Il vostro amore non può cambiare un uomo finché lui non decide di farlo da solo

Avete mai fatto del vostro meglio per allontanare qualcuno dalle tenebre e portarlo alla luce?

Have you ever put all of your efforts into melting a guy’s cold heart? To prove to him that it’s time for him to change his ways and that he can do better?

Have you ever been with a man with whom you knew you weren’t compatible?

Deep down, you were aware that the two of you had no future together and that this relationship wasn’t going anywhere.

Forse era un fobico dell'impegno. Oppure stava lottando con una dipendenza che stava prendendo il sopravvento sulla sua vita.

Forse vi ha tradito più e più volte. O ha abusato di te.

Ma invece di scappare il più velocemente possibile nel momento in cui ha visto tutto questo, l'ha presa come una sfida.

Avete visto che aveva un certo potenziale e avete assunto come missione quella di ispirarlo a diventare la migliore versione possibile di se stesso.

Invece di allontanarsi da questa relazione, ha continuato a tornare da lui, nonostante tutto ciò che si frapponeva tra voi.

Hai continuato a sperare che le cose potessero essere diverse, se ti fossi impegnato abbastanza.

And you kept believing that he’d eventually change, even though he never did. Have you ever tried healing someone who simply couldn’t be fixed?

Risparmio someone who didn’t want to be saved? Tried to change someone who didn’t think he should change?

If you have, let me tell you the harsh truth—you’ve been doing all of it in vain because this is mission impossible.

You’ve done nothing but wasted your energy and years of your life on someone who never did and never will appreciate all of your efforts or sacrifices.

So che speri che quest'uomo inizi a trattarti come meriti nel momento in cui si renderà conto di quanto tieni a lui.

That he’ll finally open his heart to you once he sees that you are worthy of his love.

But he won’t. He’ll always remain the same piece of shit he’s always been and the only thing you can do is save yourself before he destroys you even more.

I know you are optimistic and you think that the depth of your love will show this guy the right path but it simply can’t be done.

You hope that eventually he’ll realize how much harm he has been causing both of you and that he’ll finally become the man you deserve him to be.

Sì, l'amore è potente e può spostare le montagne.

But sadly, your love isn’t omnipotent and sometimes, it isn’t enough, as much as you want it to be.

It can’t enlighten the one who prefers to remain in the darkness.

It can’t repair a broken man overnight. It can’t fix his insecurities and it can’t chase away his fears.

So che pensate di amare quest'uomo al punto da fargli desiderare di cambiare a causa vostra. Ma non è così che funzionano le cose.

Because he shouldn’t need to have the desire to change for your sake. He should be the one to make that decision and he should do it for himself.

You are naive if you believe that you’ll succeed in changing the essence of this guy’s personality.

E sapete perché? Perché you can’t change someone until he decides to do it himself, per quanto ci si sforzi di farlo.

You shouldn’t even be trying to do this. After all, he is a grown-ass man and it shouldn’t be your job to teach him life values.

Non è vostra responsabilità occuparvi delle sue stronzate e plasmarlo in una persona migliore.

You are not his mother and you shouldn’t be trying to raise him. You are not his guardian angel and you shouldn’t be the one to lead him through life.

Don’t get me wrong—I am not saying you shouldn’t be supportive. I am not telling you not to give him a hand if he shows the desire to improve himself.

I am not telling you that you shouldn’t believe in him and that you shouldn’t push him forward if he shows initiative to become the man he should be.

Tenete presente che l'uomo con cui avete a che fare in questo momento non è l'uomo di cui avete bisogno, anche se potreste pensare di volerlo al vostro fianco.

He is obviously not relationship material and he isn’t someone who can be your life partner.

È necessario un uomo vero who’ll be mature enough to know what he wants from life. A man who’ll be strong enough to fight his own demons.

And this guy obviously isn’t. And that is his problem—not yours.