No vuelvas con el chico que te dejó escapar

Once upon a time, I was in love with someone who didn’t feel the same way about me. I had a dream one night that I met someone new and it was going really well… then all of a sudden the guy who previously had no interest in me declared his undying love. It was so real in the way that dreams are. I could feel how happy I was, to finally hear what I had been waiting to hear for so long.

Y luego la dolorosa comprensión de que tenía que elegir entre el hombre al que había amado durante tanto tiempo y este nuevo amor que acababa de llegar a mi vida. Me desperté con una resolución. Una respuesta a una pregunta que nunca me habían hecho, pero si alguna vez me la hacían, quería estar preparada. Porque mis sueños tienen una curiosa forma de hacerse realidad.

Don’t go back to the guy que te dejan escapar para ir a buscar al siguiente. Esa fue su estupidez, su error. Tuvo su oportunidad. Estuviste ahí, todo el tiempo que lo amaste. Todo el tiempo que tardaste en alejarte de él, mientras aún lo querías en secreto. Don’t let a new opportunity to be loved in the way you deserve pass you by because someone who didn’t see your worth can now see it through someone else’s eyes.

That’s a lot of power to give to a person that you already had to get over. That you have already quit and moved on from. Sometimes it’s hard to break free of unrequited love. It’s like an addiction and every bit of attention you receive feeds it.

Encuentras formas de convencerte de que, con paciencia y tiempo, tu amor llegará y será todo lo que imaginas. Hasta que un día la realidad se te echa encima. Y decides abandonar la esperanza. La esperanza de que ese hombre sea para ti algo más que una fantasía. Decides empuja tus sentimientos hacia abajo until you don’t feel them anymore. And you don’t feel them anymore.

Then when something new, exciting and wonderful comes along, it takes you by surprise how easy it is. How great it feels when you don’t have to hold back parts of yourself. You start to feel the joy that comes from falling in love… and that is when he will start to notice you. He will notice how beautiful you look when you’re happy. He will notice that nobody has ever understood him the way that you did. He will notice all the things that were so fucking obvious to you… before you had to let it go. Before you had to stop loving him like that.

He will remind you of all the dreams you let dance around in your head. He will try to convince you it’s not too late. But it is. He’s not seeing you now any more than he did then. He’s seeing a spark in you that he let someone else ignite. He’s wishing he was the man who made you suddenly look so damn good all the time. Too bad for him he’s not.

Nunca dejes pasar algo bueno por alguien que te dejó escapar.

by Tia Grace