Não voltes para o tipo que te deixou fugir

Once upon a time, I was in love with someone who didn’t feel the same way about me. I had a dream one night that I met someone new and it was going really well… then all of a sudden the guy who previously had no interest in me declared his undying love. It was so real in the way that dreams are. I could feel how happy I was, to finally hear what I had been waiting to hear for so long.

E depois a dolorosa constatação de que tinha de escolher entre o homem que tinha amado durante tanto tempo e este novo amor que tinha acabado de entrar na minha vida. Acordei com uma resolução. Uma resposta a uma pergunta que nunca me tinha sido feita, mas que, se alguma vez viesse a ser, queria estar preparada. Porque os meus sonhos têm uma forma engraçada de se tornarem realidade.

Don’t go back to the guy que o deixam escapar para ir procurar o próximo. Essa foi a sua estupidez, o seu erro. Ele teve a sua oportunidade. Tu estavas lá, durante todo o tempo em que o amaste. Todo o tempo que demorou a deixar de o amar, enquanto ainda o desejava secretamente. Don’t let a new opportunity to be loved in the way you deserve pass you by because someone who didn’t see your worth can now see it through someone else’s eyes.

That’s a lot of power to give to a person that you already had to get over. That you have already quit and moved on from. Sometimes it’s hard to break free of unrequited love. It’s like an addiction and every bit of attention you receive feeds it.

Encontra formas de se convencer de que, com paciência e tempo, o seu amor vai dar a volta por cima e ser tudo o que imagina que ele seja. Até que um dia a realidade se abate sobre si. E decide abandonar a esperança. A esperança de que este homem seja mais para si do que uma mera fantasia. Decide empurrar os seus sentimentos para baixo until you don’t feel them anymore. And you don’t feel them anymore.

Then when something new, exciting and wonderful comes along, it takes you by surprise how easy it is. How great it feels when you don’t have to hold back parts of yourself. You start to feel the joy that comes from falling in love… and that is when he will start to notice you. He will notice how beautiful you look when you’re happy. He will notice that nobody has ever understood him the way that you did. He will notice all the things that were so fucking obvious to you… before you had to let it go. Before you had to stop loving him like that.

He will remind you of all the dreams you let dance around in your head. He will try to convince you it’s not too late. But it is. He’s not seeing you now any more than he did then. He’s seeing a spark in you that he let someone else ignite. He’s wishing he was the man who made you suddenly look so damn good all the time. Too bad for him he’s not.

Nunca deixes passar uma coisa boa por alguém que te deixou escapar.

by Tia Grace