20 virtudes e defeitos reveladores de um macho beta

Definição de macho beta

According to The Urban Dictionary, a beta male is “An unremarkably careful man who avoids risk and confrontation. Beta males lack the physical presence, charisma, and confidence of the Alpha male”.

They are “men who are lower ranking in the social hierarchy and surrender their right to mate to alpha males”.

Apesar de este termo ser retirado da etologia, também é frequentemente utilizado na manosfera, onde temos machos alfa, beta, gama e ómega.

I’m sure you’ve seen it on different TV shows where this division is even more stereotypical: simply put, the alpha male is usually the menino mau enquanto o macho beta é o bom rapaz de quem todos gozam e que não tem sorte com as raparigas.

Bem, um homem beta é muito mais do que isso. De facto, tal como qualquer outro tipo de personalidade, este também tem as suas vantagens e desvantagens.

9 Desvantagens alarmantes de ser um macho beta

I won’t lie to you: as a beta man, you possess some not so appealing personality traits. There are some things about you that you need to start working on ASAP if you aspire to some self-improvement.

But hey, that’s why I’m here: to open your eyes and reveal the harsh truth to you. Here are the most important disadvantages of your personality type.

Alpha females see you as the “nice guy”

For as long as you can remember, people have been characterizing you as “the nice guy”. In fact, you’re probably the kindest person in their lives.

À primeira vista, alguém poderia pensar que isto é ótimo. Afinal de contas, ser simpático é uma boa qualidade.

Well, not in today’s society. Truth be told, every fêmea alfa que lhe disse que era um bom rapaz rejeitou-o e acabou por ficar com uma não-tão-homem simpático.

Na verdade, na maior parte dos casos, namoraram com os homens de quem inicialmente tinham uma má opinião. Acabaram por ter uma relação com os homens que classificaram como idiotas e jogadores.

You see, the problem is that you’re too nice. Yes, you’ve heard it right–that is also a thing.
You are simply not firm enough. You don’t challenge females nor do you inspire them to fight for you.

Instead, most of them see you as their safety net. They consider you to be too weak and delicate and that’s not the quality people respect in others.

To be honest, when you’re this nice, you’re indirectly inviting people to take advantage of you. You’re sending a message that you won’t rebel against whatever they do to you.

Agradar às pessoas está no seu sangue

The next quality all beta men possess is people-pleasing. This is another characteristic you might even like about yourself, but trust me–it won’t bring you anything good.

Being a people pleaser is much more than just choosing kindness. It means that you’re ready to disregard your own needs and desires to make others happy.

You’re not like this with your loved ones only. Instead, you treat your coworkers, acquaintances, and even strangers as if they were more important than you.

You constantly apologize for the things you’re not guilty of; therefore, you always feel responsible for tudo corre mal e nunca se culpa os outros pelos erros que cometem.

The problem is that you don’t have the ability to say “no”.

When someone asks you for a favor, you’ll go out of your way to make it happen, even though you’re busy, tired, or just don’t feel like doing it at the moment.

Não só isso, como também concorda com toda a gente. Na verdade, para ser mais preciso, age como se concordasse com toda a gente para evitar ferir os seus sentimentos.

Even if someone does you harm, chances are that you won’t say anything about it. Instead, you’ll accept their awful treatment without calling them out on their actions.

A maior parte das pessoas que o rodeiam aplaudem-no por esta qualidade. Vão elogiá-lo por deixar que o tratem como querem, sem dizer nada sobre isso.

I bet you’ve been in this type of situation a million times. Well, the ones who truly love you will tell you the harsh truth: nobody will appreciate or respect you for being a people pleaser.

Baixa auto-confiança

Uma das características beta é uma enorme autoestima problema. A questão aqui é que as suas inseguranças estão a levar a melhor sobre si.

You don’t believe in your own abilities and capacities. Instead, you keep comparing yourself to others and you always come up with the same old conclusion: you’re worse than everyone else.

