O que é que atrai uma mulher a um homem à primeira vista? 14 pontos-chave

If you asked ten women to think of the first thing they notice in a man, you’d probably get eight or nine different answers. But is it really that complicated to find out what attracts a woman to a man at first sight?

Cada mulher dar-lhe-á uma resposta diferente, porque não há duas mulheres iguais, pelo que cada uma delas é atraída por coisas e qualidades diferentes. Algumas gostam de homens nerds, outras gostam de homens desportivos; há aquelas que gostam de homens bonitos e aquelas que preferem o tipo sério.

Mas todas as mulheres têm uma coisa em comum: todas elas gostam de um tipo genuíno que aproveita ao máximo o que tem e cuja companhia lhes agrada. Here’s how you can become a man who’s attractive to women at first sight.

O que é que atrai uma mulher a um homem à primeira vista?

The type of person someone finds attractive depends on their taste, dating history, age, sexual preferences, lifestyle – everything you can think of influences what we’re attracted to.

Most people aren’t so superficial as to be attracted to nothing but looks, but even to those who are, there’s always something that makes one good-looking person more attractive than another.

What attracts a woman to a man at first sight? Women like men who have that “something” that’s difficult to put into words, but what is it? It’s a combination of qualities that together create a whole that’s more than the sum of its parts and lead to atração magnética entre duas pessoas.

The good news is, most of those qualities are something a man can work on and improve. So let’s dive in.

1. Rosto

Let’s get it out of the way: your face is the make-or-break quality when it comes to attraction. A primeira coisa que uma mulher repara num homem é a sua cara. If she likes your face, you’re halfway there.

So how not to get eliminated because of your face? You’re born with it, and short of going under the knife, what can you do with it? Pode mostrar-lhe a pessoa que está por detrás do rosto. If your face isn’t immediately attractive to her, you’ll have to get her to give you a second glance.

Porque é que o seu rosto é a coisa mais importante?

Think about a girl you like – her face is probably the first thing that comes to mind. Is her face cute, or elegant, or striking, or does she have that girl-next-door kind of look? It’s not unusual to like a girl’s features, but the reason why you prefer her face is that it leaves a certain impression.

As raparigas reparam no seu rosto porque ele fala de quem é. Features alone aren’t what makes a girl like a guy, but the impression his face makes. 

What if there’s a discrepancy between what you’re like and what your face looks like? Do you have a resting angry face, but you wouldn’t hurt a fly?

Se for esse o caso, pode relaxar o seu rosto ou sorrir mais ou tentar curar o seu olhar inexpressivo de alguma forma, mas it’s better to be yourself and give women the benefit of the doubt that they won’t judge you until they get to know you.

If your face doesn’t immediately show off your qualities, let her know what you’re like in other ways.

2. Sorrir

A smile can change a scary face into a kind one, but if it’s not genuine, it can also make you look even scarier. So don’t fake a smile! There’s nothing more inviting than a real, warm smile.

The sight of a dimple can make a girl feel the butterflies in her stomach and twirl her hair while smiling back at you. Even if you think your smile is goofy, don’t suppress it. Quando sorrimos, tornamo-nos mais atraentes, mas também sorrir faz-nos sentir mais felizes.

The key to a winsome smile is that it must be inspired by your real feelings. The smile that makes all the ladies swoon is one that makes your eyes scrunch, glittering with joy, the corners of your mouth lifting helplessly as you look at her. A fake smile makes you look like 😬️

It doesn’t have to be a huge, toothy smile, but it has to come from the heart. How to achieve that? Be present in the moment. Enjoy being where you are. Look at her and feel grateful that you get to do so. Feel happy in your skin – you’re an attractive guy who likes his life and there’s an amazing woman in front of you.

3. Olhos

Women immediately notice your eyes because that’s where it’s all happening: your mood, your feelings, your thoughts; it’s all in your eyes. Your eyes tell her what you’re like and reveal your personality more than anything else.

Have you ever wondered why some people seem cold and others seem inviting and friendly? Even if she can’t tell what’s so magnetic about your eyes, she’ll be drawn to them if you let your eyes show who you are.

O contacto visual é onde atração emocional começa. When you look into her eyes, you show her what you feel and what you want. She’s drawn to the person she sees in your eyes. Attraction is not about the shape or the color of your eyes but about what looking into your eyes reveals to her.

