’t want to deal with our feelings so we lock them up. We keep telling ourselves that we are OK, even when we are far from it.

That’s why the first step on your way to recovery is to let your feelings out. To cry when you feel like crying. Allow yourself to grieve because it’s purifying and it’s the first step to healing in the right way.

Mais tarde, permitir-se-á ser aberto e vulnerável porque saberá que a sua dor foi o que o moldou e o tornou mais forte.

Seja gentil consigo mesmo

Sometimes we are too hard on ourselves. We blame ourselves for the things we haven’t done. We keep on rewinding the past in our mind to see if there is something that we could have done differently to have a different outcome. What we have to understand here is that not everything is in our hands. That regardless of all the love that we feel, some people weren’t right for us. It wasn’t meant to be.

That’s why you have to remember to go easy on yourself. You have to realize that everything that happened was beyond your control and it had to play itself out that way. Also, don’t push yourself too hard—healing doesn’t come overnight, it’s a process and it takes time.

Faça pequenas coisas por si próprio todos os dias

Grief can be all-consuming, that’s why a lot of people going through it will forget all about the importance of good food and rest. Remember to eat properly. Find a way to reduce the stress and relax. Try to get a good night’s sleep, as it will do you wonders. Don’t forget that your body and your spirit are intertwined. Nurture both.

Don’t keep things bottled up inside

It’s important to talk about things that bother you. Find a friend, a group of friends or a counselor to talk to. The worst thing you can do is not talk about it, no matter if it’s the same old story over and over again. When you say things out loud, it’s like you decrease your burden bit by bit. You feel lighter.

Ao deixar que os seus pensamentos se tornem vivos, também pode ver porque é que tudo o que aconteceu foi, em última análise, para o melhor. Talvez não tivesse chegado a essa conclusão se tivesse ficado calado e continuasse a alimentar a sua dor em vez de a libertar. Por isso, fale, até não ter mais nada a dizer sobre o assunto.

Cada pequeno passo em frente conta

When you are in emotional limbo, you feel stuck. You feel like you are not going anywhere, when in reality that’s not true. You are making small steps forward and they can get so small that you don’t even see them.

Aprenda a apreciar tudo o que faz por si.

Tens de saber que há pessoas que se preocupam contigo e que não estás sozinho na tua luta.

That there are people who have been through something similar and their life stories might serve both as comfort and as inspiration for what you still can achieve. You are in control of your life and you can get through anything—you just have to believe it yourself.

Colocar a felicidade como o primeiro item da sua lista de prioridades

Faça coisas que sejam boas para si, que o façam feliz e que o façam sentir-se melhor. Passe um fim de semana num spa. Fazer uma maratona de cinema com pipocas e doces. Faça caminhadas.

Vai nadar. Traga alguma novidade para a sua vida. Inscrever-se num curso de culinária. Fazer parapente. Aprender a dançar o samba.

Experimente aquele novo restaurante mexicano que acabou de abrir. As opções são muitas e a escolha é sua; o importante é que faça algo por si.

Hora de saltar

Once you’ve already been through all the previous steps, you will start to feel like limbo isn’t the right place for you anymore.

Still, the fear of the unknown and saying your final goodbye to the past can be tricky, that’s why you have to push yourself out of your comfort zone.

Mesmo quando não se sente 100% pronto para seguir em frente, salte e espere pelo melhor.

Scars from your past might sting a little from time to time but don’t let that trick you into thinking that you are not healed.

Já conseguiu tanto e tem tanta força que o seu passado não é mais do que uma memória dolorosa e tem uma nova vida pela frente. Saberá que o melhor sorriso é aquele pelo qual só tem de agradecer a si próprio.