When you stand next to any other man, you’re focused on his qualities while you concentrate on your flaws.

You become overwhelmed with the fact that he is more handsome or more intelligent than you, and immediately, you think that you don’t stand a chance next to a stunt like him.

Naturally, you won’t say this out loud. However, trust me, everyone in your surrounding notices how you feel about yourself.

You send an insecure vibe that can’t be hidden as much as you try to hide it. Of course, there is no theoretical way that all of these men are better than you.

After all, that’s not the issue. The issue is that you are convinced that they are better than you.

Isto é especialmente problemático quando se trata de abordar o sexo oposto, bem como de falar com outras pessoas em geral.

No matter how successful and good looking you are–you’re not aware of o seu próprio valor. E isso nota-se.

Quando entra numa sala, nunca fixa o olhar nas outras pessoas. As suas palmas começam a suar quando tem de sair da sua zona de conforto.

Sempre que falamos com alguém (especialmente raparigas), baixamos a voz e o nervosismo apodera-se de nós. Fica com a língua enrolada e a voz começa a tremer.

Basically, you’re convinced everyone is staring at you and looking at your flaws.

The bottom line is that you don’t love yourself as much as you should. So, you don’t think anyone else would have a valid reason to love you either.

Sem auto-aperfeiçoamento

It doesn’t matter how self-secure he is, a true Homem alfa pensa sempre que pode fazer melhor.

Em vez de se comparar com os outros, esforça-se por derrotar o homem que costumava ser, porque considera esse homem a sua única verdadeira concorrência.

Este tipo de homem tem um objetivo: ser sempre melhor hoje do que foi ontem. Está concentrado no seu auto-aperfeiçoamento e a sua vida segue sempre em frente.

Well, that is one of the main differences between alpha and beta males. The truth is that you’re stuck in your comfort zone without having the courage to escape it.

If you’re honest, you’ll say that you’re everything but happy with your life right now.

You’re not satisfied with your career, you hope for a better love life, you are not crazy about your personality traits, and there are probably some habits you’re dying to change.

There is nothing strange about this–we all have some things we want to change about us. But, the point is that you’re not doing anything about it.

You might dream of success. However, you don’t strive for it.

You’ve accepted your life the way it is now and you haven’t moved from a dead spot in ages. You’re so scared of failure that you set low-effort goals in front of yourself, which make disappointments impossible.

Basically, you’re too scared of making any changes. You’re frightened to take any risks and you possess no decisiveness needed for self-improvement.

As a beta man, you don’t take your life into your own hands. Instead, you act like someone will show up at your doorstep with a magic stick and finally get you to move.

Well, newsflash: that won’t happen. You’re the creator of your own destiny and it’s about time to come to terms with that fact.

Medo de confrontos

When was the last time you had a real argument with someone? When was the last time you spoke your mind and raised your voice about the things you weren’t satisfied with?

That’s right–you can’t remember because it has probably never happened.

Don’t get me wrong: I’m not saying that you should go around and pick fights without a valid reason just to prove your toxic masculinity.

I’m not advising you to get all physical and punch someone in the face every time you don’t like something or things don’t go your way.

However, that doesn’t mean that it’s acceptable to keep behaving like this. You have to learn how to stand up for yourself if you want to earn respect and appreciation.

No, I’m not saying this just because you’re male. This doesn’t mean that you necessarily have to be loud or aggressive to prove a point.

I’m telling you all of this because you’re an adult human being who needs to know how to confront those who are doing you harm.

I don’t care if this is your boss, your parents, or your girlfriend we’re talking about. There is no point in nodding your head to everything these people say and agreeing to do whatever they ask you to do.

Para além de o fazer parecer mal, este tipo de comportamento também lhe causará muito stress.

This anger and other negative emotions you’re feeling won’t magically go away just because you didn’t express them in a given moment.

Instead, they will pile up inside of you throughout the years. Sooner or later, you’ll probably explode and everyone will wonder what got into you.

