10 sinais óbvios de que ele está a fingir que não gosta de ti (e 8 razões para isso)
À procura de signs he’s pretending not to like you? Bem, se a maior parte dos sinais abaixo se refletir no seu comportamento, então já sabe he’s scared of how much he likes you.
So, you like this guy (okay, let’s not fool ourselves, you’re crazy about him), but he’s sending you mixed signals and you don’t really know what’s going on in his head.
Num momento pensamos ele tem uma paixão secreta por ti, and the next you’re not quite sure he knows you exist. And that’s how you ended up here searching for signs he’s pretending not to like you, right?
Os homens fingem que não gostam de si?
Yes, guys sometimes pretend not to like you. They try hard to convince you that they don’t care about you even though deep down inside they are crazy about you and their actions prove that as well.
Deixam-nos loucos com todo este fingimento, fazendo-nos pensar: Será que ele gosta de mim ou que diabo? But, lucky for you, he can’t hide his body language signs and other revealing signals that show ele gosta mesmo de ti!
Aprenda tudo o que há para saber sobre a sua forma de pensar e esteja sempre um passo à frente dele com ESTE GUIA DE ENCONTROS E SEDUÇÃO.
And, yes, there are many reasons why a guy might pretend not to like you (which we’ll also cover below, so stay tuned)!
Como saber se ele está a esconder o que sente por si?
You know he’s hiding his feelings for you if he’s displaying positive body language signs à sua volta, lembra-se de tudo o que diz e faz-lhe MUITAS perguntas pessoais, responder sempre às suas mensagens ASAP, or notices things you don’t expect anyone to notice.
There are lots of other signs that indicate he’s pretending not to like you and you’ll find them below.
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Alguns sinais de que um homem gosta de si but he’s trying not to show it are mysterious and the others are pretty obvious, but you probably haven’t been paying too much attention to them due to all that confusion.
(Honestly, who’s got time for overthinking and deciphering the enigma of a man’s brain).
To help you understand what’s really going on in his head, here is a list of clear signs he’s pretending not to like you, but the truth is he really does like you A LOT!
10 Clear Signs He’s Pretending Not To Like You
He’s always showing up where you are
Vamos ao centro comercial e lá está ele, vamos dar um passeio e lá está ele mesmo atrás de nós.
When this happened for the first time, you were convinced that it was a pure coincidence, but every time after that you started to suspect that maybe he’s creeping on you.
Or maybe he’s a ninja with a teleportation superpower, so he always manages to show up right where you are.
Whatever it is, all you need to know is that this is a good sign that he’s pretending not to like you! And do you know how I know? Because the exact same thing happened to my best friend.
O rapaz com quem a minha amiga andava a sair há algum tempo enviava-lhe sempre sinais contraditórios. Passado algum tempo, ela reparou que ele aparecia sempre onde ela estava.
After that, he finally found some courage and admitted that he liked her a lot but didn’t know how to tell her because he was really shy and was medo da rejeição.
Talvez a mesma coisa esteja a acontecer consigo, por isso mantenha os olhos bem abertos!
Apresenta sinais positivos de linguagem corporal à sua volta
Positive body language signs are subtle signs he really likes you, so you can’t ignore this no matter how hard you try.
Os sinais incluem:
- A olhar fixamente
- Contacto visual prolongado
- Inclinar-se para falar consigo como he’s preparing to kiss you
- Apontar os pés na sua direção
- Endireitar a postura para parecer mais masculino, e assim por diante.
Apresenta todos estes sinais a um nível subconsciente, o que significa que não os pode influenciar.
When you’re talking to him, he can’t help but lean in to absorb your every word, to straighten his posture whenever he sees you – he’s not even aware he’s doing any of it.
So, that guy at the office, or coffee shop might pretend that he doesn’t like you with his words, but his body language will eventually reveal his true feelings for you!
Ver também: 17 Sinais genuínos de linguagem corporal que ele gosta secretamente de si
He’s a tease master
A provocação é muitas vezes associada à imaturidade, mas a verdade é que quando um rapaz a provoca, isso significa he’s totally smitten with you. It’s also one of the legit signs he’s pretending not to like you.