4. Preparação

Só se tem uma oportunidade de causar uma primeira impressão e nunca se sabe quando a rapariga dos nossos sonhos vai aparecer ao virar da esquina. If you always look your best, you don’t risk blowing your one chance of making her fall for you.

I’m not saying that you should wear your best clothes all the time or always have perfect hair. What I mean is that you should consistently take care of your grooming so that you’re never a mess. As mulheres querem homens que cuidem de si próprios.

Estar no seu melhor significa coisas diferentes para pessoas diferentes, mas 10 em cada 10 mulheres concordam que a limpeza é necessária.

Noções básicas de cuidados pessoais

This is basic, so I hope you already know, but being a rugged, smelly guy isn’t attractive. Shower daily. Always wear clean clothes. Take care of your teeth meticulously.

Algumas mulheres gostam de barba, outras preferem um visual limpo, mas todas gostam quando cuida dos seus pêlos faciais. Mantenha-o arrumado. Apare as unhas e cuide da sua pele.

Livre-se da ideia de que os cuidados com a pele são apenas para as mulheres. To keep your skin healthy, at least use a cleanser and moisturizer daily, and if you want to make yourself look good – and feel good! – include other products as well.

Ser meticuloso com a sua higiene pessoal vai torná-lo mais bonito, mas também vai fazê-lo aprender a valorizar-se mais. Self-care raises self-esteem, and when you look at yourself in the mirror and know that you’ve made an effort, it will give you confidence.

5. Detalhes sensuais

There are a few little things women notice about men that aren’t crucial when it comes to attraction but that make a guy extra sexy. These little details contribute to his sex appeal, but they’re really just a cherry on top.

In other words, if a guy is obnoxious and disrespectful, they won’t give him any points, but if he’s a good guy who makes an effort, they can catapult him to the next level of attractiveness.

Perfume

This could have been included in the grooming section, but it’s separate because it’s a step above basic self-care and something women specifically find attractive in a man. Um homem que cheira bem pode realmente fazer uma mulher desmaiar.

When a guy has a sexy scent, a girl notices it immediately. Find a cologne or perfume you like and up your sexiness game by leaps and bounds! Just please don’t forget that, in the case of scent, less is more, so go easy and be subtle.

Cabelo

Hair is one of the things women notice as soon as they see a guy. Some women don’t care about what your hair looks like exactly and others have strong preferences, but all of them notice whether or not you’re taking care of your hair.

Um penteado que se adapte a si, bem mantido e cuidado, contribui muito para a impressão que causa. Even if that hairstyle is no hair at all, if you carry it with confidence and keep it neat, your hair – or lack thereof – is a part of your style and vibe.

Mãos

Guys, I don’t know if this is a secret we’re keeping from you or if you know, but your hands make girls bite their lips and wonder how those hands feel. Pode ter a certeza de que uma mulher vai reparar nas suas mãos mesmo antes do primeiro encontro.

Your hands can be big or small, soft or rough, elegant or stubby – there are as many preferences as there are girls, but trust me when I say that girls are going to like your hands regardless of their type. Keep your fingernails clean and let her see your hands, and that’s it!

Voz

As raparigas adoram homens com vozes sensuais e a forma como soa contribui para a sua atratividade mais do que possa pensar. Basta pensar em alguém com uma voz notável e pensar na impressão que causaria se falasse de uma forma completamente diferente.

Como ter uma voz sexy? Controlar o volume, abrandar, relaxar. Don’t gasp for air – make a pause when you run out of breath. You don’t need to pretend that your voice is deeper or smoother than it is; just use your voice intentionally.

6. Corpo

Os traços de personalidade são uma parte crucial da atração, mas seria falso ignorar que a atração física é importante in the same amount. Both of these types of attraction can be improved if you work on yourself, so don’t worry if you’re not happy with your physical features.

Lots of men have the wrong picture of what girls find attractive when it comes to a guy’s body. Um homem de queixo quadrado, musculado da GQ ou qualquer outro estereótipo pelo qual os homens acreditam que as mulheres se sentem atraídas não tem nada a ver com o tipo de homem que atrai a maioria das mulheres.

Women prefer regular guys who treat them well. That’s all there is to it.