You don’t defend your attitudes

O mesmo se aplica à defesa da sua opinião. Talvez isso esteja relacionado com as suas atitudes políticas, crenças religiosas ou pensamentos sobre um determinado assunto social.

Whenever you’re surrounded by people who think differently than you, you won’t speak your mind. In most cases, you’ll obey whatever they have to say.

Even when others don’t manage to change your opinion, you’ll pretend that they did. You feel insecure when it comes to defending your attitudes and you assume that you’ll make yourself a fool if you speak your mind.

It’s not that you don’t believe in your ideas–you’re just terrified of speaking about them out loud, especially when you know nobody else will back you up.

It’s like you need other people to assure you that your opinions are not wrong.

Bem, não é assim que um homem alfa se comportaria. Afinal de contas, essa é uma das coisas que o torna um alfa em primeiro lugar.

Este tipo está pronto a enfrentar o mundo inteiro quando se trata das suas opiniões. Alguns podem chamar-lhe teimoso, mas o facto é que ele sabe como lutar por aquilo em que acredita.

Para sempre na zona dos amigos

Quer se queira admitir ou não, é possível ver um padrão quando se trata dos tipos presos na zona de amizade: in most cases, they’re shy introverts who don’t know what they want nor know how to get it.

Em termos simples, os homens com zonas de amizade são normalmente homens beta.

You’re not an exception. For as long as you can remember, girls you liked saw you as nothing more than their friend.

No, this is not me justifying their actions. If they noticed that you loved them, but knew that they couldn’t offer you their heart back, they should have let you go on time.

Em vez disso, continuaram a dar-te falsas esperanças. A maioria destas raparigas aproveitou-se dos seus sentimentos e usou-o de todas as formas possíveis.

Apesar de ter sido uma coisa horrível de se fazer, a verdade é que foste tu que o permitiste.

Deep down, you knew that neither of them would reciprocate your love, but you weren’t leaving the situation either.

Então, porque é que este cenário continua a acontecer aos homens beta? Porque é que te aconteceu mais do que uma vez?
Bem, lembras-te da história do Sr. Simpático? É exatamente assim que a maioria das raparigas o vê.

You’re great on a piece of paper. In fact, when they describe their perfect man, they’ll name most of your qualities.

You’re amazing for the role of their amigo do sexo masculino and they can’t seem to find your flaws. However, the harsh truth is that you don’t attract them.

No, this has nothing to do with your physical appearance. After all, that’s the last thing women fall for. Besides, I bet you’re a handsome young man to begin with.

The problem is that you don’t have the decisiveness they need. You don’t have the courage to present your intentions from the start.

Let’s be honest: when you like a girl, you usually approach her as a friend. You think this is an easier way to get under her skin.

The bottom line is that you’re scared of rejection. You’re convinced that most women wouldn’t fall for you if you hit on them directly, so you pretend to be their friend.

Com o tempo, espera-se que o a rapariga dos seus sonhos will fall in love with you. You’re there to help her curar o seu coração partidopara lhe enxugar as lágrimas e para se apresentar ao serviço sempre que ela precisar de si.

Basically, you expect her to notice what a great guy you are. You sit there patiently waiting for her to ditch all those jerks she’s been complaining about and understand that you’re the man of her life.

When that doesn’t happen, you get all disappointed. You feel like you’ve wasted so much time and energy on something that was doomed to fail from day one.

Not only that: you’re also angry at this girl. How did she have the audacity not to choose you when you have all the qualities she is looking for?

Well, the truth is that you’re not a real alpha. You never awakened the passion in her and she never actually saw you as boyfriend material despite all of your amazing traits.

Um rapaz introvertido e tímido

Apesar de existirem muitos alfas introvertidos, a verdade é que um beta raramente será um extrovertido.

You might be surrounded by a lot of people, but all of them are your old friends and acquaintances you’ve known forever and feel comfortable around.