Esta tem origem numa idade jovem, quando os rapazes provocam as raparigas na escola e estas os perseguem para se vingarem.
Este instinto de provocação mantém-se na idade adulta, mas o conceito é um pouco diferente. À medida que envelhecem, os homens costumam provocar apenas com palavras.
They try to embarrass you or they become stubborn not wanting to admit that you’re right about something, so they do things that annoy you.
Também me identifico totalmente com esta questão a nível pessoal, porque isto aconteceu-me recentemente.
Quando eu estava num semi-encontro com um rapaz que gosta de mim (ele admitiu-o alguns dias antes), ele provocou-me literalmente durante toda a noite, fazendo coisas infantis para me fazer sentir envergonhada. (Até tive de lhe bater algumas vezes porque ele exagerou).
Sim, quando os rapazes gostam de alguém, transformam-se em mestres da provocação em segundos, por isso, certifique-se de que presta atenção a este aspeto também.
Ele faz-lhe muitas perguntas pessoais
Com base na minha experiência pessoal e na de pessoas que me são próximas, posso dizer que há duas razões para um homem fazer muitas perguntas pessoais.
It’s either one of the following:
a) He’s an emotional psychopath ou um jogador e quer saber todos os pormenores sobre ti e o teu passado para te poder manipular.
b) He’s totally smitten with you and he genuinely wants to know you better.
If you’re sure that your guy doesn’t belong to the a) crew, then him asking personal questions is definitely one of the signs he’s pretending not to like you.
It’s evident that he wants to know everything about your love life, your previous romantic relationships, relações à distânciaou qualquer outra nave em que estivesses.
He’s probably creating a profile of your personal life in his head and that’s why he needs all the info he can get to reveal your personality, character, and the things you like and dislike.
E, por vezes, pode exagerar (tal como o tipo que provoca que mencionei acima).
Ele repara em todos os pormenores de si
If a man notices every detail about you, it means he’s paying close attention to you. He observes your every move, he listens to your every word, and he notices every time you do something new with your appearance.
Sabe que ele repara em todos os pormenores sobre si se fizer algumas das seguintes coisas:
- Passa muito tempo elogiando-o
- Lembra-se do que mencionou na semana passada sobre algo importante (ou algo totalmente irrelevante)
- Lembra-se de todos os pormenores da sua personalidade, trabalho, amigos, família e vida em geral.
Esta é semelhante a fazer muitas perguntas pessoais. Ele faz-lhe muitas perguntas para o conhecer melhor and he notices every detail about you because he can’t get enough of you.
He wants to memorize everything about you including those “trivial” things that are invisible to others but are a big deal for him.
When men are totally interested in someone, they can’t help but create a special file in their head where they’ll add every update and all the details regarding you and your life.
A sua curiosidade é o que os motiva a fazer isto.
He’s making real effort to impress you
If you’re wondering how to tell if a guy likes you, or if he just sees you as his good friend, you need to pay attention to his efforts!
Se he’s making real effort to impress you in front of his good friends, coworkers and in pretty much every other situation, then you know he’s totally into you.
He can pretend all he wants, but a guy who likes you won’t be able to resist making a serious effort when it comes to impressing you.
Ele vai certificar-se de que está sempre impecável da cabeça aos pés, faz-te rir, surpreende-te com os seus feitos e chama a tua atenção sempre que pode.
Ele fará tudo isso porque quer que repare nele e que goste dele. Porquê? Porque ele também gosta de si!
If it weren’t so, he would never try hard to win your attention in the first place, so that’s how you know he’s totally and crazily into you!
RELACIONADO: 16 Sinais óbvios de que o seu amigo homem sente algo por si
He’s making a real effort to make you jealous
This one is a total classic. When a guy is pretending that he doesn’t like you, he will not only make an effort to impress you, but to make you jealous as well! Why?