Of course, women like guys who look good and take care of their bodies, but you don’t have to be a fitness model to be attractive. If you respect your body and treat it well, it shows not only in the way you look but also in your posture and the way you carry yourself.

Cuide da sua aparência o mais possível e as mulheres interessar-se-ão por si. As I mentioned in the beginning, it’s all about the effort.

7. Altura

Height. A sore subject for many men. The never-ending discussion people are always obsessing over. I’m sure you’ve heard a variation of “If you’re under 6’, don’t apply.” Height is to men what weight is to women: the one thing people feel it’s okay to hate on.

So let me tell you the same thing I tell chubby girls who have been told they’d be cute if they lost a little weight: se gostares de alguém e essa pessoa te disser que essa coisa é mais importante do que tudo o resto em ti, essa pessoa seria errada para ti, mesmo que fosses mais magro ou mais alto.

Incluí a altura como algo em que as mulheres reparam por causa da razão porquê eles notam-no.

Porque é que algumas mulheres apenas atraída por homens altos?

The standard answers you’ll hear are: because his size makes him seem physically stronger and more capable of protecting them, so they feel safe. Or, they like to feel delicate and feminine next to their men.

Mas deixem-me dizer-vos a verdade. A maioria das raparigas que apenas como se os gajos mais altos do que eles acreditassem em estereótipos. She’s been taught that the guy is supposed to be taller than the girl, and she’s not questioning it. 

A girl who has a very strict preference for tall guys isn’t thinking about you as an individual. It has far less to do with atração sexual do que parece.

So don’t let your height stop you from approaching a woman. If you’re a similar height to hers, taller or shorter, go for it. If she rejects you for something as superficial as your height, it’s her loss and you’ve dodged a bullet.

If your height is a deal-breaker, what are this girl’s priorities? You don’t need that in your life.

8. Estilo

Obviously, a guy in a wrinkled t-shirt and stained jeans that don’t fit him well can hardly be attractive, but there’s no need to wear a suit everywhere you go or only own designer pieces. Pode fazer o que quiser, desde que siga o mínimo de estilo: roupas limpas, conservadas e que lhe assentem bem.

If you’re rolling your eyes because you’re already there and além, then you know the impact your style can have and the impression it makes. Your clothes aren’t there only to keep you warm and non-naked; they also send a message.

A sua roupa anuncia quem é. Your dressing sense is how you present yourself to the world. A woman can tell a lot from your clothes, so it’s natural that they are crucial in attraction.

Quando uma mulher olha para si, consegue perceber, pelo seu vestuário, o esforço que faz para se cuidar e se apresentar; se quer ser visto como fixe, moderno, acessível, profissional, rigoroso, elegante, etc.

So carefully consider your style and the message you want it to convey – it can be just the thing you need to become more attractive.

9. Vibração

What’s your vibe? Uma vibração é uma impressão geral que se deixa. The first time a woman sets her eyes on you, she won’t notice any details about you unless they’re very prominent, but she’ll be able to say what vibe you give off.

Even if it sounds very vague, a guy’s vibe is one of the coisas que atraem uma mulher para um homem. De um modo geral, it’s the energy you give out, the way you affect others and the kind of person you seem to be at first sight.

Your vibe can be positive, negative or neutral, and not everyone is drawn to the same one. For example, when someone meets you, they might say you seem friendly, serious, cool, angry or creepy. Some people are drawn to someone who’s chill, while others are more attracted to someone who’s energetic.

Needless to say, your vibe can be the complete opposite of what you’re like, but you can work on changing that. Para enviar mais vibrações positivas, comece com um pensamento positivo. Isto pode parecer um disparate, mas experimente.

O pensamento positivo inclui a gratidão por tudo o que tem na sua vida, não exagerar ou menosprezar os seus feitos e ser demasiado modesto ou arrogante, estar atento ao momento presente e encontrar algo de positivo em todas as situações.

10. Linguagem corporal

A man’s body language gets a woman’s attention because it’s the best indicator of how he feels about himself, about her and about the situation. Even if she’s unaware of the meanings of certain body language signs, she’ll still be able to read him because body language is universal.

If you stand tall using confident body language, you’ll leave a much different impression than if you’re slouching and looking at your feet. If you’re facing away from her and never glance at her, she won’t be able to notice your interest in her. If you’re tapping your foot and looking at your watch, she’ll think you don’t want to be there.