Your social circle is pretty much closed. You don’t enjoy meeting new people and you get all anxious among strangers. Simply put, you’re an introverted rapaz tímido.

It’s not that you don’t have the desire to extend your circle–you’re just too terrified to do it.

You don’t think these new people will find you amusing, you’re scared that they’ll make fun of you or you’re certain that you’ll make a fool of yourself around anyone who doesn’t really know you.

If you could pick between spending a wild Saturday night at the club or a quiet evening at your best friend’s house, you’d always choose the latter.

Don’t get me wrong: being an introvert isn’t necessarily a bad thing. After all, that’s a part of your personality.

No entanto, quando se faz a comparação entre macho alfa e macho beta, este, entre outros factores, é também um indicador do grupo a que se pertence.

Contrary to you, an alpha male can’t wait to get in a new crowd. He is so self-confident that he knows he’ll steal everyone’s attention and get in the spotlight.

He is not excited about meeting new people–he is overjoyed with the fact that others will have the opportunity to meet him. An interesting point of view, isn’t it?

A follower–not a leader

A primeira palavra que nos vem à cabeça quando pensamos num macho alfa é a palavra líder. If you compare them to the social hierarchy of the animal kingdom, you’ll think of wolves or chimpanzees, right?

Por outro lado, quando pensamos num homem beta, a primeira palavra que nos vem à cabeça é a palavra seguidor. Mais uma vez, em referência ao reino animal, é o cão mais baixo do grupo.

Well, as a beta man, that’s exactly what you do most of the time: you follow other people’s lead. Instead of taking responsibility for your own life, you put it in someone else’s hands.

Why do you do it? Simply because it’s easier that way.

Na verdade, tem sido assim desde sempre. Mesmo quando eras criança, admiravas os outros rapazes em vez de ser o contrário.

You’ve never been the captain of your own ship–you’ve always been nothing but a crew member. It’s like you don’t enjoy being in charge. Or, maybe you don’t know how to take over that role?

Pode ser um trabalhador competente, mas prefere que alguém acima de si lhe diga o que fazer em vez de impor as suas próprias ideias.

You’re not the guy who tries hard to become the boss–you’re satisfied with just being a part of the team.

The bottom line is that you don’t have the dominance needed to be the leader of the pack. You’re not a born pioneer and you don’t have the courage to walk the path nobody before you ever took.

Instead, you’re spending most of your life in someone else’s shadow. You never get the spotlight and your talents can’t be seen because you’re too quiet to show them to the rest of the world.

Even though you’re not hurting anyone with this behavior, you’re harming yourself. There is a lot of your potential that will be left unused because you’re not taking the initiative.

For starters, you don’t have to have a bunch of followers behind you. Instead, become the leader of your own life and that will be more than enough.

11 vantagens excepcionais de ser um macho beta

Olhando para as coisas até agora, parece que ser um tipo beta é a pior coisa do mundo.

You’ve read these disadvantages of your personality and relating yourself to more than one of them has crushed your broken self-esteem even more.

Bem, felizmente para si, isso está longe de ser verdade. Em vez disso, há muitas coisas fantásticas em ser um homem beta. Aqui estão as melhores.

A fiabilidade não é negociável

A caraterística positiva número um da maioria dos homens beta é a sua fiabilidade. Todos nós sabemos que esta não é uma caraterística comum entre o sexo forte, por isso só pode assumir o quão único é por a possuir.

Simply put, people trust you. Yes, that’s right: alphas might have the ability to make the girls feel physically safe, but you give them something more significant: emotional security.

Basically, when you make a promise, you’ll do everything in your power to fulfill it. You don’t make excuses and justifications for your lack of responsibility.

People count on you and know that you’ll show up whenever they need you. In fact, in most cases, you’re the first one they call in the case of an emergency.

You’ve never bailed out on someone. You’re not a backstabber and you wouldn’t betray another person’s trust, even if your life depended on it.