Because by making you jealous he’s trying to make you like him. Here are a few things he does to make you jealous:
- Ele namorisca com outras pessoas nas redes sociais e gaba-se disso (para que percebas que he’s a catch)
- He’s constantly posting new photos with other girls (who are maybe just his female friends)
- He always makes sure to mention his texting endeavors with an interesting girl he’s just met
- Está constantemente a namoriscar com outras pessoas que estão perto de si.
He says that the two of you are just friends but he’s proactively trying to make you jealous all the time.
If he’s doing all that, he’s making a real effort to make you jealous for two reasons: to hide that he likes you and to make you like him. How witty and lame at the same time, right?
Ele dá-te sinais contraditórios
Um dia mantém um contacto visual prolongado e envia-lhe mensagens de texto durante todo o dia, e no dia seguinte ignora-o completamente.
One day he even establishes subtle physical contact and the next he barely knows you. If he’s doing this, he’s definitely giving you mixed signals!
And when a guy is giving you mixed signals, it’s usually because he likes you A LOT but he’s struggling to find the right way to show you.
That’s why he sometimes chooses to shower you with affection and gestos românticos únicos e, a seguir, desaparece completamente no ar.
Sometimes guys get scared of their feelings and that’s when mixed signals come in handy.
He doesn’t have to justify why he did a certain thing and whenever he feels like he showed too much affection, he simply erases it by ignoring your messages or by acting cold.
He will do all this even though deep down in his heart he knows he’s totally crazy about you. Men, right?
Ver também: 8 Sinais mistos mais comuns que os homens enviam e o seu significado
Ele arranja sempre tempo para si
Há um milhão de maneiras de mostrar que ele gosta de si, mas esta é a mais poderosa. Se um homem arranja sempre tempo para si, sabe que he’s totally into you.
After all, if he weren’t interested in you, he wouldn’t go out of his way to hang out with you and to be there for you when needed. This could be a phone call when you’re sick, encouraging you during tough times, and similar.
If he sometimes ignores his best friends to spend time with you, it’s not about him just being nice. It’s much more than that. He doesn’t want you for a booty call, but he wants to be in a relação séria convosco.
He always makes time for you because he genuinely cares no matter how much he pretends that he doesn’t.
Quando lhe pedes para te ajudar com alguma coisa, ele teletransporta-se literalmente para tua casa e começa a ajudar-te com esse problema específico?
When you tell him that you’re bored, does he suggest doing something fun together?
If yes, then you know he’ll always make time for you no matter what and there’s no need to question his intentions because his heart is in the right place.
He’s very responsive online, but reserved in person
O seu homem transforma-se numa máquina de resposta online, mas quando se trata de comunicar pessoalmente, fecha-se simplesmente?
He’s probably doing that because he doesn’t know how to behave in your company (because he likes you) and he wants to play it safe by making you think that you’re only good friends.
Isto aconteceu-me recentemente. Conheci um rapaz novo e tivemos um ótimo química das mensagens de textomas tinha dificuldade em exprimir-se pessoalmente.
Por isso, comecei a perguntar-me o que tinha acontecido e a interrogar-me: Terei dito alguma coisa errada?
I noticed that whatever I tried, he didn’t seem to reciprocate. He couldn’t maintain eye-contact and his sentences were ultra short.
And then I realized that he was a little bit shy and insecure in person, so he didn’t know how to express himself properly.
Por isso, decidiu jogar pelo seguro, manter-se reservado e esperar pelo melhor. Bem, talvez a mesma coisa esteja a acontecer consigo!
8 Sinais óbvios de que o seu ex está a fingir que te esqueceu
How do you know if your ex is pretending to be over you? Simple. If some or all of the following signs resonate with him, then you know he’s definitely pretending to be over you:
You’re still in contact with your ex-boyfriend
Usually, when two people go their separate ways, they don’t stay in contact with each other.
If your ex-boyfriend texts or calls you regularly, then this is one of the telltale signs he’s pretending to be over you. Otherwise, he wouldn’t bother staying in contact with you and he’d be focused on seguir em frente.
When a guy wants to move on, the first thing he does is delete your number and remove you from all of his social networks. That’s how you know he’s serious about forgetting you.