A lot has been written about body language of attraction, and it can’t hurt to learn a little bit about it. Here are the sinais de linguagem corporal que ela gosta de si para começar, e continue a explorar este tópico se ele despertar o seu interesse.

11. Sentido de humor

Are you shocked that this is included on the list? Of course not. It’s common knowledge that a bom sentido de humor é sexy, but what to do if you’re not funny? How to make her laugh and make her eyes sparkle when you’re not witty and capable of clever comebacks?

• The first step to developing a funny bone is figuring out o que o faz rir. Is it slapstick? Do you like unexpected twists? What’s your favorite funny movie? Is it puns that get you going?

• Next, tentar encontrar algo engraçado em todas as situações. Por exemplo, se entornar a bebida, pode ficar zangado e envergonhado ou pode rir-se da situação. Pense na razão pela qual essa situação pode ser engraçada.

• Don’t think that it’s necessary to have well-crafted jokes to be funny. Just continuar a desenvolver a situação e continuar a encará-la de uma forma descontraída. Todas as vezes que um homem me fez rir até chorar foi com uma única palavra que fez com que toda a situação parva se tornasse num círculo completo.

- Don’t take yourself seriously. This is really important if you want to be funny. Ego will sap all humor out of the conversation, but if you’re ready to laugh at your expense, people will laugh with you, not at you.

You also need to realize that being funny isn’t about laughing at other people and feeling superior. If your sense of humor is about stereotypes and prejudice, you should invest time in thinking about why this is so. I assure you that no woman finds sexist jokes funny.

12. Atitude

Don’t believe what you’re told by guys who can’t get girls – women don’t prefer jerks. If you placed two identical guys in front of any woman and one of them was kind and the other treated them like dirt, she wouldn’t pick the mean one.

A bondade torna-o mais atraente. Don’t confuse kindness with niceness, though. Being nice doesn’t always mean being kind, and guys who like to brag about being nice often expect something in return.

Sinceridade no que faz e na forma como se aproxima dela é outra qualidade atractiva. Dê o seu melhor em tudo e dedique-se de corpo e alma para deixar brilhar a beleza da sua personalidade. A desonestidade é uma das traços de personalidade que são desmotivantes para todas as mulheres.

Ter boas maneiras e mostrar respeito, don’t judge her and others and adopt a positive attitude for a massive upgrade in attractiveness – showing what’s inside makes you sexier.

13. Confiança

Será necessário dizer que a confiança é uma qualidade que as mulheres consideram atractiva? Confident men are interesting to women because they aren’t afraid. A lack of confidence stems from feeling like somehow you’re not good enough for something you want to do.

Para aumentar a sua confiançaPrimeiro, conheça-se a si próprio e aprenda a gostar de si próprio. Then be authentic and passionate and live your life the way you want to live it. Your mental health will improve and your attractiveness will skyrocket as soon as you realize that you’re as valuable and worthy as everyone else.

O outro lado da moeda é a arrogância. Evitar cair na armadilha do direito and feeling better than others because that’s even more off-putting than a lack of self-esteem.

14. Abordagem

Lembram-se de eu ter dito, na introdução, que as mulheres se apaixonam por homens cuja companhia lhes agrada? Pois bem, é isto.

Make her feel good, and she’ll be attracted to you. If you show interest in a woman and make her feel good around you, she’ll be more attracted to you than if you were playing cool and ignoring her. Trying to impress women is far less effective than trying to get to know them.

Muitas das coisas que os homens podem fazer para deixar as mulheres à vontade estão relacionadas com as capacidades de comunicação. Dê-lhe atenção, pense antes de falar, ouça o que ela tem para dizer, faça-lhe perguntas ponderadas, envolva-a em conversas interessantes.

Don’t act arrogant or be needy, don’t try to get her interested using some game. Flirt with her playfully and compliment her honestly. Be genuine and attentive. Be upfront about your intentions and emotionally available. Share your feelings and thoughts and don’t ignore hers.

No encerramento

Consegue resumir o que atrai uma mulher a um homem à primeira vista? Todo o artigo foi uma elaboração do que vos disse no início: seja genuíno, faça um esforço e faça-a sentir-se bem. Se fizer estas três coisas, a sua vida amorosa vai melhorar imenso.