Como fazer Friendzone a uma rapariga como um cavalheiro em 15 maneiras simpáticas

Let’s forget about sitcoms and romcoms just for a while. As raparigas também são vítimas de friendzones. And while it’s difficult to get friendzoned by a man you like, he’s also in an unpleasant situation. 

Imagine o seguinte cenário: o seu amigo íntimo ou colega de trabalho diz-lhe ela gosta de si. Even though she is an attractive woman with a rocking personality, you don’t see her that way. 

Então, o que é que se faz agora? Como fazer friendzone a uma rapariga sem lhe partir o coração e prejudicar o seu bem-estar mental? 

Worry not because I’ve got a step-by-step guide on friendzoning someone while being a verdadeiro cavalheiro no processo. Apertem os cintos! 

Como fazer um Friendzone a uma rapariga 

It’s actually pretty simple: all you have to do is follow each step mentioned below: 

1. Trate-a como um dos seus amigos

Esta rapariga é a sua amiga platónica e talvez até a sua alma gémea platónica. And I guess you have other platonic friends as well. If you’re not sure how to treat her, just imagine that she’s a guy.

No, you shouldn’t arm wrestle her or invite her to a soccer game if that’s not her thing. I’m talking about your relationship here – just act the same way you’d act with your male friends. 

E certifica-te de que ela o vê. Make sure she realizes that you treat her no differently than your buddies and that, basically, you don’t even notice she’s female.

Since you’re a true gentleman, this might be a bit tricky. I know that you respect and appreciate this woman. But even if you didn’t, you’d still feel the urge to open the door for her, buy her flowers on Women’s Day, or pay for her drinks. 

I have to disappoint you, but if you’re trying to figure out how to friendzone a girl, you must stop doing this. I know you’re just trying to be nice, but trust me, all of these small acts of kindness are easy to misinterpret. 

2. Diz-lhe que olhas para ela como uma irmã

I’ll be honest with you: if you tell her this, you’re likely to break her heart. I mean, this is probably the last sentence you want to hear from someone you’re romantically interested in. 

No entanto, isso tem de ser feito. Esta é a melhor maneira de esta mulher perceber que não tem qualquer hipótese consigo.

Besides, it’s not far from the truth. Preocupa-se muito com ela e deseja-lhe tudo de bom. Sente a necessidade de a proteger, mas não tem sentimentos românticos para ela. 

When we put it all together, she is like the sister you never had. Too bad she doesn’t see it that way. 

3. Arranja-lhe um encontro com um dos teus amigos

If you try and set this girl up with one of your guy friends, you’ll kill two birds with one stone. First and foremost, you’ll make it clear that you’re not into her. I mean, if you were, this would be the last thing you’d be doing. 

But there is one more advantage to this master plan. At the same time, you’ll make this girl feel wanted and attractive. 

You’re sending her the message that you think she’s worthy of love – it’s just that you can’t give her that type of love. 

Besides, maybe she’ll find happiness with your buddy. Maybe he knocks her off her feet, and she forgets you ever existed. 

The only flaw in this plan is your male friend. To be honest, this arrangement is not entirely fair to him. You know this girl has feelings for you, and you’re trying to set them up regardless. 

But hey, it’s not like you’re forcing them into anything – you’re just giving them a chance to get to know each other better. Everything else is up to them. 

4. Dizer-lhe que tens uma namorada

Here’s a pro tip: if an acquaintance or o colega de trabalho está a atirar-se a si or confesses her feelings for you, the best thing to do is tell her that you have a girlfriend. You don’t have to have “the talk” with her; it’s enough to casually mention you’re in a serious relationship.

Tell her how in love you are with your GF and that you two are planning on taking your relationship to the next level. This way, she’ll be too embarrassed to try fazer com que repares nela.

Besides, you’ve somehow taken the responsibility off your shoulders. It’s not that you don’t like her – you’re already taken. 

However, you can’t use this awesome excuse when a close friend is in love with you. Sooner or later, you’d have to introduce your imaginary girlfriend to the world.