Even though this is an amazing quality for those around you, you can’t really say it serves you well. Actually, the truth is that it has brought you more harm than benefit.

Ao longo da sua vida, muitas pessoas tentaram usar esta sua qualidade, mas em vez de a apreciarem, acabaram por se aproveitar de si.

At the end of the day, you feel like everyone’s safety net. You’re the first one they call when they’re in trouble.

They expect you to always be there to drag them out of their mess–to be the one to resolve their problems, and show up the moment they need you.

However, when they’re having the time of their life, they’re nowhere to be found. They don’t remember you nor do they give you a hand when you need one.

A lealdade está em primeiro lugar

Loyalty is another amazing trait of beta men. You’re loyal to your family, friends, the company you work for, and most importantly–to your parceiro romântico.

For starters, you’re faithful to the core. When you’re in a committed relationship, there is nothing that could make you fall under the temptation of being with another woman.

It’s not that you just wouldn’t have an actual physical affair outside of your relationship-you wouldn’t flirt with other girls either.

Ter aplicações de encontros instaladas, ver outras mulheres ou envolver-se em caso emocional while you’re taken is also out of the question.

This doesn’t mean that you can’t fall in love with someone else while in a relationship.

After all, you’re just a human being made out of flesh and blood and you don’t have full control over your emotions as much as you try.

No entanto, se isso acontecer: if you just start to like another person, you’ll call it quits with the girl you’re currently dating.

You’re not one of those men who keep girls as backup plans and remain in a relationship until they’re certain that their new affair will work out.

Nevertheless, you’re much more than a typical namorado fiel. Your loyalty is a part of you and you wouldn’t trade it for anything else.

Quando gostamos de alguém, fazemo-lo até ao fim. Não há nada que essa pessoa possa fazer para que deixes de a amar.

Apoiamos os que são importantes para nós, aconteça o que acontecer.

Maybe you won’t be the first one on the frontline to actually fight for their sake, but you’ll definitely give them the emotional support they desperately need during hard times.

Consistente e estável

Consigo, não há muitas surpresas. De facto, as pessoas recebem normalmente aquilo que assinaram.

No, this doesn’t make you a boring individual–it only means that you’re consistent. Even though you don’t stand up for your attitudes, in most cases, you behave according to your beliefs and principles.

Basically, people know what they can expect from you. You’re fair and rarely contradict yourself.

Nunca um egocêntrico

Alpha males are mainly egocentrics. They think that they’re God-given beings whose needs are more significant than anyone else’s.

Recusam-se a admiti-lo, mas os homens que pertencem a este grupo são geralmente reis do egoísmo. They rarely care about other people’s feelings and are ready to do whatever it takes to get their way.

Well, luckily for everyone in your surroundings, you’re nowhere near this. In fact, you always put others before yourself.

You’re ready to make incredible sacrifices for your loved ones. For you, nothing is impossible when it comes to their happiness and well being.

O problema com esta sua qualidade é que, muitas vezes, significa que se coloca em último lugar. Além disso, que outro lugar poderia ocupar depois de todos os outros terem tido a sua vez?

Most of the time, you completely disregard your own emotions and needs in order to satisfy someone else’s. After all, you’re a champion at people-pleasing, remember?

Ser assim tão altruísta é fantástico para os outros, mas, no entanto, pode ser devastador para a sua própria saúde mental.

O problema é que gosta mais de todas essas pessoas do que de si próprio. É óbvio que se esqueceu de que tem de se colocar em primeiro lugar se quiser alcançar a verdadeira felicidade e alegria.

Um homem verdadeiro e maduro

I’m sure you know a bunch of rapazes imaturos who don’t have a clue what they want from their lives. Of course, I’m not referring to anyone’s age here–I’m talking about their mental state.

These mama’s boys don’t have a clue as to how to take care of themselves. They expect to be served and they’re not looking for a girlfriend–they’re in search of a maid who will replace their mother.

