O seu amor não pode mudar um homem até que ele decida fazê-lo ele próprio

Já alguma vez fizeste o teu melhor para tirar alguém da escuridão e trazê-lo para a luz?

Have you ever put all of your efforts into melting a guy’s cold heart? To prove to him that it’s time for him to change his ways and that he can do better?

Have you ever been with a man with whom you knew you weren’t compatible?

Deep down, you were aware that the two of you had no future together and that this relationship wasn’t going anywhere.

Talvez ele fosse um fobia de compromissos. Ou estava a lutar contra um vício que estava a tomar conta da sua vida.

Talvez ele a tenha traído vezes sem conta. Ou tenha abusado de si.

Mas em vez de fugires o mais depressa possível no momento em que viste tudo isto, encaraste-o como um desafio.

Viu que ele tinha algum potencial e assumiu como sua missão inspirá-lo a tornar-se a melhor versão possível de si próprio.

Em vez de se afastar desta relação, continuou a voltar para ele, apesar de tudo o que se interpunha entre vocês.

Continuava a esperar que as coisas pudessem ser diferentes, se se esforçasse o suficiente.

And you kept believing that he’d eventually change, even though he never did. Have you ever tried healing someone who simply couldn’t be fixed?

Poupança someone who didn’t want to be saved? Tried to change someone who didn’t think he should change?

If you have, let me tell you the harsh truth—you’ve been doing all of it in vain because this is mission impossible.

You’ve done nothing but wasted your energy and years of your life on someone who never did and never will appreciate all of your efforts or sacrifices.

Sei que esperas que esse homem comece a tratar-te como mereces no momento em que se aperceber do quanto gostas dele.

That he’ll finally open his heart to you once he sees that you are worthy of his love.

But he won’t. He’ll always remain the same piece of shit he’s always been and the only thing you can do is save yourself before he destroys you even more.

I know you are optimistic and you think that the depth of your love will show this guy the right path but it simply can’t be done.

You hope that eventually he’ll realize how much harm he has been causing both of you and that he’ll finally become the man you deserve him to be.

Sim, o amor é poderoso e pode mover montanhas.

But sadly, your love isn’t omnipotent and sometimes, it isn’t enough, as much as you want it to be.

It can’t enlighten the one who prefers to remain in the darkness.

It can’t repair a broken man overnight. It can’t fix his insecurities and it can’t chase away his fears.

Sei que pensas que amas este homem o suficiente para que ele queira mudar por tua causa. Mas não é assim que as coisas funcionam.

Because he shouldn’t need to have the desire to change for your sake. He should be the one to make that decision and he should do it for himself.

You are naive if you believe that you’ll succeed in changing the essence of this guy’s personality.

E sabem porquê? Porque you can’t change someone until he decides to do it himselfpor muito que se tente.

You shouldn’t even be trying to do this. After all, he is a grown-ass man and it shouldn’t be your job to teach him life values.

Não é da sua responsabilidade lidar com as tretas dele e transformá-lo numa pessoa melhor.

You are not his mother and you shouldn’t be trying to raise him. You are not his guardian angel and you shouldn’t be the one to lead him through life.

Don’t get me wrong—I am not saying you shouldn’t be supportive. I am not telling you not to give him a hand if he shows the desire to improve himself.

I am not telling you that you shouldn’t believe in him and that you shouldn’t push him forward if he shows initiative to become the man he should be.

Não se esqueça de que o homem com quem está a lidar neste momento não é o homem de que precisa, mesmo que pense que o quer ao seu lado.

He is obviously not relationship material and he isn’t someone who can be your life partner.

É necessário um homem de verdade who’ll be mature enough to know what he wants from life. A man who’ll be strong enough to fight his own demons.

And this guy obviously isn’t. And that is his problem—not yours.