5. Falar com ela sobre a sua vida amorosa

But here’s what you can do: you can talk about your past relationship with her. Even if you no longer have feelings for your ex, she doesn’t have to know that, does she?

Basta pedir-lhe uma chávena de café e tell her that you’ve been thinking about your ex-girlfriend a lot lately. You can even add that you two started talking again and that you’re considering getting back together. 

If you don’t want to drag your ex into this mess, just start casually mentioning that you’re falling for some new girl in your life. You don’t have to say that you’re in a relationship just yet, but one thing is for sure: you’re in love. 

Is this cruel? Absolutely yes! It will shatter this poor girl’s heart into a million pieces. 

But trust me when I tell you that it’s one of the nicest ways to send her to the friendzone. At least she’ll know where she stands. 

6. Don’t give her false hope

When you’re trying to figure out how to friendzone a girl, whatever you do, please don’t give her false hope. Trust me, it’s what will hurt her most. 

E não é só isso: vai arruinar a confiança dela nos homens, e ela pode até deixar de acreditar no amor. Queres mesmo ser responsável por tudo isso? 

Always make sure that you act like you don’t even notice that she’s of the opposite sex. Yes, you care for her very much, but not in that way. 

No matter what, you must tell her straight up. After all, we’re talking about a woman in love who will interpret everything you say or do as what she wants to hear and see in the blink of an eye. 

É por isso que tens de ter muito cuidado com ela. 

Don’t flirt with her, don’t make deep eye contact, don’t pay her too many compliments, don’t use her to make other girls jealous, and don’t send any other body language signs that you’re into her.   

7. Imply that she’s not your type

Once again, this is a hurtful way to friendzone a girl. But hey, a man’s got to do what a man’s got to do. Remember: you’re doing this to keep her heart from breaking even more. 

You have to make this woman realize that she’s not your type. But please, you can’t say anything that might offend her when explaining this. 

First of all, you won’t use her as an example at all. Let’s say that she’s blonde. You won’t tell her that you don’t like blondes. Instead, you’ll keep on checking out black-haired women and commenting on how crazy you are for that hair color. 

Por exemplo, se um a rapariga tímida gosta de ti, you can casually mention that you’re crazy about extroverted, outgoing girls. 

You can do the same about different personality traits, but whatever you do, don’t play this game with a body type. Even if she’s the prettiest woman in the world, her insecurities will surely skyrocket. 

8. Sem contacto físico

A maior diferença entre ser apenas amigos e estar numa relação romântica é intimidade física. 

I mean, you can spend a lot of your time with your good friends, text them all the time, and do other activities together. However, if you’re only friends with someone, you wouldn’t sleep with them, would you?

Bem, deixem-me dizer-vos que a forma mais eficaz de fazer friendzone com alguém é não lhe dar contacto físico. Eu sei que esta é a tua bom amigoE, provavelmente, quer abraçá-la de vez em quando ou dar-lhe um beijo na cara.

Acredite em mim quando lhe digo que esta não é a melhor maneira de ficar amigo. Mesmo que estes toques sejam inofensivos para si, ela pode interpretá-los como sinais de linguagem corporal de que gosta dela.

Por favor, no holding hands, no cuddling, no hugging (except when you two greet), no touching her face, no putting your hand on her knee… That is, of course, unless you don’t want her to become your romantic partner.

9. Don’t show her pity

Just because you’re wondering how to friendzone a girl doesn’t mean she’s lost much. Don’t get me wrong – I’m not saying that you don’t have your own set of qualities or that you’re not an homem atraente. Afinal de contas, ela apaixonou-se por si por uma razão.

You might be the biggest catch in the world, but that doesn’t mean that you should feel sorry for her. Even if you are sorry for the way things turned out, never show pity.

Trust me, that will ruin her confidence even more than your rejection. And don’t try to act like you feel sorry for her under false pretenses – if you two are really good friends, she’ll see right through you.