He’s always around
Wherever you are, he’s there. Do you think this is a pure coincidence (or maybe not)? Obviously, he knows all the places where you’re usually at, so he’s trying hard to “accidentally” bump on you.
He can’t stop looking at you
When he “accidentally” bumps on you, do you have the feeling like he can’t stop staring at you? Whenever you “accidentally” look at him, his eyes are on you.
Trust me, if he wasn’t interested in you, he wouldn’t bother looking at you for a second. So, this is one of the biggest telltale signs he’s totally not over you.
Ele está sempre a arranjar desculpas para a ver
Does he always need your help with something? Does he keep making excuses only to see you? If yes, there you go. He’s making a real effort to be in your vicinity because he obviously still has feelings for you and he secretly hopes that you’re on the same page.
He’s always there to help you
Regardless if it is your chores or a problem regarding your job, he’s always there to help you. He listens to you and focuses on finding a solution for all your problems.
By doing this, he’s investing his time in you and he’s making a real effort para te MOSTRAR o quanto ele AINDA gosta de ti.
Mantém-se em contacto com os seus amigos e familiares
Um dos maiores indícios de que o seu ex ainda sente algo por si é ele manter-se em contacto com os seus familiares, amigos ou amigos comuns.
Ele mantém-se em contacto com eles porque quer estar o mais próximo possível de si. Além disso, quando ele decidir reunir-se consigo, eles serão úteis como seus intermediários.
He tries to make you jealous and he’s acting jealous himself
Ele está a tentar desesperadamente fazer-lhe ciúmes, saindo com outras mulheres, comentando as suas fotografias e coisas semelhantes? Ele mostra sinais de ciúme quando lhe falas dos teus amigos homens ou quando ele te vê a sair com os teus colegas homens?
Of course, you cannot know that he’s acting jealous if you aren’t in contact (or until his friends tell you that). But if you are in contact with him or his friends, and he acts like this, then there’s no need to question his feelings for you.
Ele liga-te bêbado
When a man is emotionally unavailable or when he’s pretending to be over you, he might drunk dial you only to admit his feelings.
Given that he doesn’t have the courage to do so in person or when he’s sober, his subconscious mind will force him to drunk dial you. And when he does, prepare to laugh A LOT and also prepare to overthink A LOT.
8 Reasons Why He’s Pretending Not To Like You
Há muitas razões para um rapaz fingir que não gosta de si, e aqui está uma lista das mais comuns.
So, in case you’re interested in what is really going on in his head, here are some answers that might help you understand better and deal with the whole situation:
He’s insecure
One of the most common reasons why a guy would pretend that he doesn’t like you is because of his insecurity.
He doesn’t know how to approach you, what to say to you, let alone what to do when he’s with you. He’s afraid that he will mess things up with his words and actions.
His insecurity is forcing him to pretend that he doesn’t have feelings for you, to send you mixed signals, and to keep you wondering about what is really going on in his head.
Os homens inseguros passam um mau bocado exprimir os seus sentimentos e preferem fingir toda a vida em vez de o fazer.
Normalmente, precisam apenas de um pouco de segurança da sua parte para se sentirem confortáveis com esta coisa de gostar de si.
Ele sente-se indigno de estar consigo
And sometimes guys are not insecure, but they don’t feel worthy of being with you. They think that they don’t deserve you because they have a low opinion of themselves – baixa auto-confiança.
You are probably the most gorgeous human being on Earth in his eyes and that’s why he feels like he could never be worthy of being with someone like you.
For that reason, it’s easier for him to pretend that he doesn’t even like you than to risk being rejected by you or feeling like he’s not good enough for you.
He’s emotionally unavailable
Perhaps he’s been through a bad breakup recently that scarred him and now he’s become emocionalmente indisponível because he’s, let’s say, protecting his heart.
He’s afraid of getting hurt again and that’s why he acts reserved about you. Truth be told, it’s not easy for a lot of guys to open up emotionally to others.
Homens emocionalmente indisponíveis fazem de tudo para esconder o que sentem por si, apesar de se poder ver nos seus olhos o quanto gostam de si e gostam de passar tempo consigo.
Mais uma vez, isto também me aconteceu.