These guys need an alpha woman who will tell them what to do… a parent who will continue raising them and show them the way.

Being someone who usually follows other people’s lead, you might assume that you fit the description perfectly. Well, that is where you’re wrong.

Actually, you’re pretty mature.

Na verdade, a maior parte das vezes, isso era um problema com as suas capacidades sociais: desde a sua juventude, sempre agiu como se fosse mais velho do que a sua idade. Os teus colegas consideravam-te demasiado sério para eles.

However, as you’re growing older, this has turned out to be a great advantage. After all, who doesn’t want a mature friend or a boyfriend?

Now is the time when all of your beta characteristics come to its place. All of a sudden, you’re not considered to be weak for letting others get their way–you’re a grown-up who doesn’t waste his energy on stupidities.

You’re no longer considered not firm enough for not standing your ground at all times–you’re an adult who accepts the possibility of a compromise.

You’re not too serious because you don’t joke as often as you’re expected to–you’re now deep in thought. You’re not accused of not being impulsive enough anymore–instead, you’re appreciated for being reasoned.

Não tem medo de compromissos

Qual é o maior pesadelo de todas as raparigas solteiras na casa dos vinte e trinta anos? Dar de caras com um fobia de compromissos who is terrified of long-term relationships, that’s right.

Infelizmente, a maioria dos homens corre de qualquer possibilidade de relações exclusivas. Querem aproveitar os seus anos de juventude para estar com o maior número de raparigas possível.

Em vez de estarem numa relação duradoura, optam por se divertir e explorar as suas opções.

That shouldn’t be the problem, you must think. Everyone has the right to do whatever they want as long as they don’t jeopardize anyone else.

Bem, o problema é que eles fazem exatamente isso: continuam a magoar as raparigas que os rodeiam. Nenhum rapaz será direto quanto às suas intenções e desejos de se divertir.

Pelo contrário, na maioria dos casos, ele promete o mundo a uma rapariga. Depois, quando chega o momento de levar a relação a um nível mais elevado, faz tudo o que pode para evitar qualquer tipo de responsabilidade.

All of a sudden, he’s not ready for anything serious. He is not emotionally available, he doesn’t want to put a label on their relationship, and he needs some time to figure things out.

Well, the good news for all girls around you is that you’re nowhere near these guys they keep encountering.

You don’t have any trouble with commitment. In fact, you aspire to it in all of your romantic relationships.

Quando começamos a nossa história de amor com uma rapariga, não fazemos jogos. Está a esforçar-se para que a sua relação funcione.

You don’t lead her on until someone better comes along. You don’t use her as a rebound girl or to make your ex jealous.

You don’t manipulate her, and you don’t convince her you love her just so you could break her heart and consequently repair your own ego esvaziado.

You don’t take advantage of her kindness just to make yourself feel better.

When you’re in a relationship, you give yourself wholeheartedly to the other person. You go all the way in and you don’t hold any parts of yourself back.

A verdade é que, por vezes, acabamos por nos magoar. Mas, pelo menos, sabemos sempre que demos o nosso melhor, certo?

Um ótimo ouvinte

This is a quality everyone around you simply adores. I’m sure people have already told you this, but you’re a great listener.

É claro que esta sua habilidade anda de mãos dadas com a sua traços de empatia. You have this amazing ability that not many possess: the ability to walk in other people’s shoes.

Besides, you’re incredibly patient and calm. When someone talks to you about their problem, you won’t interrupt them and switch the story to your own life.

Instead, you’ll just sit there and listen. What’s even better is that you’ll put your entire self into their issue.

You’ll give them advice only if they ask for it without imposing your opinion on them. You won’t make their confession about yourself. Most importantly: their secret is safe with you, no matter what.

You’re kind and helpful

You’re not just a typical nice guy who pretends to be nicer than he really is. The fact is that you truly are a kind person with an enormous heart.

