Senhoras, é por isso que não precisam de um homem para serem felizes

How many times have you heard this cliché?
Apostei demasiadas vezes, tal como eu.

Mas, quantos de vós implementaram realmente esta filosofia nas vossas vidas?

Aposto que não são muitos, tal como o meu passado.

There’s something truly intriguing about us women (and people in general) being convinced that we need to have someone in our lives to be truly happy or fit into societal norms.

There’s something truly wrong about this worn-out sequence: Finish school – Find a job – Find a partner – Get married – Have kids.

A sério? Desde quando é que esta é a receita que cada um de nós tem de seguir para evitar ser ostracizado pela sociedade?

So, if you manage to finish school and find a job but have no partner yet, society and the media will make you feel like you’re doing something wrong, and you’ll NEVER be truly happy.

Well, it’s time to put an end to this lie and manipulation because we don’t need a partner to be happy, and we don’t need to appease society to feel worthy.

You don’t need a man to experience true happiness because you’re the creator of your own!

Ser solteiro pode ser tão excitante como estar numa relação

As borboletas no estômago, contar os segundos que faltam para ver a pessoa amada, abraçar, rir, ter um parceiro no crime, um confidente e um amigo, tudo num só são as coisas que tornam a nossa vida divertida e emocionante.

Now let’s be honest. No matter how fulfilling and entertaining relationships can be, they also come with a HUGE burden.

All those overthinking sessions about whether you should text them first (or not), whether you should introduce them to your friends and family, the inevitable arguments, compromising (even when you don’t feel like it), finding a balance between fazer tudo o que está ao seu alcance para os ajudar e não ser tomado como garantidoe a lista é interminável.

Todas estas coisas podem tornar a sua vida frustrante e, em alguns casos, um inferno.

So, NO, you don’t need to be in a relationship to be happy (especially not a toxic one) because ser solteiro pode ser tão excitante como ter um parceiro!

When you’re single, you have all the time in the world to prioritize your own happiness before someone else’s

Pode escolher as suas próprias actividades, comida, filmes e todas as outras coisas que as pessoas normalmente comprometem com o seu parceiro.

You get to live your best life without needing to worry about whether you’re texting him too much, whether he’s not giving you enough attention, or if you should be suspicious of his loyalty.

You get to spoil yourself the way you deserve, spend more time with your friends and family, so you don’t need a man to be happy because you can be perfectly happy on your own!

It took me a while to realize that putting my happiness in someone else’s hands is the wrong thing to do.

Durante metade da minha vida, costumava pensar que a única forma de alcançar a verdadeira felicidade era encontrar o parceiro perfeito para mim.

So, I’ve learned two lessons the hard way:

1. The perfect partner doesn’t exist.

2. A única maneira de ser verdadeiramente feliz é aprender a amarmo-nos a nós próprios.

When you love yourself, you don’t look for that one missing piece in someone else. When you love yourself, you don’t need validation from others. You don’t need a man to make you feel worthy or loved.

Loving yourself is about establishing a relationship you’ll value your whole life. It’s about accepting yourself for who you are with all those imperfections, quirks, weaknesses, and weird habits.

Loving yourself is about knowing that you’re the creator of your own happiness

Lembra-te que vieste a este mundo sozinho. Encontrar um parceiro é uma escolha, mas apaixonar-se por si próprio é uma necessidade.

It’s interesting how society (particularly the media) prioritizes relationships before self-love.

Since when did finding a partner become an alternative for getting in touch with your true self? How is it possible to love someone else if you’re not in love with yourself?

Uma das principais razões pelas quais os meios de comunicação social nos obrigam a acreditar que precisamos de um parceiro para sermos felizes é porque essa é a única forma de nos venderem coisas.

De “techniques and magical recipes for dealing with commitment phobes” para “the most expensive makeup that will make you beautiful” and help you find a long-awaited “perfect” partner.

Convencem-nos de que precisamos de alguém na nossa vida para nos tornarmos escravos da sua propaganda.

Half of those terms like “commitment-phobes,” “almost relationships,” and similar don’t even exist in the real world, but that’s an article for another day.

Se me perguntarem, a sequência desgastada que mencionámos no início deveria ser reformulada da seguinte forma:

Finish school – Find a job – Apaixone-se por si próprio – Find a partner – Get married – Have kids.
(Of course, some of us don’t want to get married, have kids, finish school, or have a job, which is more than okay.)

If you don’t love yourself, you’ll spend your whole life feeling like something is missing. Perhaps you already have a few failed relationships, and you blame yourself for it.

A única coisa de que se deve culpar é de não se dar amor e atenção suficientes.

“Love yourself first because that’s who you’ll be spending the rest of your life with.” – Unknown

Yup. Relationships come and go, but the relationship you have with yourself is for life. You don’t need a man to be happy because you can be perfectly happy on your own only if you want to.

Lembra-te:

It’s better to be single than to be in a crappy relationship.

If you’re not happy, give yourself permission to leave.

Amarmo-nos a nós próprios é a chave para a verdadeira felicidade.

Don’t be afraid to live your life without a man.

Love yourself because, at the end of the day, the only person you have is yourself. You don’t need a man to remind you of that.

You don’t need a man to be happy because you’ve already got plenty of razões para ser feliz agora, aconteça o que acontecer:

You’re alive
Tens a oportunidade de ser quem quiseres ser
You’re beautiful
You’re loved
You’ve won many battles
You’re strong

You don’t need a man to be happy because you’re a beautiful, strong, independent woman. You’re perfectly capable of achieving anything you set your mind to.

You don’t need a man to do things for you because you’re perfectly competent in doing them on your own.

You don’t need a man to shower you with affection because you already have inspiring people in your life who love you and who would do anything for you.

Já te tens a ti próprio.

You don’t need a man only to boast to your friends and family that you have someone. You don’t need a man to appease the imposed societal standards.

“Every mountain top is within reach if you just keep climbing.” – Barry Finlay

Por muito confuso que tudo isto lhe possa parecer neste momento, saiba que só pode mudar a sua mentalidade se o quiser fazer.

Tem a capacidade e a habilidade de começar a viver a sua vida da forma que deseja e merece.

Show society, the media, and the world that you don’t need a partner to feel complete. Show the world that you don’t need a man to be happy.

Show yourself that you’re a fierce and determined woman by not putting up with anybody’s crap. Respect everyone and demand respect from them in return. Love others but love yourself first.