There was this guy who was cheated on by his ex-girlfriend and we totally clicked. Even though we’d just met, most people thought we were together. Sadly, he refused to show any sign of affection toward me because he was afraid to open himself up and risk getting hurt again.
This is a real pain in the ass and if this is happening to you, you have my condolences. And if you’re wondering what I did regarding all this, I just stopped communicating and hanging out with him.
I gave him some space in the hope that one day he’ll come to his senses and become emotionally available.
Ver também: 5 sinais de que ele está emocionalmente indisponível (nem se dê ao trabalho de sair com ele)
He’s a player
If you’ve ever met a player or, God forbid, have been in a relationship with one, then you know that all players have one thing in common – the need to control.
Então, minha querida, se o vosso homem é um jogador he will pretend that he doesn’t like you, and he will pretend that he’s unavailable when you call him just because he wants to establish control and dominance. Pay close attention to such and similar red flags.
He knows that if he pretends that he doesn’t give a damn about you, you will be more interested because it’s in our nature to be drawn to those who ignore us (or pretend to ignore us).
If you think he might be a legit player, my humble relationship advice is to run from him as fast as you can! I always say that it’s better to be single than in a toxic relationship.
He’s immature
Na vida, encontrarás dois tipos de homens: rapazes e homens de verdade. Os rapazes são aqueles que ainda são imaturos, que simplesmente nunca crescem, independentemente da sua idade.
And sometimes, that boy will decide to pretend he doesn’t like you because he wants to play an immature game out of boredom.
He probably wants to feed his boy-ish ego first and that’s why he’s decided to leave you wondering about how he really feels about you.
Ele pensa que já tens alguém
With the advent of social networks, it’s become really hard to tell for sure who is single or taken.
Some people don’t like exhibiting their status, so the only way to discover whether that person is single or taken is by observing their pictures and other clues that might tell you something about their current vida amorosa situação.
Perhaps he saw a picture of you with a good friend of yours and he’s assumed that you have someone already.
Or he’s assumed that for no reason other than because he’s convinced that such a powerful lady couldn’t possibly be single.
And that’s why he’s decided to stay reserved and hide his feelings for you. He’s decided to pretend that he doesn’t like you even though he’s dying to be with you.
He thinks he won’t be able to make you happy
Quando um homem gosta realmente de si, a única coisa que lhe passa pela cabeça é a sua determinação em fazer-vos felizes.
This is the ultimate goal for every guy because if they can make you happy, it means they’re worthy of being with you.
And if he, for some reason, thinks that he won’t be able to make you happy, he might decide to hide his feelings for you and play it safe by not doing anything about it.
There are tons of reasons why a guy would think that, and sometimes they just need more time to sort their life out, or whatever they’re going through at the moment.
In the meantime, he will be scared to fall in love with you and that’s why he’ll pretend that he doesn’t like you.
He’s either shy or the ultimate coward
Sometimes guys pretend they don’t like you just because they don’t have the courage or don’t want to approach you first. They do this because they’re either shy or they simply expect you to make the first move.
If a guy isn’t shy, this is totally unfair and it’s the ultimate act of cowardice.
Significa que ele prefere esperar uma eternidade para que lhe diga como se sente, em vez de fazer algo por si próprio. Como sempre, os cobardes arranjam desculpas, mas os verdadeiros homens fazem um esforço!
Em vez de o perseguir ou esperar (durante demasiado tempo) para dar o primeiro passo, it’s time to go after what makes you feel good and healthy.
Ver também: Se ele gosta de mim, porque é que ainda namora online? 9 razões comuns
Considerações finais
I hope you now understand more clearly the whole philosophy behind all these signs he’s pretending not to like you.
And I hope you’ll stay patient and that you’ll find the courage to give him some space (if needed) in order to realize and admit how much he actually likes you!
To summarize, I’ll finish with this amazing quote:
“It’s hard to pretend you love someone when you don’t, but it’s harder to pretend that you don’t love someone when you really do.” – Desconhecido
Ver também: 9 coisas insanamente estúpidas que os homens fazem quando gostam demasiado de ti