Let’s be honest: you’re a human being. Therefore, you’re far from perfect. Sometimes, you do things you shouldn’t and you treat some people worse than they deserve.

But, at the end of the day, you have no bad intentions. You’re a loving and caring person who would help out a stranger, let alone a loved one.

The problem is that most people think that you’re a fool just because you’re a good person. You helped them once, and all of a sudden, they expect you to always be at their service.

Remember: it’s up to you to set your boundaries. It’s your job not to allow them to treat you like you’re their doormat and to show to the world that you have some dignity as well.

You’re respectful

Whatever someone does to you, you’ll never lose your respect for them. After all, you’re a man with excellent manners who stays a gentleman to the very end.

Even when you’re in the middle of a fight with someone, you’ll never insult them or hit them below the waist. No matter what happens, there is a boundary you won’t cross.

Above all else, you know how to treat a lady. You’re respectful towards the girls you meet and towards your exes, despite the way you two broke up.

Honesto e verdadeiro

With you, there are no lies. You might not always speak your mind directly, but when you do, you’ll always tell the truth.

In fact, the only lies you will tell are white ones. Sometimes, you’re not honest enough simply because you don’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings or because you want to keep them from the awful truth.

Basically, instead of giving someone the red pill, you’ll always choose the blue one. However, you’ll never consciously deceive someone else for your own benefit. That’s simply not in your blood.

You’re not one of those men who will lie to hide their mischiefs. Not the one who will go behind your partner’s back or fool her in any way possible.

People believe you because whatever you say, it is the truth, which doesn’t have to be questioned or verified. More importantly: your word has a certain weight and it shouldn’t be taken lightly.

Material do marido

While you’re younger, most girls don’t see you as material de namorado. You’re not exciting enough and you don’t make the butterflies in their belly throw a party.

Let’s be real: no high school girl dreams of a consistent and reliable boyfriend. This practice goes on for years afterward.

Instead, most of them are looking for a stunt who will show them a good time. They will go after guys who give them thrills and passion they’ll never forget.

Most girls will chase dudes who are the leaders of the pack. Dudes who capture everyone’s attention and who have all eyes on them. At that age, most girls chase alpha men.

The trick is that these guys are usually players. They know it very well that they’re desirable, so they use every possible opportunity to get under every girl’s skin.

Eventualmente, na maioria dos casos, estas aventuras acabam com um enorme desgosto. A rapariga que o rejeitou por um traste está agora desiludida com a sua própria escolha.

Então, depois de todo este tempo, ela vê-o como um sonho tornado realidade. Este tipo de cenário acontece regularmente e continuará a acontecer ao longo dos anos.

Sabes, podes não ser material para namorado, mas de certeza que és material para maridoque é, evidentemente, muito mais importante.

You’re the kind of man every girl wants to grow old with. A man who will bring her much needed peace and who will make her feel safe, no matter what.

Apaixonam-se por si por tudo aquilo que antes o excluíam: pela sua responsabilidade, pontualidade, coerência e introversão.

All of a sudden, their dream guy doesn’t go clubbing every weekend. They get tired of fighting other girls for him and they have had enough of the constant breakups and makeups that add spark to their relationships.

Besides, when their biological clock starts to tick, women begin to see what an amazing father you’d be. Now, after all this time, they see you as the perfect role model for their kids.

Of course, this doesn’t mean that a girl who chooses you will do so just because you’re convenient. It doesn’t mean that she won’t fall in love with you.

Pelo contrário, é claro que sim. Apenas se tornará numa mulher madura com um conjunto diferente de prioridades.

Para terminar:

Even though you might fall into a certain category or type of guy, remember one thing: you’re an individual for yourself.

Therefore, it’s up to you to choose which beta male traits you will nourish and which ones you’ll try to change.

A questão é: é capaz de o fazer? Tem o que é preciso para tirar o melhor partido de todos os seus traços de personalidade e tornar-se um melhor versão de si próprio?