Mesmo quando fores solteira e fabulosa, estas 6 coisas vão ser uma chatice

Não és solteiro porque ninguém te quer ou porque não estás destinado a ser amado. Em vez disso, é solteiro por sua própria escolha.

It doesn’t matter whether you need some extra time to heal from a devastating heartbreak from the past, decided to take some time off from relationships, or simply don’t feel ready for anything serious right now.

The important thing is that you’re making the best out of your vida de solteiro. Most of the time, you’re not even lonely.

You know you don’t need a man to complete you and you’re using this time to get your life in order.

No entanto, por muito fabuloso que seja ser solteiro, há algumas coisas que são uma treta. Aqui estão 6 delas.

1. Outras pessoas

Let’s face it. The biggest problem about being single is not the feelings and thoughts you have, it’s the society around you.

The truth is that, if you’re in your twenties and have been single for a while, most people in your surroundings act like they feel sorry for you.

They treat you like you’re a second class citizen – that since you haven’t been able to find a romantic partner, you’re obviously not good enough for anything else either.

Even your closest friends and family members think that you’re miserable on your own.

You’re aware that they mean well, but after a while, them looking down on you just because of your relationship status becomes tiring.

In fact, you feel like they’d rather see you in an unhealthy, toxic relationship than strong enough to go through life by yourself.

Desta forma, de acordo com eles, cumpriria alguns padrões sociais imaginários, mas, claro, ninguém se importaria com o que sente.

That is exactly why you shouldn’t care about other people’s opinion.

You don’t need their pity and you certainly shouldn’t feel like they’re better than you just for being romantically involved.

2. Ter apenas a si próprio para confiar

You’re a strong, independent, and powerful woman who has the capacity to go through life by herself.

You don’t need anyone pushing you forward, holding your hand through the hard times, or anyone resolving your problems.

Isso é algo de que nos devemos orgulhar muito. Acredita em mim, não há muitos que o consigam.

No entanto, para ser sincero, por vezes, o facto de não termos ninguém em quem confiar, a não ser nós próprios, é um pouco mau.

It doesn’t mean that you are not capable of being your biggest support.

It’s just that it would be nice to have someone you can count on every once in a while. Of course, you have your friends, family, and even coworkers.

Nevertheless, you don’t have a life partner – a man to be your teammate through thick and thin.

Even though this is the last thing you would ever admit, the truth is that there are times when you wish to have a man who will be there to have your back. You don’t need him to guide you or be your savior.

Precisas de alguém que passe pela vida ao teu lado, ombro a ombro.

3. Não ter um acompanhante

E todos aqueles casamentos, festas de aniversário e outras celebrações a que tem de ir sempre sozinho? É uma chatice não ter um acompanhante, certo?

It’s a pain having to choose whether you’ll go alone, look for a date months ahead just so you don’t have to go through those series of boring questions regarding your love life, or ask a amigo to tag along just so you don’t look desperate.

4. Falta de intimidade física

When you say that you’re tired of sleeping alone, most assume that you’re just horny and that one raunchy night would solve all of your problems.

Bem, o problema de ser solteiro é, na verdade, um pouco mais profundo do que um desejo carnal.

In fact, what you miss is physical intimacy. Whether you like to admit it or not, it’s not always easy going home to a cold, empty bed with nobody waiting for you.

Not only that, you also can’t remember the last time you kissed or hugged someone.

Sente-se mais falta de abraçar e acordar ao lado da pessoa amada do que qualquer outra coisa.

Of course, you could be sleeping around to have the physical satisfaction, but that’s simply not your cup of tea.

Além disso, mesmo assim, continuaria a sentir a ausência de uma verdadeira ligação física com outro ser humano.

5. Não estar apaixonado

Por muito que goste da sua vida de solteiro e esteja a aproveitá-la ao máximo, tem de admitir que o sentimento de estar apaixonado também é muito bom.

Lembra-se do bom tipo de nervosismo, o borboletas in your stomach, the sweating of your palms, and the sensation you get when you know you’re about to see your crush?

Well, sometimes you can’t help but miss all those feelings. You miss liking a man, being attracted to him, and wanting him to become yours.

However, just because nostalgia hits you from time to time, it doesn’t mean that it should serve as an excuse to jump into a new relationship.

Porque adivinha: estar infeliz no amor é muito pior do que não estar apaixonado de todo.

6. O mercado dos encontros

Among other things that are a drag when you’re single – even though you’re killing it – is the dating market.

It’s not that you’re obsessed with the idea of finding a boyfriend, but you didn’t shut your door to love forever either.

Por isso, de vez em quando, sai para alguns encontros. No entanto, regressa sempre mais desiludido do que antes.

Everyone around you keeps setting you up on blind dates and men hit on you. But, not one has what you’re looking for.

It’s not that you’re too picky. You just have as suas normas e recusam-se a contentar-se com menos, o que é ótimo.

No entanto, por vezes, o que se deseja é não voltar a ter um encontro de merda.