11 maneras infalibles de recuperarse tras un rechazo

Ser rechazado es una sensación horrible. No importa lo fuerte que seas como persona o lo grande que sea tu autoestima, el rechazo siempre dolerá.

You’ll have mixed feelings. You’ll feel sad, because someone didn’t choose you and didn’t want to be with you.

On the other hand, you’ll be confused because you can’t find a reason for them to reject you.

Sin embargo, tienes que encontrar la manera de afrontarlo y seguir adelante porque hay mucha gente que está más que feliz de tenerte en su vida. Tienes que hacerlo por ellos.

You have to do it because of your future. If you don’t give yourself some time and move on properly, this rejection will only haunt you and bring you nothing but misery.

It’s important to bounce back even stronger and to move on with your life. Here is some advice for all those who are suffering from rejection.

1. It’s not you, it’s definitely them

Sometimes it’s not up to you and you can’t do anything about it. Make peace with other people’s decisions and move on.

Nunca te compadezcas de ti mismo porque tú eres el verdadero ganador de esta historia. Tú eres el que lo intentó y lo intentó, incluso después de ser rechazado.

La persona que te rechazó es un perdedor. Han perdido a alguien que quería amarles y mostrarles cómo es el amor verdadero. Un día, they’ll realize what they lost and regret it para el resto de sus vidas.  

2. Comprobación de la realidad

Being rejected hurts and sometimes the healing process lasts a little longer than it should. That’s why you need to give yourself a reality check – a wake up call that will help you bounce back.

You have to know that you aren’t the only person who has been rejected. Most of us have and we all healed, just as you will.

Know that all people you meet aren’t going to love you and that is perfectly normal. You too won’t like every person you meet.

You tried and you failed. But it wasn’t a mistake. It was the bravest thing you’ve ever done. Honestly, your confidence is really commendable.

3. Su valor es admirable

Envidio a todos aquellos que tienen el valor suficiente para seguir intentándolo incluso después de haber sido rechazados. Deberíais estar orgullosos de vosotros mismos, de vuestra valentía y confianza.

Don’t let that one bad experience affect your self-esteem because it’ll also affect your courage. It is one of the best things about you.

Someone will come along and see that you aren’t afraid to fight for love because love is the most important thing for you. That person will know how to appreciate it.

4.They weren’t meant for you

Believe in fate. Every person has a soulmate and obviously that person wasn’t really meant for you. Your soulmate is still somewhere out there and you’ll meet them sooner than you think.

The universe has something better planned for you. That rejection was actually your salvation. God knew that person wasn’t your soulmate and He wanted to spare you from wasting your time with the wrong person.  

5. Conviértalo en una lección

Nunca veas ese rechazo como un error tuyo o una mala experiencia. Véalo como una lección because you’ve learned something from it.

You’ve learned that no matter how much you love them or how well you treat them, you can’t make people love you.

You’ve learned that not everyone we lose is a loss. Sometimes it’s how God saves us from those who are bad or wrong for us.

You’ve learned that you shouldn’t pour yourself into some other person or relationship because you won’t make them love you more, you’ll only hurt yourself.

You’ve learned that some people won’t appreciate your feelings and that’s why they don’t deserve you and your love.

6. Don’t lose faith in love

No matter what, you should never lose faith in love, else you won’t be able to recognize your soulmate when you meet them.

Don’t think that you are doomed to be alone for the rest of your life. You never know what’s around the corner. This person wasn’t meant for you but someone else will be.

Read books and watch romantic movies more. They’ll help you keep believing in true love – because it exists and one day it will happen to you.

7. Don’t let it define you

Yes, being rejected is cruel. It hurts and it leaves so many scars on us. But you shouldn’t let it define you.

Someone rejected you because you weren’t good enough for them, that doesn’t mean you won’t be for someone else.

Maybe this rejection left you vulnerable, but you shouldn’t protect yourself from future relationships with emotional armor.

Or just because that person hurt you, that doesn’t give you the right to hurt someone else.

You are so better than that. That person made a huge mistake because they didn’t see how great you are.

Un día, cuando por fin conoces a tu alma gemela, you’ll actually be thankful to that other person for rejecting you. If they didn’t, then you wouldn’t have met your forever person.

8. Hablar de ello con un amigo

Don’t keep all your emotions inside. You have to share them with someone. Talk with a member of your family or with a friend.

Mantener las emociones reprimidas no es sano y es estresante. If you feel like you can’t open up to anyone close to you, you can always try with a terapeuta.

You can pretend that everything is fine, but if you keep your emotions pent up for too long, at one moment you’ll have to explode. Don’t let yourself get to that point when you can prevent it in time.

9. Haz algo bueno por ti

Te mereces un capricho. Ve de compras. Cómprate algo bonito. Pide tu comida favorita. Cómprate esa mascota que siempre quisiste tener.

That’ll be a good distraction for you. Because all you need is time. Time heals all wounds and one day you won’t even remember the person that rejected you.

Do anything that’ll make you feel better. Maybe you like to travel? Well, this is the best opportunity for it. Go somewhere you’ve always dreamed of and distance yourself from everything for a while.

10. Recuérdate a ti mismo lo que vales

You just went through a rejection and it’s perfectly normal that it affected your self-esteem. You are asking yourself what’s wrong with you all the time.

Well, I’ll tell you what’s wrong with you  – nothing. You are absolutely great. Someone else would be over the moon to have you.

There’s something wrong with the person who rejected you. How could they not see how much you’re worth and what they are losing?

However, you should only focus on yourself now. Have an honest talk with yourself. Don’t feel sorry for yourself.

Recuérdate a ti mismo lo que vales. Recuerda que muchas otras personas disfrutan de tu compañía y les gusta estar contigo.

11. Seguir adelante

You have every right to suffer. Listen to sad music and eat your weight in ice cream. You can even cry, if it’s going to help you.

Give yourself some time. Your healing process may take a while. But what’s important is que la pena pasará.

After some time, you’ll have to move on, for your own well-being. You have to bounce back from it even stronger. So, shake it off and get back in the game.

Even though it’s a very painful emotion, you have to train yourself to accept it as a part of life. Because you won’t be rejected only by a love partner; friends and even your boss may reject you.

Don’t be too sad about it. If someone has rejected you, then it should be their problem. They failed to see how much you’re actually worth and someday they’ll look back and regret it.