11 maneiras à prova de bala para se recuperar depois de ser rejeitado

Ser rejeitado é uma sensação horrível. Não importa o quão forte é uma pessoa ou o quão grande é a sua autoestima, a rejeição vai sempre doer.

You’ll have mixed feelings. You’ll feel sad, because someone didn’t choose you and didn’t want to be with you.

On the other hand, you’ll be confused because you can’t find a reason for them to reject you.

No entanto, tem de encontrar uma forma de lidar com isso e seguir em frente, porque há muitas pessoas que estão mais do que felizes por o ter na sua vida. Tens de o fazer por elas.

You have to do it because of your future. If you don’t give yourself some time and move on properly, this rejection will only haunt you and bring you nothing but misery.

It’s important to bounce back even stronger and to move on with your life. Here is some advice for all those who are suffering from rejection.

1. It’s not you, it’s definitely them

Sometimes it’s not up to you and you can’t do anything about it. Make peace with other people’s decisions and move on.

Nunca sintas pena de ti próprio, porque tu és o verdadeiro vencedor desta história. Foste tu que tentaste e tentaste, mesmo depois de teres sido rejeitado.

A pessoa que o rejeitou é um falhado. Perdeu alguém que queria amá-la e mostrar-lhe como é o verdadeiro amor. Um dia, they’ll realize what they lost and regret it para o resto das suas vidas.  

2. Verificação da realidade

Being rejected hurts and sometimes the healing process lasts a little longer than it should. That’s why you need to give yourself a reality check – a wake up call that will help you bounce back.

You have to know that you aren’t the only person who has been rejected. Most of us have and we all healed, just as you will.

Know that all people you meet aren’t going to love you and that is perfectly normal. You too won’t like every person you meet.

You tried and you failed. But it wasn’t a mistake. It was the bravest thing you’ve ever done. Honestly, your confidence is really commendable.

3. A tua coragem é admirável

Invejo todos aqueles que são suficientemente corajosos para continuarem a tentar, mesmo depois de terem sido rejeitados. Deviam estar orgulhosos de vós próprios, da vossa coragem e confiança.

Don’t let that one bad experience affect your self-esteem because it’ll also affect your courage. It is one of the best things about you.

Someone will come along and see that you aren’t afraid to fight for love because love is the most important thing for you. That person will know how to appreciate it.

4.They weren’t meant for you

Believe in fate. Every person has a soulmate and obviously that person wasn’t really meant for you. Your soulmate is still somewhere out there and you’ll meet them sooner than you think.

The universe has something better planned for you. That rejection was actually your salvation. God knew that person wasn’t your soulmate and He wanted to spare you from wasting your time with the wrong person.  

5. Transformá-lo numa lição

Nunca veja essa rejeição como um erro seu ou uma má experiência. Encara-o como uma lição because you’ve learned something from it.

You’ve learned that no matter how much you love them or how well you treat them, you can’t make people love you.

You’ve learned that not everyone we lose is a loss. Sometimes it’s how God saves us from those who are bad or wrong for us.

You’ve learned that you shouldn’t pour yourself into some other person or relationship because you won’t make them love you more, you’ll only hurt yourself.

You’ve learned that some people won’t appreciate your feelings and that’s why they don’t deserve you and your love.

6. Don’t lose faith in love

No matter what, you should never lose faith in love, else you won’t be able to recognize your soulmate when you meet them.

Don’t think that you are doomed to be alone for the rest of your life. You never know what’s around the corner. This person wasn’t meant for you but someone else will be.

Read books and watch romantic movies more. They’ll help you keep believing in true love – because it exists and one day it will happen to you.

7. Don’t let it define you

Yes, being rejected is cruel. It hurts and it leaves so many scars on us. But you shouldn’t let it define you.

Someone rejected you because you weren’t good enough for them, that doesn’t mean you won’t be for someone else.

Maybe this rejection left you vulnerable, but you shouldn’t protect yourself from future relationships with emotional armor.

Or just because that person hurt you, that doesn’t give you the right to hurt someone else.

You are so better than that. That person made a huge mistake because they didn’t see how great you are.

Um dia, quando finalmente conheces a tua alma gémea, you’ll actually be thankful to that other person for rejecting you. If they didn’t, then you wouldn’t have met your forever person.

8. Falar sobre o assunto com um amigo

Don’t keep all your emotions inside. You have to share them with someone. Talk with a member of your family or with a friend.

Manter as emoções engarrafadas não é saudável e é stressante. If you feel like you can’t open up to anyone close to you, you can always try with a terapeuta.

You can pretend that everything is fine, but if you keep your emotions pent up for too long, at one moment you’ll have to explode. Don’t let yourself get to that point when you can prevent it in time.

9. Fazer algo de bom para si próprio

Mereces tratar de ti. Vai às compras. Compra algo bonito para ti. Encomenda o teu prato preferido. Arranja aquele animal de estimação que sempre quiseste ter.

That’ll be a good distraction for you. Because all you need is time. Time heals all wounds and one day you won’t even remember the person that rejected you.

Do anything that’ll make you feel better. Maybe you like to travel? Well, this is the best opportunity for it. Go somewhere you’ve always dreamed of and distance yourself from everything for a while.

10. Lembrar-se do seu valor

You just went through a rejection and it’s perfectly normal that it affected your self-esteem. You are asking yourself what’s wrong with you all the time.

Well, I’ll tell you what’s wrong with you  – nothing. You are absolutely great. Someone else would be over the moon to have you.

There’s something wrong with the person who rejected you. How could they not see how much you’re worth and what they are losing?

However, you should only focus on yourself now. Have an honest talk with yourself. Don’t feel sorry for yourself.

Lembre-se do seu valor. Lembre-se de que muitas outras pessoas apreciam a sua companhia e gostam de estar consigo.

11. Avançar

You have every right to suffer. Listen to sad music and eat your weight in ice cream. You can even cry, if it’s going to help you.

Give yourself some time. Your healing process may take a while. But what’s important is que a dor vai passar.

After some time, you’ll have to move on, for your own well-being. You have to bounce back from it even stronger. So, shake it off and get back in the game.

Even though it’s a very painful emotion, you have to train yourself to accept it as a part of life. Because you won’t be rejected only by a love partner; friends and even your boss may reject you.

Don’t be too sad about it. If someone has rejected you, then it should be their problem. They failed to see how much you’re actually worth and someday they’ll look back and regret it.