If you behave like this, she’ll feel even more miserable. Without even being aware of it, you’re sending her an indirect message that she is unworthy of anyone’s love.

10. Utilizar as redes sociais a seu favor

Okay, you obviously won’t put the word friendzone in your post’s caption – that would be too much and incredibly insensitive. But you can definitely use social media to send a message to this girl in real life.

Sempre que publicar uma história ou uma fotografia com ela (ou partilhar a publicação dela), adicione uma série de hashtags ou gifs de amizade. Podes até usar a estado de amizade e legendas whenever you’re posting anything involving her online.

This way, all the other girls in your followers’ list will know that she is your best friend and nothing more.

Here’s another thing you should pay attention to: don’t reply with fire or heart emojis to her stories and don’t pay her too many elogios nos comentários. Esta é outra coisa que pode dar-lhe esperanças.

Besides, this is how you treat a girl you’re hitting on – not your best friend.

11. Fazer o mais rapidamente possível

The worst thing you can do is postpone this talk. If you’ve noticed that this woman is falling in love with you, you have to burst her bubble as soon as possible. I know that this is something you’d rather not do, but guess what? Nobody will do your dirty work for you.

Isto é especialmente importante se ela tiver confessado os seus sentimentos por si. If she’s just hinting and using body language signs to show you that she’s into you, you also can do the same back. However, if she’s spilled her heart out to you, she’ll expect an answer.

Besides, if this girl was brave enough to tell you she loved you, the least you can do is also be brave and tell her you don’t feel the same way. The longer you put it off, the worse her heartbreak will end up being.

So, be a man about it, set up a get-together without anyone else, and tell her everything that’s on your mind. Just make sure she doesn’t confuse this invitation with a date!

12. Explica as tuas razões para a teres escolhido como amiga

Of course, you don’t have to explain the reasons why you’re putting her in the friendzone. You have the right to be attracted to whomever you want and not to be attracted to whomever you don’t want.

However, if you want to remain good friends, it would be nice to explain yourself. Don’t be cruel, and don’t think of only telling her that you don’t like her.

I’m not saying you should justify yourself. Just tell her that you don’t see her as a potential romantic partner, that you’re still in love with your ex, or that you just want to be single at the moment.

Desta forma, a dignidade dela permanecerá intacta. E essa deveria ser a vossa intenção em primeiro lugar.

She’ll realize that you’re not turning her down because she’s not worthy of your love, because you don’t see her qualities, or because you’re out of her league.

This is a kind of “it’s not you – it’s me” situation. And it doesn’t really matter whether what you’re saying is empty words – the point is to repair as much damage as possible.

13. Don’t use her as an ego boost

Here’s another thing you should never do: don’t take advantage of this girl’s feelings. I know that her love has had a positive impact on your self-confidence but think of the stakes if you start using her as an ego boost.

This is pretty much how it goes: the girl you’re into rejects you, you break up with the woman you loved, or you’re just going through a dry period. So you end up feeling bad about yourself. Your confidence disappears, and you start feeling unlovable and think that no other woman will ever want you again.

E depois lembram-se desta rapariga. Sabes que ela está desesperadamente apaixonada por ti e decides oferecer-lhe um anel. Ou talvez provocá-laSe a sua mãe não estiver a fazer nada, envie-lhe alguns sinais contraditórios só para a fazer balançar e reavivar os seus sentimentos.

Ela dá-lhe o tão necessário impulso no seu ego, e você vai-se embora, continuando com a sua vida. Entretanto, ela fica de coração partido mais uma vez.

So please, be fair and don’t even think about doing this. In fact, make sure you don’t do it unconsciously either, just because her attention suits you.

14. Ofereça-lhe a sua amizade

Now that you’ve established her position in your life, there is no need to cut this girl off. On the contrary, it’s your job to tell her that you two can still remain the same friends you were before all of this.

As far as you’re concerned, you’ll treat her the same way you treated her before she started growing feelings for her. You won’t talk to anyone about this, and you’ll never mention it again.

