9 frases que todos os narcisistas usam quando querem manipulá-lo
Todos os narcisistas são mestres da manipulação e do gaslighting. Eles sabem sempre como conseguir exatamente o que querem e como se safar de todos os problemas que causam.
I once dated a narcissist and didn’t even know it until later on when I realized how much he controlled me and always portrayed himself as a victim. Questionava-me muitas vezes se era mesmo louca ou se andava apenas com um psicopata.
After watching one video I learned that’s exactly what he wanted – to make me think I’m the problem. TikTok user @the_bat_wolf publicou um vídeo falar sobre frases comuns que os narcisistas usam contra si.
Ele intitulava-se um “self-aware narcissist” saying both he and toxic people he’s been with used these exact words to manipulate others. And after listening to everything he said, I must say all of them sounded really familiar! He described my ex in a 1-minute video, it’s crazy!
Here’s what he said those 9 phrases are:
1. “Why are you starting fights with me?”
This is one classic example of a sentence they use when they know they did something wrong and want to avoid taking accountability. It’s just uma tentativa esfarrapada de o fazer sentir-se culpado por criar tensão, mesmo quando se quer apenas falar calmamente sobre um assunto.
2. “Why are you always overreacting?”
Whenever they say this, be sure they just want to convince you that you’re exaggerating when na realidade, tem uma reação perfeitamente adequada a algo que aconteceu. Sinceramente, esta era uma razão pela qual eu pensava que por vezes exagerava quando estava a ser demasiado simpático.
3. “This conversation is over. I’m leaving!”
Whenever they don’t get what they want from you, they’ll use this tactic to change that. Narcissists know they can ganhar a sua piedade e incutir-lhe medo, dizendo que estão chateados e indo embora. Ter medo de acabar sozinho faz de si uma vítima perfeita para eles.
4. “I guess I’m just a piece of sh*t.”
Esta é mais uma tentativa de obter a nossa simpatia através da auto-depreciação. O seu objetivo é fazer-nos sentir culpados for saying something, even if it wasn’t hurtful so they can be excused from what they did.
5. “Believe whatever you want.”
If narcissists realize you know the truth and they have nowhere to escape they won’t simply give up. Instead, they’ll use this phrase when they don’t have anything more to add to defend themselves. So by saying this, they don’t give you an opportunity to address and discuss what you want.
6. “Why are you so sensitive?”
You’re either overreacting or you’re too sensitive, there’s no in-between! Either way, Os narcisistas nunca validarão os seus sentimentos. They’ll just gaslight you until they convince you what you’re feeling is completely wrong.
7. “Why do you make everything a big deal?”
Similar to saying you’re overreacting or too sensitive, they use this when they want you to think you’re the problem. This way, they can get out of almost anything because minimizam as suas acções, fazendo-as parecer menos problemáticas. My ex would always say I’m crazy for being upset over something that’s not so serious.
8. “You’re crazy!”
Nunca acredite numa pessoa narcisista quando ela lhe diz isto. Eles só usam esta frase para que duvides dos teus sentimentos and think they’re a real victim. The only victim here is you! Don’t let them fool you.
9. “You don’t appreciate me!”
I remember my ex would always mention all the nice things he did for me whenever I confronted him about something he didn’t like. And then he would use this famous phrase and say I’m ungrateful. Of course, narcissistic people only do that to criar um sentimento de culpa e desviar a atenção do seu comportamento problemático.
Algumas das pessoas nos comentários escreveram outras frases que deveriam ser acrescentadas a esta lista.
O seu talento especial é enganar os outros segundo algumas mulheres e eu concordo plenamente!
So, always be aware of these and similar phrases, and don’t be anyone’s muppet they can control however they want! They’ll do anything to make you think you’re the problem but be smarter and don’t fall for that!