Mostra-lhe que consideras a tua amizade suficientemente forte para ultrapassar este obstáculo. Isto não é mais do que uma fase.

Besides, you love her (as a friend) enough not to let her go so easily. She hasn’t done anything to hurt you, betray you, or endanger your friendship.

15. Mas compreende que se ela recusar

However, you have to prepare yourself for the possibility of this girl turning your offer down. If she tells you that she can’t be just friends, don’t see it as blackmail.

Make it clear that you’re sad about her decision, but don’t make a big scene about it – it will only make things more difficult for her. Don’t try convincing her to stay.

Remember that she’s cutting you off to heal in a healthy manner. Sabe o que se diz: longe da vista, longe do pensamento.

Well, this girl couldn’t stand looking at you without being able to kiss you or text you without telling you she loves you. Most importantly, she couldn’t stand seeing you with other women.

Por isso, se ela achar que isto é o melhor, não tem outra hipótese senão desejar-lhe boa sorte. Quem sabe, talvez ela volte a entrar na sua vida depois de o ter esquecido. Nessa altura, podem continuar de onde pararam e voltar a ser amigos.

Um rapaz pode fazer Friendzone a uma rapariga?

Sim, um homem pode friendzone uma raparigaE isso acontece com mais frequência do que se possa imaginar. Apesar de os filmes e a cultura pop, em geral, tentarem persuadir-nos de que as mulheres são as únicas a fazer amizade com os homens, a verdade é que isto acontece nos dois sentidos. 

Esqueça a ideia de que um homem estaria com todas as raparigas do mundo se tivesse oportunidade. Não, nem todos os homens arriscam e tentam dormir com uma mulher que gosta dele. 

Alguns de nós são suficientemente decentes para dizer a uma rapariga o que realmente sentem, mesmo que isso signifique ferir os seus sentimentos. 

Como é que se manda uma mensagem para a Friendzone?

If you want to friendzone a girl who you’re texting on a regular basis, you have to start by enviar-lhe menos mensagens de texto. I’m not telling you to ignore the poor girl completely, but you don’t have to send her a good morning text every day either, do you? 

Reply as a gentleman when she texts you, but try to leave it at that. Be as polite as possible, but don’t start new topics or engage in deep conversations.

Don’t send her innuendos or flirty jokes. Sei que pode ser engraçado para si, mas acredite em mim, ela vê isso como um olhar de esperança. 

Finally, it would be great if you could stop with heart and kissing emojis. If she’s your friend, I’m sure you have a habit of kissing her good night or replying with a heart reaction to her stories, but that has got to end. 

Como é que se pede a uma rapariga para ser amiga?

Se ela confessar os seus sentimentos por ti, just tell her that you’d like to be friends. Seria bom se pudesse explicar melhor a sua resposta.

For example, you can tell her that you don’t want to ruin your friendship or that you simply don’t see her in a romantic way. Make sure she knows that you’re not doing this because you don’t find her physical looks or personality attractive. 

But what if she doesn’t make the first move, but you see that she’s developed feelings for you? In that case, you’ll have to be more subtle. Just tell her that you have a girlfriend or that you’re in love with someone else. Trust me, she’ll get the hint! 

Para terminar:

Since you’re wondering how to friendzone a girl, I suppose you’re sure about what you’re doing. Don’t get me wrong – I’m not trying to convince you into liking her. 

No fim de contas, tens o direito de gostar de quem quiseres. No entanto, só quero que penses bem nas coisas antes de as fazeres. 

I’d hate to see you regret your actions. 

Por outro lado, if you realize that this is what you really want to do, please, don’t let guilt get the best of you. You’ve done nothing wrong. 

Pelo contrário, isto é muito mais justo do que enganá-la e deixá-la sonhar acordada com a possibilidade de vocês acabarem juntos. Acredite em mim, pode orgulhar-se de si próprio por ter jogado as coisas como um perfeito cavalheiro.